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Parental Burnout Signs: Why You Feel Angry, Exhausted & Overwhelmed | Dr. Claire Plumbly

56 min · 19. maj 2026
episode Parental Burnout Signs: Why You Feel Angry, Exhausted & Overwhelmed | Dr. Claire Plumbly cover

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Burnout is more than feeling tired. For many parents, it can look like snapping at their children, feeling emotionally numb, struggling to make decisions, doomscrolling, overshopping, or moving through the day on autopilot.   In this episode of Family Dialogues, Dr. Claire Plumbly, registered clinical psychologist, trauma expert, EMDR consultant, and author of Burnout: How to Manage Your Nervous System Before It Manages You, explains how chronic stress affects the nervous system and why so many modern parents feel overwhelmed. Dr. Plumbly breaks down the key signs of parental burnout. She also explains the difference between normal stress, chronic stress, and toxic stress, and how unmanaged stress can push parents into survival mode.  This conversation explores the hidden risk factors that contribute to burnout. Dr. Plumbly also shares practical tools for nervous system regulation. Whether you are a working mother, overwhelmed parent, or caregiver feeling stretched thin, this episode offers compassionate, practical guidance to help you recognize burnout, protect your mental health, and rebuild patience, connection, and emotional balance at home. MENTIONED RESOURCES & PROGRAMS * Dr. Claire Plumbly’s book: [https://www.amazon.com/Trauma-Burnout-Manage-Nervous-Manages/dp/0306836319/ref=sr_1_1?crid=QX4OP7BDESVK&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.UGS1tCP660BxR5Y_GSnxpYaia9CWQBqJjEPdWMesVOPGjHj071QN20LucGBJIEps.K_usjS4p52plhSuVIxOiDOSKVrvbseoGMGb5U76RJHM&dib_tag=se&keywords=claire+plumbly&qid=1779000354&sprefix=claire+plumbly%2Caps%2C285&sr=8-1]  [https://www.amazon.com/Trauma-Burnout-Manage-Nervous-Manages/dp/0306836319/ref=sr_1_1?crid=QX4OP7BDESVK&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.UGS1tCP660BxR5Y_GSnxpYaia9CWQBqJjEPdWMesVOPGjHj071QN20LucGBJIEps.K_usjS4p52plhSuVIxOiDOSKVrvbseoGMGb5U76RJHM&dib_tag=se&keywords=claire+plumbly&qid=1779000354&sprefix=claire+plumbly%2Caps%2C285&sr=8-1]Burnout: How to Manage Your Nervous System Before It Manages You [https://www.amazon.com/Trauma-Burnout-Manage-Nervous-Manages/dp/0306836319/ref=sr_1_1?crid=QX4OP7BDESVK&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.UGS1tCP660BxR5Y_GSnxpYaia9CWQBqJjEPdWMesVOPGjHj071QN20LucGBJIEps.K_usjS4p52plhSuVIxOiDOSKVrvbseoGMGb5U76RJHM&dib_tag=se&keywords=claire+plumbly&qid=1779000354&sprefix=claire+plumbly%2Caps%2C285&sr=8-1] * Plum Psychology [https://www.plum-psychology.com/] * Instagram: [https://www.instagram.com/drclaireplumbly/] Dr. Claire Plumbly [https://www.instagram.com/drclaireplumbly/] * Facebook: [https://www.facebook.com/DrClairePlumbly] Dr. Claire Plumbly [https://www.facebook.com/DrClairePlumbly] * TikTok: [https://www.tiktok.com/@drclaireplumbly?lang=en] Dr. Claire Plumbly [https://www.tiktok.com/@drclaireplumbly?lang=en] Podcast feedback: info@tanieshaburke.com

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