Rising After Divorce | Emotional Healing, Reclaiming, Starting Over, Trusting God

59| How to Fall in Love With Yourself After Divorce Before You Fall in Love With Anyone Else

Have you ever found yourself scrolling through a dating app at midnight — not because you're ready, but because the silence in your house feels too loud? Friend, you're not alone. And in today's episode, we're going to talk about something nobody told you to do after your divorce — fall in love with YOU first. Before the next relationship. Before the next first date. Before anything else. In this episode you will learn: ✅ Why you don't recognize yourself anymore — and how to find your way back ✅ Why being alone doesn't mean something is wrong with you ✅ Why you keep giving love to everyone but yourself — and how to finally stop ✅ Simple things you can start doing THIS WEEK to come home to yourself We also look at what Psalm 139:14 and Matthew 22:39 say about why loving yourself is not selfish — it's actually scriptural. The right love is not going to complete you. The right love is going to find you already whole. And that wholeness starts with you. 🔗 LINKS & RESOURCES MENTIONED:   💛 Join the Healing After Divorce membership — a safe community of women just like you walking this journey together. 👉 Instagram http://relaltionshipcoach4women [http://relaltionshipcoach4women] 📲 Come find me on Instagram — send me a DM and tell me your biggest takeaway from today's episode. I read every single one. 👉 Follow me on Instagram: @relationshipcoach4women   💬 DID THIS EPISODE SPEAK TO YOUR HEART? Share it with a friend who needs to hear it today. And if you're ready to go deeper, come join us inside the Healing After Divorce membership. You don't have to do this alone. Rising After Divorce for Christian Women Over 40 is a faith-based podcast to help you heal, rediscover yourself, and step into the woman God created you to be — after divorce.

58| Stop Dating From Your Wounds — How to Open Your Heart to Love After Divorce the Right Way

Have you noticed you keep picking the same kind of man... and getting hurt the same way? In this episode, we talk about the difference between dating from a wound and dating from a healed heart — and why most women don't even realize they're doing it. You'll learn: * Why you keep choosing unavailable men (and how the abandonment wound drives it) * Why you hide your true self on dates (and how the rejection wound drives it) * How to fill yourself first, so you date from want — not need * One Bible verse to help you see your own heart clearly If you're tired of opening your heart, getting hurt, and closing it again — this episode is for you. Healing comes first. Love that lasts comes after. 🎙️ Listen now and start dating from a healed heart, not a wound. 💛 Want support walking this out, not just hearing about it? Join Dating After Divorce — text RISE to get started.   Instagram http://relaltionshipcoach4women [http://relaltionshipcoach4women] 📲 Come find me on Instagram — send me a DM and tell me your biggest takeaway from today's episode. I read every single one. You are not starting over. You are starting better. And you don't have to do it alone. 💛   Grab my FREE guide to help you Heal Your Heart After Divorce https://pattymartinlifecoach.kit.com/6207d50f76 [https://pattymartinlifecoach.kit.com/6207d50f76]

57| I Lost Myself Being His Wife: The Road Back to Being You

Have you ever looked in the mirror after your divorce and not recognized the woman looking back at you? Not because of how you look — but because somewhere along the way, you stopped knowing what you liked, what you wanted, and who you even were. In this episode, we are talking about something most women are afraid to say out loud: I lost myself being his wife. And we are going to walk through why it happens, what it costs you, and — most importantly — how to find your way back to being you. This is not about blaming your marriage. This is about reclaiming what God always intended you to keep: yourself.   Ready to go deeper? 💛 Join the Dating After Divorce membership — a safe community of women just like you walking this journey together. 👉 Instagram http://relaltionshipcoach4women [http://relaltionshipcoach4women] 📲 Come find me on Instagram — send me a DM and tell me your biggest takeaway from today's episode. I read every single one. You are not starting over. You are starting better. And you don't have to do it alone. 💛   Grab my FREE guide to help you Heal Your Heart After Divorce https://pattymartinlifecoach.kit.com/6207d50f76 [https://pattymartinlifecoach.kit.com/6207d50f76]

56| Here Is Why You Give More Than You Need To

Have you ever said yes when everything inside you wanted to say no? Do you ever feel resentful after giving so much — and then feel guilty for feeling that way? What if the reason you over-give has nothing to do with generosity — and everything to do with a wound you haven't healed yet? Ready to go deeper? 💛 Join the Dating After Divorce membership — a safe community of women just like you walking this journey together. 👉 Instagram http://relaltionshipcoach4women [http://relaltionshipcoach4women] 📲 Come find me on Instagram — send me a DM and tell me your biggest takeaway from today's episode. I read every single one. You are not starting over. You are starting better. And you don't have to do it alone. 💛   Grab my FREE guide to help you Heal Your Heart After Divorce https://pattymartinlifecoach.kit.com/6207d50f76 [https://pattymartinlifecoach.kit.com/6207d50f76]

55| Stop Pretending You Are Fine — The Real Truth About Emotional Recovery After Divorce

You keep saying you're fine. But late at night, when it's quiet... you know you're not. This episode is for the woman who has been holding it together for everyone else — and quietly falling apart alone. It's time to stop pretending. Real healing starts here. * Are you tired of saying "I'm fine" when you are anything but? * Have you been staying busy just so you don't have to feel it? * Do you feel like you should be "over it" by now — but you're not? * What if the breakdown you've been avoiding is actually the breakthrough you've been waiting for? * Are you healing — or are you just surviving? 🎙️ In this episode you will discover: * Why saying "I'm fine" is keeping you emotionally stuck after divorce * The one grief step most women skip — and why it makes everything harder * How comparing your healing timeline to others is a lie rooted in shame * What real emotional recovery actually looks like for a Christian woman over 40 * The simple shift that moves you from performing recovery to actually living it   * The mask of "I'm fine" is a protection tool — but it becomes a prison * Grief is not weakness. It is love with nowhere to go * Your healing does not have a deadline — growth matters more than speed * "The Lord is close to the brokenhearted." — Psalm 34:18  Resources and Links Mentioned * 📖 Scripture: Psalm 34:18 — "The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit." * 💻 Work with Patty: pattymartinlifecoach.com [http://pattymartinlifecoach.com] * 🎙️ Join the Membership — Rebuild After Divorce: (add your link) * 📲 DM Patty the word RISE on Instagram for more healing resources → @pattymartinlifecoach  Connecting + Next Steps Loved this episode? You will also love these: * 🎧 "Why You're Not Over Your Divorce Yet — And What to Do About It" * 🎧 "When God Feels Silent After Divorce" * 🎧 "How to Stop Living in Survival Mode After Divorce" Your next step: If this episode hit home, don't just listen — take one action today. Pick one person you trust and tell them the truth about how you really are. That one moment of honesty can change everything. Ready to go deeper? 💛 Join the Dating After Divorce membership — a safe community of women just like you walking this journey together. 👉 Instagram http://relaltionshipcoach4women [http://relaltionshipcoach4women] 📲 Come find me on Instagram — send me a DM and tell me your biggest takeaway from today's episode. I read every single one. You are not starting over. You are starting better. And you don't have to do it alone. 💛   Grab my FREE guide to help you Heal Your Heart After Divorce https://pattymartinlifecoach.kit.com/6207d50f76 [https://pattymartinlifecoach.kit.com/6207d50f76] Resources https://pattymartinlifecoach.kit.com/6207d50f76Freebie landing page   [https://pattymartinlifecoach.kit.com/6207d50f76]   Next Steps: Step 1: Join a supportive community of Divorced Christian Women over 40 at the free Facebook group    https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61586012813361 [https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61586012813361]   Step 2: Sign up for the weekly NAME OF NEWSLETTER at https://pattymartinlifecoach.kit.com/47c6755225 [https://pattymartinlifecoach.kit.com/47c6755225]   Step 3: Get more personalized support with my Healing After Divorce Membership. DM me via Instagram for more details. Instagram http://relaltionshipcoach4women [http://relaltionshipcoach4women]