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Barbara Burgess: Navigating Boundaries

1 h 10 min · 6. aug. 2025
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In this enlightening conversation, Melanie Foote-Davis and Barbara Burgess explore the themes of self-discovery, joy, and the importance of setting boundaries. Barbara shares her journey of embracing 'enough' and how simple moments, like achalk experience with children, can lead to profound insights. They discuss the power of giving and receiving, the challenges of perfectionism, and the art of saying no to create space for what truly matters. The conversation emphasizes the importance of authenticity, gratitude, and choosing joy in everyday life, encouraging listeners to embrace their own journeys of self-discovery and connection.   Chapters 00:00 The Chalk Experience: A Journey Begins 09:27 The Power of Play and Connection 14:55 Gracious Giving: Gives Back to the Giver 21:36 Courageously Vulnerable 30:36 Navigating Relationships and Boundaries 37:09 Embracing Imperfection and Growth 38:19 Sovereignty and Personal Authority 41:18 The Allure of Authentic Experience 46:28 Navigating Boundaries: The Power of No 51:39 Audit Your Energy Inventory 57:55 Delightfully Be With Other Human Beings   More About Barbara Burgess Barbara Burgess is an author, mother, executive, and unapologetic dark-chocolate lover who’s embraced the beautiful messiness of life. She founded Corluma (cor =heart, luma = light), a Chicago-based consulting firm, wrote and performed a one-woman show “The Extraordinary Experience of Being Ordinary” and most recently wrote her first book, Enough: Finding Peace in a World of Distractions, Hustle, and Expectations. Known for her humor, vulnerability, and practical wisdom, Barbara shares simple shifts to help people remember they are enough and have enough. Her ego is kept in healthy check by two teenage children and career adventures that includedselling candy bars for Nestle Foods, launching Grainger into internet commerce, a brief marketing stint at the Chicago Mercantile Exchange, and most recently overseeing operations, marketing, and finances as the COO of a non-profit. Like all of us, Barbara says, she’s still figuring it out.   Connect with Barbara Website: www.corluma.com [http://www.corluma.com] LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/barbaraburgess1 [https://www.linkedin.com/in/barbaraburgess1]Book: www.beenough.com [http://www.beenough.com]   A Moment of Gratitude for our sponsor.⁠ Michele Aiken [https://www.itspossible.today/] Use code MELANIE to Save   Connect with Melanie Linkedin [https://www.linkedin.com/in/melaniefootedavis/]  Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/iammelaniefootedavis/] YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@iammelaniefootedavis] ⁠⁠Work with Melanie ⁠⁠ [https://calendly.com/melaniefootedavis] ⁠⁠Download FREE Joy Journal⁠⁠ [https://createalifeofjoy.pages.ontraport.net/] ⁠⁠Radical Love Book [https://bit.ly/rlbook1%20https:/melaniefootedavis.respond.ontraport.net/rlbook%20RadicalLoveBook.com]

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