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03. What's Holding You Back From Feeling Successful? Ask Yourself these 5 Questions

15 min · 12. maj 2026
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In this episode, we’re talking about the pressure so many people carry when they don’t feel successful enough and how quickly setbacks, disappointments, and unmet expectations can turn into self-doubt and feelings of failure. But what if we stopped using the word failure altogether? This conversation explores how comparison, fear, unrealistic expectations, criticism, and perfectionism can distort the way we view success, growth, and even ourselves. Together, we walk through five powerful questions designed to uncover what may actually be holding you back from feeling successful and confident in the direction God is leading you. We also discuss the importance of reframing setbacks as setups for growth, wisdom, resilience, and redirection while recognizing that success is often less about perfection and more about perspective, faith, consistency, healing, and continuing to move forward. Most importantly, this message reminds us that God never called us to live defeated, condemned, or stuck in shame. He calls us to renew our minds, shift our perspective, and stop attaching our identity to every unsuccessful moment. Because maybe success isn’t about having life perfectly packaged with a nice little bow on top. Maybe it’s simply about continuing to grow, trust God, and keep getting back up again. Grab your confidence and suit up! ~ K   If this episode encouraged you, share it with someone who may need a healthier perspective on success and growth. Connect with me at www.kristinstyers.com [http://www.kristinstyers.com/]  and join the Weekly Wins Club.  Those that join can pick up a chance for the Season's of Soap Bible Study giveaway during the month of May 2026.    Want to check out the study for yourself?  Click the link [http://www.horacioprinting.com/REDEFINESUCCESSPODCASTTEAM] to visit the Horacio Printing site.  Want to order one of your own?  Use the code REDEFINESUCCESSPODCASTTEAM for 15% off.  Some links shared may be affiliate links, which means I may earn a small commission at no extra cost to you. I only share products and resources I genuinely believe in. Join me in the Facebook Community- Confidence & Clarity for God-Led Success- where we can chat and connect and you can follow along for more conversations about faith, purpose, mindset, growth, and learning how to win in a way that actually fits you. Go pop on the shades,  it's time to SHINE!

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