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Setting Boundaries Without the Guilt: A Caregiver's Guide to Healing w/ Greg Fougere

59 min · 8. maj 2026
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Caregiving is often framed through the lens of love and duty, but what happens when it becomes an old survival role? In this episode, Dr. Mark Ropeleski sits down with trauma-informed coach Greg Fougere to explore the deep-rooted family patterns, nervous system responses, and "self-abandonment" that often drive the default caregiver. We dive into the concept of parentification - where children become the emotional regulators for their parents - and how these childhood adaptations create a "survival mode" baseline that leads to extreme burnout in adulthood. If you’ve ever felt like you can’t keep going but you also can't stop, this conversation is for you. Click here to watch a video of this episode. [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9eF2nOlwFE0] Support Our Guest: ▶️Website: https://healoutloud.info [https://healoutloud.info] ▶️Book a call: https://start.healoutloud.info/simple-book-call-appt [https://start.healoutloud.info/simple-book-call-appt] ▶️TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@greg.healoutloud [https://www.tiktok.com/@greg.healoutloud] ▶️Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/greg.healoutloud/ [https://www.instagram.com/greg.healoutloud/] ▶️YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Greg.HealOutLoud [https://www.youtube.com/@Greg.HealOutLoud] ▶️Email: greg@healoutloud.info [greg@healoutloud.info] Connect With Us: ▶️ https://linktr.ee/thecaregiverspodcast [https://linktr.ee/thecaregiverspodcast] Subscribe to The Caregivers Podcast on YouTube, Spotify, or Apple Podcasts to never miss an episode. If you find these conversations helpful, please leave a review or share this episode with a fellow caregiver. 🔊 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/1fLSHPA7ZHbOpvrmcbfcd5?si=2a71d7c4e2e9427c [https://open.spotify.com/show/1fLSHPA7ZHbOpvrmcbfcd5?si=2a71d7c4e2e9427c] 🔊 Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-caregivers-podcast/id1842203665 [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-caregivers-podcast/id1842203665]

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