163. Stop Bypassing Your Emotions: Why Uncertainty Might Be the Best Thing for Your Creativity

166. The Opposite of Procrastination is NOT Productivity—It is Persistence

Ask me a question or let me know what you think! [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2199359/fan_mail/new] Why do we procrastinate on the work that matters most? In this episode, Dr. Amy Bakos explores the psychology behind creative avoidance and why procrastination doesn't mean you're lazy—it often means you're deeply invested in what you're creating. Drawing from behavioral psychology, existential psychology, personal stories, and lessons from artists, she shares practical ways to stop judging yourself, build creative stamina, and learn the two skills every successful artist develops: continuing and not quitting. If you've ever found yourself cleaning the kitchen instead of writing, scrolling social media instead of creating, or abandoning projects just before they're finished, this episode will help you understand why—and how to move forward with more self-compassion and persistence. Key Takeaways * Why avoidance often feels worse than doing the work. * The difference between pausing and quitting. * How procrastination can become part of a healthy creative process. * What existential guilt tells us about our values. * Why persistence is a learnable skill—not a personality trait. * The importance of maintaining momentum after reaching a major goal. * How process-focused goals create more lasting motivation than destination goals. * Why creative thoughts ("I'm not good enough") are just thoughts—not facts. * Practical ways to reduce procrastination without relying on willpower. * How imagination, community, and the right materials support creative work. Memorable Quotes > "Artists don't get down to work until the pain of working is exceeded by the pain of not working.""The people who keep making art aren't necessarily more talented—they've learned how to continue.""Persistence and not quitting are two different skills.""I trust I had a good idea when I started.""The goal isn't to have a show. The goal is to be an artist.""Procrastination is part of my process. Judgment doesn't have to be.""The things we admire were often perilously close to never existing." Discussion Topics * Why procrastination is so common among creative people. * Behavioral psychology and avoiding pain. * Existential guilt and living according to your values. * Creative identity versus achievement. * Maintaining stamina after reaching a milestone. * The "run past the finish line" mindset. * Why artists abandon work near completion. * Building a process-oriented creative life. * Using imagination to stay engaged. * Learning to tolerate uncertainty in creative work. Practical Strategies Mentioned * Allow yourself a limited "circling" period before beginning work. * Set a 20-minute timer for procrastination or warm-up activities. * Reduce judgment around your creative process. * Keep reminders of why you started your project. * Celebrate milestones without treating them as the finish. * Stay connected to people who are a few steps ahead of you. * Invest in tools and materials that support your work. * Focus on becoming the kind of person who creates—not simply reaching one achievement. * Practice tolerating uncertainty rather than waiting to feel confident. Books & References * Art & Fear: Observations on the Perils (and Rewards) of Artmaking by David Bayles & Ted Orland * Thomas Edison's persistence in developing the light bulb * Leo Tolstoy's revisions of War and Peace * Concepts from behavioral psychology * Existential psychology and existential guilt Call to Action What are you avoiding right now? Is it really about procrastination—or is it something you deeply care about? Reflect on a project you've completed successfully and ask yourself: * What helped you keep going? * How did you resist quitting? * What practices helped you persist? Share your thoughts with Dr. Amy Bakos on Instagram and continue the conversation about creativity, persistence, and the art of finishing what matters. Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2199359/support] Explore the Modern Creative Woman Community https://moderncreativewoman.com [https://arttherapycentersf.com/] Free Goodies and Subscribe to the Monthly Newsletter https://moderncreativewoman.com/subscribe-to-the-creative-woman/ [https://mcusercontent.com/53c5579a5feca0090377003c7/files/b4f5b916-6160-01d5-e760-40b1327eac06/Modern_Creative_Woman_Manifesta.pdf] Connect with Dr. Amy on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/dramybackos/ [https://www.instagram.com/dramybackos/]

165. Self Conscious? Try Self CONSCIOUSNESS Instead

Ask me a question or let me know what you think! [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2199359/fan_mail/new] Why does being self-conscious often leave us feeling anxious, while self-consciousness can become one of our greatest strengths? In this episode, Dr. Amy Bakos explores the profound difference between these two experiences. Self-consciousness often begins in adolescence, when we become acutely aware of how others see us. While this developmental stage helps us learn social norms and belonging, many women become stuck in coping strategies shaped by criticism, bullying, trauma, sexism, racism, homophobia, ageism, and other forms of marginalization. What if there were another way? Drawing from psychology, philosophy, developmental science, and art therapy, Dr. Amy introduces self-consciousness as a deeper form of self-awareness—one that helps us reconnect with our values, respond rather than react, and create lives rooted in authenticity rather than fear. You'll also learn a simple art-viewing practice that strengthens self-reflection, emotional awareness, and peace of mind. Whether you visit a museum, journal about a favorite artwork, or simply pause to notice your own thoughts, this episode offers practical ways to cultivate a richer relationship with yourself. In this episode, you'll learn: * The difference between being self-conscious and developing self-consciousness * Why adolescence is such a vulnerable period for identity development * How trauma and social pressures can leave us emotionally "stuck" * What philosophy and psychology teach us about the nature of the self * How self-awareness increases emotional flexibility and resilience * Why imagination and empathy deepen self-consciousness * An art-based exercise for strengthening reflection and self-understanding * How greater self-consciousness can lead to more creativity, patience, and peace of mind Reflection Practice The next time you encounter a work of art, pause and ask yourself: * What do I notice objectively? * What thoughts or feelings arise in me? * What is it like to be the person observing this artwork right now? * What does my response reveal about my values, experiences, or current state of mind? Journal your reflections, then read them aloud. Hearing your own words creates another layer of self-awareness and can deepen your insight. If this episode resonated with you, I'd love to hear your thoughts. Connect with me on Instagram and let me know what you discover as you practice becoming more consciously aware of yourself. Thank you for listening to the Modern Creative Woman Podcast. If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe, leave a review, and consider supporting the show to help keep it ad-free. Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2199359/support] Explore the Modern Creative Woman Community https://moderncreativewoman.com [https://arttherapycentersf.com/] Free Goodies and Subscribe to the Monthly Newsletter https://moderncreativewoman.com/subscribe-to-the-creative-woman/ [https://mcusercontent.com/53c5579a5feca0090377003c7/files/b4f5b916-6160-01d5-e760-40b1327eac06/Modern_Creative_Woman_Manifesta.pdf] Connect with Dr. Amy on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/dramybackos/ [https://www.instagram.com/dramybackos/]

164. The 3 Biggest Barriers to Creativity (and How to Move Past Them)

Ask me a question or let me know what you think! [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2199359/fan_mail/new] Why do so many intelligent, capable women long to be creative but never quite begin? In this episode, Dr. Amy Backos explores three surprisingly common mental barriers that keep women from painting, writing, making art, and expressing themselves creatively. These obstacles aren't a lack of talent or time. They're patterns of thinking that quietly pull us away from the creative life we want. Drawing from psychology, art therapy, and over thirty years of clinical experience, Amy explains why creativity actually increases with age, how life experience becomes a powerful creative resource, and what practical steps you can take this week to reconnect with your creative self. You'll also learn why thoughts are not facts, why over-scheduling quietly steals creativity, and how making space for "nothing" can become one of the most productive things you do. In this episode, you'll discover: * Why women often become more creative as they get older * How creativity grows by combining past experiences into something new * The first barrier: spending too much energy worrying about what other people think * The second barrier: conflicting values without a clear plan * The third barrier: believing every thought your mind produces * Why thoughts are biological events, not objective truths * How over-scheduling leaves little room for creativity or reflection * The importance of protecting unstructured time * Why art naturally strengthens present-moment awareness * Journaling practices that deepen self-understanding without requiring a daily habit * A simple affirmation to help you move toward your values instead of away from them This Week's Creative Invitation This week, choose one small action: * Block off 20 minutes of unscheduled time and resist filling it with chores. * Schedule one uninterrupted hour to make art, write, knit, paint, collage, or simply play. * Spend time journaling without worrying about doing it "the right way." Write freely, doodle, or write a letter to your future self. Small, consistent moments of creativity help retrain your brain to notice possibility instead of obstacles. Memorable Quote > "The only barriers to your creative expression are inside your mind, and thoughts are not facts." Affirmation > I am a modern creative woman, and I can figure this out. Resources Mentioned * Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) * Present-moment awareness and psychological flexibility * The concept of flow * Journaling as a tool for reflection and creativity If this episode resonated with you, I'd love to hear from you. Send me a message on Instagram or leave a comment. Your support, whether it's sharing the podcast with a friend or becoming a small monthly supporter, helps keep The Modern Creative Woman ad-free and allows us to continue exploring the art and science of creativity together. Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2199359/support] Explore the Modern Creative Woman Community https://moderncreativewoman.com [https://arttherapycentersf.com/] Free Goodies and Subscribe to the Monthly Newsletter https://moderncreativewoman.com/subscribe-to-the-creative-woman/ [https://mcusercontent.com/53c5579a5feca0090377003c7/files/b4f5b916-6160-01d5-e760-40b1327eac06/Modern_Creative_Woman_Manifesta.pdf] Connect with Dr. Amy on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/dramybackos/ [https://www.instagram.com/dramybackos/]

163. Stop Bypassing Your Emotions: Why Uncertainty Might Be the Best Thing for Your Creativity

Ask me a question or let me know what you think! [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2199359/fan_mail/new] We spend so much of our lives trying to eliminate uncertainty. We want the right answer, the perfect decision, and reassurance that we're on the right path. But what if uncertainty isn't something to avoid? What if it's actually one of the most important ingredients for creativity, growth, and living a meaningful life? In this episode, Dr. Amy Backos explores why self-doubt is not a flaw to overcome but information to work with. Drawing from psychology, art therapy, and acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT), she explains why the discomfort of not knowing is often the doorway to discovering what truly matters. The episode also takes a thoughtful look at artificial intelligence and the growing tendency to use AI for emotional reassurance. While AI can be an incredibly useful tool, relying on it to bypass difficult emotions may prevent us from developing the emotional resilience and self-awareness that meaningful change requires. If you've ever found yourself frozen by uncertainty, second-guessing your decisions, or asking, "What's the right choice?" this conversation will help you relate to self-doubt in a completely different way. In this episode you'll learn: * Why uncertainty is a normal and necessary part of growth * The difference between healthy self-doubt and becoming stuck * How creativity develops through curiosity rather than certainty * Why looking for validation can keep you from discovering your own values * The hidden risks of using AI as a source of emotional reassurance * What "cognitive surrender" means and why independent thinking matters * Three practical strategies for working with uncertainty instead of avoiding it * How identifying your values leads to clearer, more confident decisions * Why committed action matters more than having perfect confidence Three Steps for Working with Self-Doubt 1. Name what you're feeling instead of judging it. 2. Clarify the values that matter most to you. 3. Choose one committed action that moves you toward those values, even if uncertainty remains. Memorable Quote > "If the path before you is clear, you're probably on someone else's path." — Joseph Campbell Mentioned in this episode * Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) * Carl Jung and the midlife transition * Joseph Campbell's A Hero with a Thousand Faces * Art therapy as a tool for discovering values and meaning * Creativity, psychological flexibility, and living intentionally Call to Action If this episode resonated with you, I'd love to hear what uncertainty you're learning to embrace. Connect with me on Instagram @DrAmyBackos or visit ModernCreativeWoman.com to learn more about my programs for women who want to build a creative, meaningful life grounded in their values. If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe, leave a review, and share it with a friend who's navigating a season of uncertainty. Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2199359/support] Explore the Modern Creative Woman Community https://moderncreativewoman.com [https://arttherapycentersf.com/] Free Goodies and Subscribe to the Monthly Newsletter https://moderncreativewoman.com/subscribe-to-the-creative-woman/ [https://mcusercontent.com/53c5579a5feca0090377003c7/files/b4f5b916-6160-01d5-e760-40b1327eac06/Modern_Creative_Woman_Manifesta.pdf] Connect with Dr. Amy on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/dramybackos/ [https://www.instagram.com/dramybackos/]

162. Knitting in Public: The Surprising Science of Fiber Arts and Brain Health

Ask me a question or let me know what you think! [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2199359/fan_mail/new] Have you ever thought about knitting as preventive healthcare? In this episode, Dr. Amy Backos explores the fascinating intersection of creativity, neuroscience, psychology, and fiber arts. What has often been dismissed as "women's work" is now backed by a growing body of research demonstrating significant benefits for brain health, emotional well-being, pain management, and even cognitive longevity. Drawing from her experience as both a psychologist and a lifelong knitter, Amy examines how knitting, crochet, and textile arts support memory, attention, problem-solving, emotional regulation, and social connection. She also shares surprising research from the Mayo Clinic, emerging discoveries from physics and engineering, and practical reasons why learning to knit may be one of the most accessible investments you can make in your future health. In This Episode * Why knitting and crochet are powerful tools for brain health * Research linking fiber arts to reduced risk of cognitive decline * How knitting supports memory, attention, and cognitive flexibility * The role of knitting in stress reduction and emotional regulation * Why repetitive handwork functions as active meditation * How fiber arts can support anxiety, depression, and chronic pain management * The importance of flow states and their connection to creativity and well-being * Social connection and community building through knitting groups * The surprising relationship between knitting, physics, architecture, and engineering * Why learning new creative skills benefits the aging brain * How perfectionism can interfere with creative practice—and what to do instead Key Takeaways Knitting Supports Cognitive Health Creativity Is Preventive Healthcare Knitting Creates an Active Meditative State Process Matters More Than Perfection Fiber Arts Build Community Knitting Is More Complex Than It Looks Resources Mentioned * Mayo Clinic research on knitting and cognitive health * Research published in Frontiers in Psychology * University of Gothenburg studies on knitting and well-being * Ravelry knitting community and pattern database * Elisabeth Zimmermann's Knitting Without Tears * Research from the Georgia Tech School of Physics * "Programming Mechanics in Knitted Materials" published in Nature Communications Quotes from the Episode > "Being able to use the creative part of your brain and the logical part of your brain gives you tremendous benefits.""The health benefits are cumulative over time.""Perfection is not the goal. The goal is process.""Creativity is one of the most accessible forms of preventive healthcare available to us." Mentioned in the Episode * International Knit in Public Day * Episode 161: The Male Gaze * Textile exhibitions at the Yerba Buena Center for the Arts * Textile and fiber arts exhibitions at the Asian Art Museum Connect with Dr. Amy Backos If you enjoyed this episode, please leave a five-star review and share it with a friend. Your support helps more women discover the art and science of creativity. The Modern Creative Woman podcast is proudly ad-free and supported by listener contributions. Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2199359/support] Explore the Modern Creative Woman Community https://moderncreativewoman.com [https://arttherapycentersf.com/] Free Goodies and Subscribe to the Monthly Newsletter https://moderncreativewoman.com/subscribe-to-the-creative-woman/ [https://mcusercontent.com/53c5579a5feca0090377003c7/files/b4f5b916-6160-01d5-e760-40b1327eac06/Modern_Creative_Woman_Manifesta.pdf] Connect with Dr. Amy on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/dramybackos/ [https://www.instagram.com/dramybackos/]