Just The WHO Of Us

Men's Group- with Matthew Melvin

In honor of men's health month, we are joined this week by Matthew Melvin. Societal Expectations and Emotional Suppression in Men Matt and Reah discuss how societal norms teach men to suppress emotions, with phrases like 'suck it up, buttercup' being common. Matt emphasizes that men are taught not to cry or show vulnerability, which he believes is harmful. Reah reflects on her own parenting, noting that she taught her oldest son to suppress emotions due to her own unhealed trauma and societal norms prevalent in the early 2000s. Both Matt and Reah agree that while there is some progress in allowing men to express emotions, these changes are slow and often limited to intentional, therapeutic settings. The lack of emotional openness in broader society and men's groups perpetuates isolation and hinders mental health. Challenges with Church and Recovery-Based Groups Matt and Reah explore the challenges of finding inclusive groups within church and recovery settings. Matt notes that he has not found connection in church groups and that most of his group experiences have been online. Both agree that most church groups are not inclusive, particularly for LGBTQ+ individuals, leading Matt to leave several churches. They discuss further the misconception that church groups are inherently inclusive and emphasizes that one does not need to attend a church building to worship. The conversation also touches on the contradictions and lack of confidentiality in some church-based groups, further alienating those seeking genuine connection. Matt described the political and demographic divides he has encountered in men's groups. He identifies as politically centrist, but found that many groups are either very left-leaning (often due to therapy referrals) or right-leaning (focusing on sports and emotional suppression) and often break their own rules by discussing politics and religion, further alienating those who do not fit the dominant demographic or ideological mold. Confidentiality and Trust Issues in Men's Groups Matt expresses significant concerns about confidentiality in men's groups, particularly when meetings are recorded. He notes that in his current group, he is the only single man, and the rest are married or divorced with children, making it difficult for him to relate. The recording of every call makes him hesitant to share personal information, as he is unsure where the recordings go. He emphasizes that for a men's group to be successful, there must be 100% confidentiality, and that relationships within the group should not extend outside to prevent imbalances and conflicts. These issues contribute to his distrust and discomfort in existing groups. Mental Health and the Importance of Support Groups This conversation emphasizes the importance of support groups for mental health, especially for men. Matt urges men not to rely solely on their partners for emotional support and encouraged participation in men's groups. He stresses the need for vulnerability, authenticity, and willingness to change. Both speakers highlight the dangers of isolation and the importance of reaching out, especially for those experiencing suicidal thoughts. This discussion reinforces that men need supportive communities to foster mental well-being and that inclusivity and confidentiality are key to effective support groups. You can find Matt on IG-Bulliedbehindbars, X- Barsbullied, and Facebook- Matthew.Melvin.5621. Follow Reah at https://www.Falolity.net [https://www.Falolity.net]and on YouTube at https://www.YouTube.com/@reahhagues. #mentalhealth, #falolityllc, #podcast, #LongFormConversation, #PodcastStyle, #UnfilteredVoices, #StoriesThatMatter, #DialoguesThatHeal, #Falolityllc, #authorcentral, #lifeexperiences, #authorjourney, #mensgroups, #socialgroupss

Power In Obstacles (with Shannon Donohoe-Simpson)

JOIN SHANNON JUNE 21st for a virtual summer solstice event, using this link: https://www.facebook.com/share/1EBT7CFz1g/?mibextid=wwXIfrJUNE 25th brings a FREE one-hour workshop called: Brave Enough to Be Yourself as well as Toolbox Tuesdays, EVER TUESDAY, live on Facebook. This week, we introduce Shannon Donohoe-Simpson: an amazing survivor who has spent her life learning how to overcome obstacles, persist through struggles, and empower others through her own strength and triumphs. In today's episode Shannon shares deeply personal stories of overcoming significant life challenges, including childhood trauma, breast cancer, divorce, and parenting. Shannon describes surviving childhood abuse, breast cancer, and supporting her family through autism diagnosis. She emphasizes that these experiences shaped her rather than defined her as a failure. A major theme this week is the healing power of sharing personal stories, especially regarding trauma such as sexual abuse and illness. Shannon recounts her first cancer retreat in 2009, where she realized the importance of addressing underlying emotional wounds. She openly discusses her own childhood sexual abuse and the cultural pressure to remain silent. Reah echoes this, sharing her own experience of childhood assault and the generational silence around such topics. Shannon shares a compelling story about developing severe foot pain before a major hike, which was resolved after releasing pent-up resentment and emotions during a therapy session. She references Gabor Maté’s work on the mind-body connection, explaining that unexpressed emotions can manifest as physical ailments. Her daily practice of dancing is described as a form of emotional release and self-care, which she likens to medicine. Reah refers this to her own parenting, using the "I See You letter" to help her son process anger and emotional pain. Both agree that moving emotions out of the body—whether through dance, conversation, or other practices—is crucial for well-being, and that many adults and children unknowingly store unresolved emotions physically.Shannon discusses her journey into public speaking, including her TEDx talk, which was her first major speaking engagement. She describes the process of applying, preparing, and the support she received from coaches. The conversation covers the importance of believing in oneself and seizing opportunities, even when they seem daunting. Shannon also mentions her ongoing Toolbox Tuesday series, now at 200 episodes, and upcoming events such as an online workshop titled "Brave Enough to Be Yourself." The meeting concludes with a discussion about magazine feature opportunities, including the financial considerations and logistics of print versus digital publication. Both women express excitement about future collaborations and the importance of supporting each other’s professional growth. To learn more about Shannon, attend events, watch her speak, and more, visit: Healing through art after breast cancer - The Collective Magazines andTHE GIFT OF FAILURE:DISCOMFORT SHAPES SUCCESS | Shannon Donohoe-Simpson | TEDxBrentwoodCollegeSchoolLearn more about Reah at https://www.Falolity.net, Reah Hagues (@falolity_llc) • Instagram photos and videos, Falolity | Salisbury NC | Facebook, TikTok - Make Your Day or email her at Reahdr@falolity.net!#healing, #innerwork, #startingwithin, #cancerfree, #cancersurvivor, #bodyart, #healingart, #publicspeakers, #publicspeaking, #shareyourjourney, #healingtime, #conversations, #podcasting, #falolityllc, #reahhagues, #shannondonohoesimpson, #womeninpodcasting

Dr. Eleanor Haspel-Portner

Dr. Eleanor Haspel-Portner's Background and Early Influences Dr. Haspel-Portner describes her early experiences with seeing auras and being sensitive to how people treated each other. She grew up as the youngest of five siblings, with significant age gaps, and faced challenges such as a difficult relationship with her brother and the loss of her father at age 15. Her mother was supportive in some ways, advocating for her in school, but less so in others. Her older sister Sandra was a major influence, introducing her to Jung and psychology. Dr. Haspel-Portner pursued higher education at the University of Chicago, influenced by her sister, and was drawn to psychology, feeling it was her calling. She emphasized the importance of credibility, aiming for a PhD to be taken seriously, especially given her interest in topics often dismissed as 'woo.' Development and Critique of Human Design and Noble Energy Maps Dr. Haspel-Portner discusses her work with Human Design, which she critiqued as incomplete and disempowering because it focuses only on the mental world. She developed the Noble Energy Maps, based on statistical analysis of 45,000 cases, integrating astrology, the Tree of Life, developmental psychology, and esoteric theory. She emphasizes that humans live in four worlds: mental, emotional/angelic, spiritual, and physical. She argues that traditional psychology addresses only 25% of human experience (the mental world), neglecting the other dimensions. Her Noble Energy Maps aim to empower individuals by recognizing their multi-dimensional consciousness and unique energy sensitivities, starting from infancy. Individuality and Uniqueness in Development and Education Dr. Haspel-Portner stresses that every individual is unique, as evidenced by her experience with thousands of Noble Energy Maps—no two charts are the same. She advocates for treating each child or client as an individual, adapting communication and educational approaches accordingly. She shares personal examples of moving her children between schools until they found the right fit, prioritizing their feedback over convenience. Both speakers discuss the importance of not imposing a mold on children and recognizing differences even among siblings or twins. This approach, they agree, fosters self-esteem, empowerment, and authentic self-expression. Therapeutic Practice and Service Orientation Dr. Haspel-Portner describes her therapeutic approach as entirely client-centered, focusing on the needs, desires, and state of being of the person she is serving. She emphasizes that therapy is not about the clinician's opinions or feelings but about empowering the client to discover and express their own needs. She warns against projecting one's own emotions or judgments onto clients or children, advocating for deep listening and attunement. This service orientation extends to all helping professions, where the goal should be to serve the unique needs of each individual rather than imposing preconceived solutions. Resources and Upcoming Events Dr. Haspel-Portner provides information about her website, noblesciences.com, where listeners can access a free Four Worlds Assessment. She also announces an upcoming master class on the Four Worlds, scheduled for June 18th, lasting approximately four hours. Interested individuals can email her to be added to the notification list. Learn more about Dr. Eleanor Haspel-Portner at https://www.nobleenergywellness.com [https://www.nobleenergywellness.com]. Learn more about Reah and connect at https://www.Falolity.net [https://www.Falolity.net] and watch full videos at https://www.YouTube.com/@reahhagues [https://www.YouTube.com/@reahhagues] #PodcastLife, #PodcastCommunity, #PodcastHost, #PodcastCreators, #AuthorLife, #WritersCommunity, #FourWorlds, #falolityllc, #reahhagues, #dreleanorhaspelportner, #energy, #energyfields, #insight, #educational, #mentalhealth, #physicalhealth, #spiritualhealth, #emotionalhealth, #findingpurpose, #parenting, #parentingjourney, #holistichealth, #holisticparenting, #PurposeDrivenLife

Wild Adventures with Ingrid

Transitioning Life Stages and Identity Beyond Parenting This week's conversation explores the experience of moving from active parenting to a new phase of life as children grow older or leave home. Both women reflect on the challenges and opportunities that come with this shift, such as redefining personal identity beyond roles like parent, spouse, or caretaker. Ingrid shares her own journey after her children were grown, including getting tattoos and learning to ride a motorcycle at age 56, as acts of reclaiming personal freedom and self-discovery. Reah discusses the adjustment to having fewer children at home and the sense of unfamiliarity and even guilt that can come with newfound free time. Both emphasize the importance of taking time for oneself, pursuing personal interests, and not falling into the trap of always caring for others at the expense of self. The discussion also touches on the spiritual and practical aspects of this transition, especially for women, and the need to find fulfillment and joy in activities outside of traditional caregiving roles. Writing, Creativity, and the Value of Sharing Personal Stories A significant portion of the discussion focuses on the process and value of writing, particularly memoirs and autobiographies. Both speakers are authors and share their experiences with writing and publishing. Reah describes her ongoing work on a memoir about turning 40, the challenges of restructuring the book, and the emotional benefits of writing, such as gaining clarity and processing relationships. Ingrid emphasizes that writing truthfully can open doors for readers to reflect on their own lives, even if the writing does not reach a wide audience. They discuss the impact that books can have on individuals, citing examples of books that changed their perspectives or lives. The conversation highlightes the importance of writing for oneself as well as for others, the therapeutic aspects of the creative process, and the ripple effect that sharing personal stories can have, even if it only helps one person. Both encourage others to write, regardless of commercial success, and reflected on the importance of being proud of creative work. Women’s Visibility, Wisdom, and Intergenerational Dialogue The speakers explore the theme of women’s visibility and the importance of honoring women’s identities and contributions. Ingrid recountes a formative childhood experience reading about Osa Johnson, whose name was omitted in a newspaper article, sparking a lifelong commitment to ensuring women are recognized for their achievements. This leads to a discussion about the tendency for women, especially as they age, to feel invisible or overlooked. Ingrid, who identifies as an elder and 'irreverent wise woman,' stresses the value of older women sharing their wisdom and experiences, both online and in person. She describes how her tattoos often spark conversations with younger people, creating opportunities for intergenerational exchange. Both speakers agree on the importance of women owning their stories, being proud of their accomplishments, and resisting societal pressures to diminish themselves. The conversation also touches on the need for women to support each other and to find pride in their creative and personal achievements. Get to know Ingrid at ⁠https://www.ingridkincaid.com/⁠.  Learn more about Reah at ⁠https://www.Falolity.net⁠ and watch additional reels at ⁠https://www.YouTube.com/@reahhagues. ⁠ #PodcastLife, #PodcastCommunity, #PodcastHost, #Podcasting, #Storytelling, #Authorship, #falolityllc, #reahhagues, #ingridkincaid, #womenofthealways, #womenauthors, #femaleauthors, #storytelling, #promotionaltools, #selfpromotion #experiencedwriters, #writingjourney

Dr. Danielle Griffin

In today's episode we are joined by Dr. Danielle Griffin who shares her personal journey of dealing with stress, grief, and health issues, which led her to discover somatic exercise therapy and hypnotherapy as transformative approaches. Through these practices, she was able to improve her physical and mental well-being, allowing her to better manage her health and set realistic goals. Inspired by her recovery, Danielle expresses her desire to share these practices with others, particularly those in her immediate circle, to help improve their lives as well.Dr. Danielle and Reah discuss how somatic practices can be performed comfortably at home without physical barriers, emphasizing that mindset is the main obstacle. They deeper discuss how she combines somatic practices with hypnotherapy to help clients overcome mental barriers and create sustainable habits adding that taking small steps, like going to the gym, can be part of a larger transformation process.The pair additionally discuss how fears, including those related to childhood trauma and external beliefs, can hold people back from personal growth and success. Reah shares her journey of discovering the impact of these fears through education about brain function and self-reflection. Dr. Danielle emphasizes the importance of looking inward to identify and address personal limitations, using her own relationship experiences as an example of how self-reflection led to positive changes. They dive into a broader understanding of grief, explaining that it can stem from various life changes beyond just death, such as job loss or relationship changes while highlighting how relationship loss and gradual relationship changes can also cause grief. Both participants share personal experiences with grief, emphasizing its impact on daily life and mood. The discussion also focuses on the importance of individual work and therapy in relationships, with Reah emphasizing the role of accountability and external support through therapy. Reah shares personal experiences of processing multiple types of loss over the past three years, including relationship, familial, and financial losses, highlighting how grief can impact individuals. Also, touching on the importance of ending unhealthy relationships and the benefits of somatic work in managing grief and stress. They lastly explore how physical awareness and healthy coping mechanisms, such as exercise and meditation, can help alleviate emotional and physical pain.Visit Dr. Danielle's website to experience the wide range of wellness offerings it provides, from general wellness to managing emotions and their impact on overall well-being at http://www.drdaniellegriff.com/.Learn more about Reah at https://www.Falolity.net, https://www.facebook.com/FalolityLLC, & https://www.instagram.com/justthewhopodcast/ as well as https://www.instagram.com/falolity_llc/.#podcasting, #podcastlife, #falolityllc, #justthewhoofuspodcast, #selfimprovement, #wellness, #holisticwellness, #holistichealth, #womenshealth, #menhealth, #mentalhealth, #drdaniellegriffin, #psychology, #healthandwellness, #holisticcounseling