I Relapsed Before 2 Years Sober And Now I Can’t Stop

Sober But Still Selfish: The Self-Centeredness That Outlasts the Substance

Getting sober doesn't automatically make you a good person. Remove the alcohol or the drugs and you're left with the same wiring — the self-centeredness, the main-character syndrome, the 100 forms of self-centered fear that ran the show all along. The problem starts where the bottle ends. In this solo episode, Anthony talks honestly about the selfishness that outlasts the substance: the sneaky forms it takes in sobriety (recovery self-absorption, keeping score in relationships, using sobriety as a moral trump card, hiding behind "I'm working on myself"), why self-obsession is a real relapse risk, and the oldest fix there is — getting out of self through service. This is self-honesty, not self-hatred. Noticing your own selfishness is the growth, not proof that you're a bad person. Shared from lived experience, one addict to another. If this lands with you, the greatest payment I can receive is a follow — it helps the next person struggling find the show. 0:00 Sober doesn't make you a good person 1:13 Service: the highest pay grade in recovery 2:20 Self-honesty, not self-hatred 3:48 You can get sober and stay selfish 5:06 My story: relapse after 7.5 years 5:28 "You are not unique" 7:40 The myth of the new person 8:51 A spiritual experience is a change in how you see 10:45 Sobriety is the starting line, not the finish 11:06 Why addiction is selfish by design 13:11 The wiring doesn't vanish with the substance 15:09 The sneaky forms selfishness takes in sobriety 17:09 Sobriety as a moral trump card 18:51 The main character habit 20:32 Why it matters: people feel it 21:57 Self-obsession as relapse risk 23:37 How to work on it: service & living amends 25:06 Sober doesn't equal selfless

Relapsing After 11 Months, Sober Motherhood & 14 Years in Recovery — Co-Founder of Generation Women

She had 11 months sober — then relapsed over an argument she'd only ever had in her own head. Jen returns to the show to walk through what came next: eight months of counting drinks, sneaking drinks, and trying to "manage it" — a stretch she says felt crazier than when she was strung out. From there it's the recovery that finally stuck: getting sober for good, becoming a sober mom (which she says was harder than getting sober the first time), and finding the four things she believes every recovery path has in common. This is two people in recovery talking honestly — lived experience, peer to peer, no experts and no scripts. We get into alcohol and drug recovery, what actually drives a relapse, emotional sobriety, spirituality without the "Sky Daddy," and why “ 12 step recovery helped me — and it's not the only way." ▶️ New here? This one's a good place to start if you've ever wondered whether you could just cut back instead of quit. If it lands, follow the show and send it to one person who needs it today. ⏱️ Chapters below. Generation Women Canada: https://www.generationwomen.ca/ [https://www.generationwomen.ca/]

The Masks We Wear in Recovery | Borrowed Wisdom Pt. 2 : Earl H, The Path to Freedom

This is Part 2 of Borrowed Wisdom: Earl, "The Path to Freedom." Earl is one of my all-time favourites in recovery. I pulled the quotes that hit hardest and reflected on each one from my own experience — a guy who relapsed after 7.5 years sober and had to find his way back. What we get into: - The mask we wear — in addiction, in sobriety, and how the tough guy performance set up my relapse - Fear as the real engine behind addiction (we're not bad people — we're frightened ones) - Self-worth that doesn't depend on other people's reception - Kindness vs. people-pleasing — a real difference most people miss - Forgiveness as a selfish act, done for yourself - 5–10 minutes of meditation and what it actually does to your impulse control - Service as the greatest high in recovery - The dying man story — and the gratitude reset it delivers every time Want the full Earl tape? DM me on Instagram: @RecoveringOutLoudPod Recovery is simple, not easy. I love you. 00:00 Showing up when you don't feel like it 01:53 Welcome & Anthony's story 03:01 The mask and the false self 06:12 Who you actually meet in recovery 07:22 Fear is the engine behind addiction 08:20 Commitment not contingent on others 09:09 Not everyone gets this chance 11:41 Kindness vs. being a nice guy 12:51 The samurai — being ease and comfort 14:39 The greatest buzz in recovery 14:56 Being strong enough to be gentle 17:21 Forgiveness releases the prisoner 18:54 Fairness is a one-way street 19:07 Progress, not perfection 20:31 When self-centred fear takes over 21:47 Meditation: 5–10 minutes changes everything 24:13 I don't understand God — but I see evidence 25:59 Service: stepping out of your own head 27:01 Don't look at the sports car 28:58 Authenticity is what people actually connect with 29:06 The weight of the beauty of recovery 30:22 The moment in the car 31:04 The dying man story 33:11 From "I have to" to "I get to" 34:17 Closing: I love you

Loving an Alcoholic: Both Sides of the Same Story From Addiction to Recovery

Some recovery stories are told from one side. This one isn't. Chloe lived the alcoholism. Andrew loved her through it — and watched both the addiction and the recovery up close. In this episode they sit down together and rebuild the same years from two different chairs: how they fell for each other fast, how the drinking took over, the hospital trips, the relapses, and the night it finally turned. Along the way they get into the stuff nobody warns you about — the "morning me vs. nighttime me" split that runs through active addiction, what it actually does to the person who loves you, why staying can sometimes prevent the rock bottom someone needs to hit, and the hardest truth either of them learned: when you step away from this disease for three months or thirty years, you come back exactly where you left off. If you love someone in active addiction, or you've been the one being loved while you were using, this is your conversation. Chapters 0:00 – "I already know how I'd relapse" 1:37 – Love at first sight 13:43 – Withdrawal & the first 911 call 22:09 – Morning Chloe vs. Nighttime Chloe 33:20 – Walking on eggshells: loving an addict 40:56 – The last day & a psychotic break 44:52 – "Losing things is what gets people better" 47:34 – Where they are today 🎧 Best place to start if you're new here. It's the full arc — using, loving, losing, and coming back — in one sitting. ▶️ Host recommendation: if this one lands, go to the solo episodes on euphoric recall and the emotional sobriety plateau next. If you're carrying this for someone you love, or for yourself: you're not the only one. Follow the show so the next episode finds you, and if it helped, leave a rating — it's the single biggest thing that gets these stories to the next person who needs them. Recovering Out Loud is peer-led and built on lived experience, not clinical advice.

Why Sobriety Stopped Feeling Like a Win: The Emotional Sobriety Plateau Nobody Warns You About

Nobody warns you that sobriety can stop feeling like a win. They warn you about the cravings, the first 30 days, the holidays. Nobody tells you about the Tuesday — a couple of years in — when the chips slow down, the applause stops, and being sober just becomes your life. And somewhere in that quiet, the old voice gets an opening. I know it because I lived it. I relapsed after seven and a half years sober — not on a bad day, but in the flat part, the stretch where recovery stopped feeling like an achievement and started feeling like nothing at all. This is a raw, lived-experience episode about the emotional sobriety plateau: why the "win" feeling was always going to fade (hello, hedonic adaptation), how "flat" gets mistranslated into "something's wrong," the difference between being dry and being emotionally sober, and what actually helped me build a life I don't want to escape from. If you've ever thought is this it? — this one's for you. 🎙 Recovering Out Loud — peer-led recovery media built on lived experience. Real stories. 📲 recoveringoutloud.ca · @recoveringoutloudpod Follow / subscribe so the next one finds you. This podcast shares one person's lived experience and is not medical or clinical advice.