“You’re Not Helping: Why Your Adult Child Needs You to Let Them Fail”

When Disagreement Becomes Disconnection

Have you ever found yourself stuck in a disagreement with your adult child? Maybe it's about parenting, career choices, relationships, faith, or simply how they're living their life. The disagreement itself may seem small—but over time, it can create distance neither of you intended. In this episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia explore how unresolved disagreements can slowly become disconnection, and why preserving the relationship matters more than winning the argument. And at the end of the episode, Steve shares how his book, The Father Eclipse, [https://www.amazon.com/Father-Eclipse-Earthly-Identity-Clearly/dp/B0H1FBN6Y7] can help parents understand the powerful influence they still have in their adult children's lives—and how to keep that influence from becoming an obstacle to connection. Resources mentioned on today's podcast: 1.  "The Father Eclipse: How Your Earthly Father Shaped Your Identity and How to See God Clearly Again" [https://www.amazon.com/Father-Eclipse-Earthly-Identity-Clearly/dp/B0H1FBN6Y7] by Steve Cummings.  Available on Amazon. 2.  "I Know a Guy" Podcast with Steve Cummings.  A 5-min daily podcast for men who are tired of performing.  Available on Apple [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/i-know-a-guy-podcast/id1853430785], Spotify [https://open.spotify.com/show/4V7Tri71lS108eVOpPZ2wO]and all podcast platforms. 3.  Need to talk?  Book some time with Julia by sending her a text at 714-392-2060 - or go to MeadowbrookCounselingGa.com.

When You Let Them Go: How Releasing Your Adult Child Can Strengthen Your Relationship

What happens when you stop holding on and start trusting God with your adult child? In this special episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia sit down with their daughter, Jamilyn, to hear her side of the story—from mission trips as a teenager, to the World Race, to discovering her identity, hearing God's voice, and finding her calling. Along the way, she shares one powerful truth every parent needs to hear: "Your adult child will never become your answered prayer if you're holding on to them." If you're struggling to release your adult son or daughter, this conversation may give you the courage—and hope—you need. Please share this episode on social media, rate and review us so other parents of adult children can find us. Resources mentioned on today's podcast: 1.  When It Seems Hopeless: Interview with Jamilyn Upchurch [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/when-it-seems-hopeless-interview-with-jamilyn-upchurch/id1666068808?i=1000617681538] - Apple podcast link.  Spotify link. [https://open.spotify.com/episode/192yFrNGcxjLhWGMcIrEgJ] 2.  " [https://www.amazon.com/Parent-Pivot-Principles-Relationship-Adult/dp/B0F13VLCYK/ref=sr_1_2?crid=DPU3FM3YZ8L8&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.a4WH73kNXoFHjf-OpqHQt1c-cHckPa7qVSVDhwj9XjU17dUYrJVVT4Ynp9Pf11QPbs1tDhUPuu__G7-iA0KJHGsWGLCVusQFIbNJSQf_7n4JpGIteZRCl5NTA1nWatQQMPZDWpUWWuvqhONGDhUmZjAcXVgNiE8j3_DKqugcbfCpVNMVppmmUFH1gqIlZTiWUy6VfLTGRzjj8pf_nC3OaLC8TiSaxSp51JpgID60Akg.5U93NDysNh4gL1VNAduIKZCEoXsUICENbp5XLhH6Zzk&dib_tag=se&keywords=parent+pivot+book&qid=1781546507&sprefix=parent+pivot+%2Caps%2C166&sr=8-2]The Parent Pivot: 13 Principles for Building Stronger Relationships with Your Adult Children" [https://www.amazon.com/Parent-Pivot-Principles-Relationship-Adult/dp/B0F13VLCYK/ref=sr_1_2?crid=DPU3FM3YZ8L8&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.a4WH73kNXoFHjf-OpqHQt1c-cHckPa7qVSVDhwj9XjU17dUYrJVVT4Ynp9Pf11QPbs1tDhUPuu__G7-iA0KJHGsWGLCVusQFIbNJSQf_7n4JpGIteZRCl5NTA1nWatQQMPZDWpUWWuvqhONGDhUmZjAcXVgNiE8j3_DKqugcbfCpVNMVppmmUFH1gqIlZTiWUy6VfLTGRzjj8pf_nC3OaLC8TiSaxSp51JpgID60Akg.5U93NDysNh4gL1VNAduIKZCEoXsUICENbp5XLhH6Zzk&dib_tag=se&keywords=parent+pivot+book&qid=1781546507&sprefix=parent+pivot+%2Caps%2C166&sr=8-2] by Steve and Julia Cummings

The Courage to Release: Pivoting with Adult Children in an Anxious World. Interview with Seth Barnes

What happens when parents stop trying to protect their adult children from every risk and start trusting God with their future? This week on The Parent Pivot Podcast, we sit down with Seth Barnes, founder of Adventures in Missions [https://adventures.org/] and The World Race [https://www.worldrace.org/], to talk about launching adult children into purpose, faith, and real-world responsibility. We discuss fear-based parenting, why young adults need challenge and adventure, the power of listening prayer, and how some of the greatest growth happens when parents learn to let go. If you're navigating the transition from parenting to partnership with your adult child, this conversation will encourage and challenge you. Join us for this powerful discussion with Seth Barnes. [https://sethbarnes.com/post/your-kids-were-made-for-a-broken-world]

"Best of The Parent Pivot Podcast" - Summer is Here!

There comes a time when you have to take a step back from life for a bit and take a deep breath.  Life gets crazy fast, doesn't it?  It's all about balance. Summer break is finally here—and for many pivoting parents, that brings a mix of excitement, opportunity, and maybe a little anxiety too. In this "Best of" The Parent Pivot Podcast re-air, Steve and Julia talk about how to make the most of the summer months with your adult kids and grandkids, creating meaningful memories instead of simply surviving the schedule changes. As we record this, we're excitedly awaiting the arrival of our 7th grandbaby, and it reminds us just how quickly these seasons pass. We hope this conversation encourages you to slow down, be present, and make the most of the gift of family this summer.

The Boy You're Worried About Isn't Finished Yet

What if the young man you’re worried about is still becoming who he was created to be? In this deeply personal episode of The Parent Pivot Podcast, Steve and Julia talk honestly about boys, brain development, unmet expectations, parenting fear, and why so many parents panic too soon. From the science behind the prefrontal cortex developing around age 26… to the emotional impact parents can unknowingly have on their sons… this conversation is filled with hope, wisdom, and practical encouragement. Steve also shares part of his own story behind his new book, The Father Eclipse [https://www.amazon.com/Father-Eclipse-Earthly-Identity-Clearly/dp/B0H1FBN6Y7/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&dib_tag=se&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.R1Fn_Ep5EVLOdZuCq_4QN8LrxD5Y5XKSqT2HTov1Kqg.G86MEj89AvD-tPXLpPRJxT28baJ8AajDLjmoc3Wt-IQ&qid=1778671882&sr=1-1], and how fathers can unintentionally shape a son’s identity for decades and block his view of the Father. If you’re parenting a teenage or young adult son, this episode will help you breathe, step back, and love him well through the journey. Resources mentioned on today's podcast: 1. The Parent Pivot Podcast, "I'm Going to the Sidelines" - When It's Time to Take a Step Back: Interview with Jackson Cummings [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/im-going-to-the-sidelines-when-its-time-to-take-a/id1666068808?i=1000618460832] 2. "The Father Eclipse: How Your Earthy Father Shaped Your Identity and How to See God Clearly Again" by Steve Cummings.  Available on Amazon. [https://www.amazon.com/Father-Eclipse-Earthly-Identity-Clearly/dp/B0H1FBN6Y7/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&dib_tag=se&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.R1Fn_Ep5EVLOdZuCq_4QN8LrxD5Y5XKSqT2HTov1Kqg.G86MEj89AvD-tPXLpPRJxT28baJ8AajDLjmoc3Wt-IQ&qid=1778671882&sr=1-1] 3.  I Know a Guy Podcast [https://bringingkingdom.org/podcast]- 5-minutes each day. Real talk for men who don't do small talk. 4. "Stop Fixing Her: Why Your 'Help" is Killing Connection" [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep-126-stop-fixing-her-why-your-help-is-killing-connection/id1853430785?i=1000769444296] Episode 126 of I Know a Guy Podcast with Steve Cummings 5.  YouVersion Bible Plan - "The Heart of a Warrior: Before You Can Become  the Warrior, You Must Become the Beloved Son." with Michael Thompson  6.  "The Heart of a Warrior" [https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07DKVJWGB/?bestFormat=true&k=the%20heart%20of%20a%20warrior%20michael%20thompson&ref_=nb_sb_ss_w_scx-ent-bk-ser_k0_1_27_de&crid=2YV5BHIH830V0&sprefix=heart%20of%20a%20warrior%20michael%20] book by Michael Thompson.