Dr. Eleanor Haspel-Portner

Following up (with Tina Feigal)

In today's episode, Reah shares an update about an "I See You" letter she had written and delivered to her son. Reah describes the emotional response she received, noting that her son was initially silent but later expressed gratitude and appreciation through a life-changing experience for both Reah and Noah. Tina and Reah go on to discuss their personal experiences with trauma and how they transformed those experiences into their coaching practices. Tina shares her journey from a traumatic childhood to becoming a parent coach, while Reah described her path from trauma to helping others through coaching. They both emphasize the importance of using their personal experiences to connect with and help their clients. Reah discusses her personal experiences with alcohol and smoking, highlighting how generational patterns can influence behavior. She emphasizes the importance of gaining knowledge and taking responsibility for oneself to break these patterns, especially in the context of parenting. They discuss how avoiding passing on such habits to children is a strong motivator for personal change and the nature of addiction, emphasizing that it often serves as an escape from overwhelming pain and trauma. They explore how addiction can be an adaptive coping mechanism in the face of adversity. Reah shares how she questioned why her father chose addiction over family but later understood how underlying trauma likely contributed to his behavior. They conclude by emphasizing the importance of asking "what happened to you" rather than "what's wrong with you," and Reah notes the value of her son's ability to articulate his feelings of anger as a starting point for understanding and addressing his experiences. They further discuss the complex emotions and factors that contribute to anger in individuals who have experienced trauma, such as sexual assault and parental abandonment. They explor how anger can be a protective mechanism, or "sadness's bodyguard," and how children often internalize blame for their parents' failures. Reah shares her approach to helping her son understand his birth mother's situation by emphasizing that it was not his fault and that God had a plan for him. The pair discusses the challenges of parenting children with different needs and personalities, particularly focusing on Reah's experience with her son who has ADHD. Tina shares insights about auditory processing deficits in children with ADHD and suggested using visual aids and written communication to help them process information. They also discuss the importance of involving children in decision-making processes to develop their prefrontal cortex and promote respectful communication. You can find Tina at https://www.howdoiparentthischild.com [https://www.howdoiparentthischild.com] and email her at tina@howdoiparentthischild.com! [tina@howdoiparentthischild.com] Learn more about Reah at https://www.Falolity.net, Reah Hagues (@falolity_llc) • Instagram photos and videos [https://www.instagram.com/falolity_llc/], Falolity | Salisbury NC | Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/FalolityLLC/], TikTok - Make Your Day [https://www.tiktok.com/@reahhagues] or email her at Reahdr@falolity.net!   #parenting, #parentingdivergency, #ADHD, #parentingcoach, #reahhagues, #tinafiegal, #traumaresponses, #traumahealing, #generationaltrauma, #falolityllc

DR. Tick

The Significance of Aging and Life Transitions This week, we welcome Dr. Edward Tick to explore the personal and psychological significance of turning 40 and 75, referencing Carl Jung's view that 40 is a pivotal age marking a shift from focusing on the future to reflecting on the past. Dr. Tick and Reah share personal experiences as Reah is writing a memoir about turning 40, noting how her perspective and priorities shifted after the milestone, leading her to restructure her book; as Dr. Tick, having just turned 75, reflects on his lifelong spiritual quest and the integration of his work. The discussion highlights the ongoing potential for growth, learning, and self-discovery at any age, and the importance of embracing change and wisdom gained through life transitions. Self-Reflection, Support, and the Role of Others in Personal Growth The speakers discuss the importance of self-reflection and the challenges of self-judgment. Both speakers express appreciation for meaningful conversations that transcend everyday interactions. Dr. Tick explains the ancient practice of pilgrimage as a journey from the familiar to a sacred site for spiritual or personal transformation. He has led about 25 pilgrimages to Greece and 19 to Vietnam since 1995, focusing on deep immersion in local cultures and intentional preparation. In Vietnam, he brings veterans, their families, and others for healing from war-related trauma, noting that participants often experience more healing in a few weeks than in decades of therapy. Pilgrimage is described as a form of immersion or exposure therapy, providing direct experiences and communal support that traditional therapy cannot replicate. In Greece, Ed incorporates ancient healing traditions, such as dream incubation, to facilitate psycho-spiritual breakthroughs. Healing Traditions Ancient Greece and Vietnam Dr. Tick details how his pilgrimages to Greece and Vietnam use local spiritual and healing traditions. In Greece, he teaches about the original meanings of psychology and psychiatry, rooted in soul healing, and practices dream incubation, a method for provoking transformative 'big dreams.' In Vietnam, the focus is on reconciliation and healing for veterans, facilitated by the welcoming attitude of the Vietnamese people. He additionally shares stories of veterans who, after returning to Vietnam, experienced profound healing and even began leading their own journeys. The communal, spiritual, and cross-cultural aspects of these pilgrimages are emphasized as key to their effectiveness, often achieving results that conventional therapy cannot. Overcoming Judgment, Projections, and Moral Injury The discussion addresses how negative judgments and expectations of others are often projections of self-judgment. Dr. Tick recounts stories from pilgrimages where veterans feared being judged or rejected by Vietnamese or Greek people, only to be met with acceptance, understanding, and even celebration. In Greece, American veterans were embraced by Greek veterans, who emphasized that the real wound was not combat but the lack of support upon returning home. These experiences help participants realize that much of their anguish is self-imposed, and that direct, honest encounters with others can dissolve these projections and foster healing. Dr. Tick also shares the personal and historical motivations behind his pilgrimage work. Learn more about Dr. Edward Tick via Edward Tick - [https://www.edwardtick.com/] and on Facebook at https://www.facebook.com/EdwardTickAuthor [https://www.facebook.com/EdwardTickAuthor]. Learn more about Reah at https://www.Falolity.net, Reah Hagues (@falolity_llc) • Instagram photos and videos [https://www.instagram.com/falolity_llc/], Falolity | Salisbury NC | Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/FalolityLLC/], TikTok - Make Your Day [https://www.tiktok.com/@reahhagues] or email her at Reahdr@falolity.net! [Reahdr@falolity.net!] #authors, #authorcentral, #celebratelife, #audiencecapture, #leadership, #leadingmen, #podcasting, #reahhagues, #dredtick, #soulmedicine, #soulhealing, #selfdiscovery, #soulcleansing

Friending with Gabor

This week, we welcome Gabor who shares his Hungarian background and moving to the UK at a young age due to his father's job transfer. He grew up in the UK, attended school and university there, and later moved to Canada for five years before settling in the United States in the mid-90s. Gabor has lived in various parts of California for the past 30 years, except for the last year when he lived in both Northern and Southern California. He holds a degree in computer science and has worked on video game development projects, including consulting for the Canadian government. Gabor and Reah discuss the development of the Friending app, which aims to help people make real-world friendships by connecting them with others in their area for in-person meetings. The Friending app differs from dating apps by encouraging offline interactions and has a unique feature where users must be physically present to confirm a friendship. The two discuss safety, verification, and identification to ensure user safety. Gabor discusses the importance of verifying users' identities through personal meetings and a safety feature that involves tapping the screen three times to summon help from the police, a designated friend, or nearby app users. He emphasizes the absence of fake profiles on the app, which helps prevent emotional disappointment and builds trust among users. Gabor testifies that while the app might grow more slowly without bots and fake profiles, the long-term success of the app relies on users understanding its safety and authenticity. Gabor and Reah discuss plans for launching an app focused on building community and friendship, including unique features like QR codes on coffee packaging that users can scan to receive personalized messages. Gabor outlined three revenue streams: selling coffee, friendship charms representing states, and partnering with speed-friending organizers to provide QR code entry tickets at a lower cost than current platforms. Gabor emphasizes the importance of building a community around the app and encouraged users to download it without registration. The social networking app "Friending" allows users to register with a special speed friending profile, offering one month of free access for each event attended. The app will eventually charge $5 monthly or $50 annually, with plans to offer free access to users below a certain income level pending verification. The "Friending" beta version is currently available on iOS, with the 1.0 version expected by December 2026/January 2027. Learn more about Friending at From Loneliness to Real-Life Connection [https://friending.com/from-loneliness-to-real-life-connection-how-gabor-kadas-built-friending/]! Learn more about Reah at https://www.Falolity.net, Reah Hagues (@falolity_llc) • Instagram photos and videos [https://www.instagram.com/falolity_llc/], Falolity | Salisbury NC | Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/FalolityLLC/], TikTok - Make Your Day [https://www.tiktok.com/@reahhagues] or email her at Reahdr@falolity.net! [Reahdr@falolity.net!] #FalolityLLC, #ReahHagues, #Falolity, #AppDevelopment, #AppCreator, #StartupLife, #TechEntrepreneur, #MobileApp, #AppDesign, #UXDesign, #UIDesign, #ProductDevelopment, #StartupJourney, #BuildInPublic, #FounderLife, #CreativeEntrepreneur, #DigitalInnovation, #TechForGood, #SocialConnection, #FriendshipApp, #MakeNewFriends, #CommunityBuilding, #ConnectionMatters, #SocialWellness, #HumanConnection, #NetworkingApp, #FindYourCircle, #InclusiveSpaces, #ModernFriendships, #PurposeDriven

Intelligent Discernment with Ingrid

WARNING: BRIEF REFERENCE PF OPINION RELATED TO PERSONAL EXPERIENCE ON THE TOPIC OF ABORTION TOWARD THE END OF THE EPISODE (THIS OCCURS DURING MINUTES 30-34 IF YOU PREFER TO SKIP THIS PORTION). What happens when we stop treating AI as an authority and start using it as a conversation partner? In this thought-provoking episode, Ingrid and Reah explore their real-world experiences with today's most popular AI tools. They compare the strengths and limitations of each platform, discussing everything from writing assistance and image creation to factual accuracy, bias, and the importance of cross-checking information. The conversation goes far beyond technology, examining the role of discernment in an age of information overload. Drawing parallels between AI, internet searches, and even traditional encyclopedias, they challenge the assumption that any source is truly objective. Together, they unpack how personal experiences, culture, upbringing, and algorithms shape the way we interpret information—and why maintaining curiosity and critical thinking matters more than ever. Ingrid also shares the fascinating story behind a new symbol emerging within her work. Inspired by an AI-generated suggestion and deeply connected to her rune practice, the simple vertical line of the Isa rune became a powerful representation of depth, foundation, rootedness, and possibility. The discussion highlights how minimalism, symbolism, and thoughtful design can communicate profound meaning, echoing the influence of artists and creators who understand the power of simplicity. Throughout the episode, Reah and Ingrid reflect on generational perspectives toward AI, environmental concerns surrounding emerging technologies, the risks of echo chambers, and the value of holding space for multiple viewpoints without becoming trapped in certainty. This is a conversation about technology, yes—but even more so about wisdom, self-awareness, and learning how to navigate an increasingly complex world with openness, humility, and discernment. In this episode: * Comparing Claude, ChatGPT, Grok, and Copilot * The benefits and risks of AI-generated information * Why discernment matters more than ever * Bias, algorithms, and the illusion of objectivity * The evolution from encyclopedias to AI-assisted discovery * The story behind Ingrid's Isa rune-inspired symbol * Minimalism, branding, and meaningful visual identity * Generational attitudes toward AI and technology * Cultivating curiosity, critical thinking, and intellectual humility Get to know Ingrid at ⁠https://www.ingridkincaid.com/⁠. Learn more about Reah at Falolity.net [https://www.Falolity.net], Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/falolity_llc/], Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/FalolityLLC/], TikTok [https://www.tiktok.com/@reahhagues] or email her at Reahdr@falolity.net! ⁠ #PodcastLife, #PodcastCommunity, #PodcastHost, #Podcasting, #Storytelling, #Authorship, #falolityllc, #reahhagues, #ingridkincaid, #womenofthealways, #womenauthors, #femaleauthors, #storytelling, #promotionaltools, #artificialintelligence #AI, #aiuse

Men's Group- with Matthew Melvin

In honor of men's health month, we are joined this week by Matthew Melvin. Societal Expectations and Emotional Suppression in Men Matt and Reah discuss how societal norms teach men to suppress emotions, with phrases like 'suck it up, buttercup' being common. Matt emphasizes that men are taught not to cry or show vulnerability, which he believes is harmful. Reah reflects on her own parenting, noting that she taught her oldest son to suppress emotions due to her own unhealed trauma and societal norms prevalent in the early 2000s. Both Matt and Reah agree that while there is some progress in allowing men to express emotions, these changes are slow and often limited to intentional, therapeutic settings. The lack of emotional openness in broader society and men's groups perpetuates isolation and hinders mental health. Challenges with Church and Recovery-Based Groups Matt and Reah explore the challenges of finding inclusive groups within church and recovery settings. Matt notes that he has not found connection in church groups and that most of his group experiences have been online. Both agree that most church groups are not inclusive, particularly for LGBTQ+ individuals, leading Matt to leave several churches. They discuss further the misconception that church groups are inherently inclusive and emphasizes that one does not need to attend a church building to worship. The conversation also touches on the contradictions and lack of confidentiality in some church-based groups, further alienating those seeking genuine connection. Matt described the political and demographic divides he has encountered in men's groups. He identifies as politically centrist, but found that many groups are either very left-leaning (often due to therapy referrals) or right-leaning (focusing on sports and emotional suppression) and often break their own rules by discussing politics and religion, further alienating those who do not fit the dominant demographic or ideological mold. Confidentiality and Trust Issues in Men's Groups Matt expresses significant concerns about confidentiality in men's groups, particularly when meetings are recorded. He notes that in his current group, he is the only single man, and the rest are married or divorced with children, making it difficult for him to relate. The recording of every call makes him hesitant to share personal information, as he is unsure where the recordings go. He emphasizes that for a men's group to be successful, there must be 100% confidentiality, and that relationships within the group should not extend outside to prevent imbalances and conflicts. These issues contribute to his distrust and discomfort in existing groups. Mental Health and the Importance of Support Groups This conversation emphasizes the importance of support groups for mental health, especially for men. Matt urges men not to rely solely on their partners for emotional support and encouraged participation in men's groups. He stresses the need for vulnerability, authenticity, and willingness to change. Both speakers highlight the dangers of isolation and the importance of reaching out, especially for those experiencing suicidal thoughts. This discussion reinforces that men need supportive communities to foster mental well-being and that inclusivity and confidentiality are key to effective support groups. You can find Matt on IG-Bulliedbehindbars, X- Barsbullied, and Facebook- Matthew.Melvin.5621. Follow Reah at https://www.Falolity.net [https://www.Falolity.net]and on YouTube at https://www.YouTube.com/@reahhagues. #mentalhealth, #falolityllc, #podcast, #LongFormConversation, #PodcastStyle, #UnfilteredVoices, #StoriesThatMatter, #DialoguesThatHeal, #Falolityllc, #authorcentral, #lifeexperiences, #authorjourney, #mensgroups, #socialgroupss