Real Talk with Tina and Ann

Finishing A Memoir And Finding Healing

10 min · 8. maj 2026
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Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2123315/fan_mail/new] We celebrate a personal milestone as Ann finishes her memoir and turns the writing process into hard-won lessons about trauma, neurodivergence, and self-compassion. We unpack how survival skills can masquerade as personality, and how healing starts when we stop shaming the parts of us that kept us alive.  • finishing a 70,000-plus-word memoir and entering the submission process  • adapting versus surviving and why the difference matters  • hypervigilance, shutdown, over-apologizing, and making yourself smaller  • neurodivergence, masking, and functioning through exhaustion  • using alcohol to take the edge off social anxiety  • replacing “what’s wrong with me” with “what happened to me”  • respecting the younger self and honoring survival without staying trapped  • when childhood protection becomes adult anxiety, isolation, and burnout  • choosing honesty, rest, safety, and connection over perfection  Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2123315/support]

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