Off The Agenda with TLC Podcast

Nobody Checked. So We're Checking Now.

33 min · 30. mar. 2026
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What does it actually cost to look like you have everything together? Welcome to the very first episode of Off The Agenda with TLC — the podcast where we, Tonichi Achurra-Parekh, Larah Diaz-Sta. Maria, and Claire Sommereux-Alfonso (or TLC!) finally stop performing for the room and start talking to each other (and you) for real. This is the one we've been building to: raw, unscripted, and honestly overdue. In this maiden episode, we introduce ourselves (not the LinkedIn version) but the real ones. The ones who showed up to work while quietly grieving, hustled through promotions while losing sleep, and kept the team inspired while nobody thought to ask, Are you still okay? From Claire's journey of rebuilding after loss, to Larah's intersection moment between ambition and guilt, to Tonichi stepping into a new kind of courage. Episode 1 is a check-in that's years in the making. Spoiler: nobody checked on us… so we’re checking it now. If you've ever felt like you're doing everything right but somehow still running on empty… this one's for you. Like, follow, and subscribe on all platforms. Welcome to Off The Agenda. We're so glad you're here. Off The Record, On Your Heart: * Nobody Was Going to Check. Waiting for someone to ask "are you still okay?" before you pause is a losing game. The check-in you've been waiting for? It was always yours to give yourself. * The LinkedIn Version Is Not the Whole Story. Every polished bio has a cost behind it: lost sleep, processed grief on a deadline, and promotions earned while quietly falling apart. * Keeping It Together Is Not the Same as Being Okay. Functional is not fine. Showing up is not healing. There is a difference, and you are allowed to name it. * The Cape Was Never Yours to Keep. Nobody handed it to you in a ceremony. You just picked it up one day because someone needed you to, and you forgot to put it down. * Your Definition of Success Has an Expiry Date. What drove you at 30 is not supposed to drive you at 45. Changing what you want is not failure. It is just growing up. * Choosing Yourself Is Not Selfish. It is overdue. If not now, then when? * You Are Not Behind. Some of us get there at 40. Some at 45. Some are still buffering… and that is also a valid place to be. © 2026 A Team Dklutr [https://www.teamdklutr.com/] Production © 2026 A Team Dklutr [https://www.teamdklutr.com/] Production

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