Why everything that broke in your marriage was not about you

You're going to lose more than your marriage (if you don't raise your hand)

Continuing to do a fantastic performance at work can convince and mislead you into believing you're doing a great job after the divorce (you're not). In this podcast episode of Divorcing With Sanity, Yan talks about why doing less is the secret to protecting and keeping the next most important thing to you after losing your marriage - your job.

Was it all for nothing? What to make of all those years spent in a marriage that failed

You moved across the world, gave 20 years to the marriage and built a life that has now fallen apart. Every night you ask: was it all for nothing? In this episode, Yan offers a different way to read your story, and how this unlikely moment is the best raw material you have to upcycle into the best creation of your life.

Making sense of the mess your divorce left behind

It may feel like you're completely destroyed from the divorce. The secret nobody tells you is - your life is already changing for the better, even if it doesn't feel like it. In this podcast episode, Yan talks about why breaking down is not the same as being destroyed, and why the mess you're in right now might be exactly where you need to be.

The weight of keeping the divorce a secret: Testimonial from an expat teacher

When she was going through her divorce, my client R didn't tell a single person at work. It wasn't because she was coping with flying colours - it was because in her tight-knit expat community, she (felt like) she couldn't afford to. This podcast episode is about what it costs you to "be fine" every day while secretly falling apart, and how R broke through that wall to find herself again.

Why the right decision to divorce can feel so painful

The marriage hurt you and your children, and you made the brave and very right decision to leave. So why does it still hurt this much? This episode talks about the pain that doesn't disappear just because you did the right thing - and offers 3 honest, practical ways to carry the pain without letting it take your life away.