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No Perfect Dads, Only Present Ones | 5 Parenting Lessons Every Father Needs | Ep. 104

36 min · 18. maj 2026
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Brotherhood Forged is a Christian men's podcast helping men grow in faith, discipline, and leadership. Nobody handed you a parenting manual. In Episode 104, Joey Koontz and Paul Bengel share the five most important lessons they've learned as fathers — grounded in scripture, lived experience, and the kind of honest conversation men rarely have. From a powerful blacksmith parable about a dad who spent his life shaping iron and never shaping his son, to a breakdown of five practical principles you can apply in your home starting tonight — this episode is for every man who wants to be a present, intentional father. SCRIPTURES REFERENCED: • Deuteronomy 6:6-7 • Proverbs 22:6 BOOKS & AUTHORS MENTIONED: • The Compound Effect — Darren Hardy (darrenhardy.com) • Ryan Holiday (ryanholiday.net) PEOPLE MENTIONED: • Pastor Steven Furtick (stevenfurtick.com) THE 5 PARENTING LESSONS: 1. Presence matters more than perfection 2. Validate your kids' feelings — don't minimize them 3. Ordinary moments build core memories 4. Model the life you want them to live 5. Build identity before performance BROTHERHOOD FORGED COMMUNITY: If you're tired of figuring it out alone, Brotherhood Forged is built for you. Real men, real accountability, real faith. Start with the FREE 7-Day Devotional for Men at bro4ged.com/land or explore everything at bro4ged.com. Questions? Email us at info@brotherhoodforged.com If this episode meant something to you, share it with a fellow dad, rate the show, and leave a review — it helps more men find this content. Watch the full video version on our YouTube channel at Brotherhood Forged. Forge your identity. Lead your family. Reclaim your future.

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