Toxic Positivity: Why Do We Party?

🔂 "CYCLES OF WELLNESS" w/ DJ NOHA

Noah (DJ NOHA) and I met on TikTok.  What happens when two party boys who love nightlife try to bring wellness into their weekends?  CONNECT w/ NOHA: https://instagram.com/noha_music?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y= [https://instagram.com/noha_music?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y=] Listen to HOPE LICKER EP on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/album/21kobAQiqwYtFzhsWhdJvB?si=ZZFnlO_hQiK_97Z-Csq_Jw [https://open.spotify.com/album/21kobAQiqwYtFzhsWhdJvB?si=ZZFnlO_hQiK_97Z-Csq_Jw]

DJ/Producer HAWD HITTA: Decision to Ditch Booze in 2022

I met Austin Diduch (aka HAWD HITTA) circa 3am during the dark days of quarantine in the Hollywood Hills. It was a "good vibes only" type of event: bright colors and costumes and small talk, but you could all feel there was immense pain in everyone's eyes.  Parties can (and should) be a healing space, but by the tine Austin and I connected we both had realized that maybe we were there for the wrong reasons.  As we both moved on to rebuild our relationship to the underground party scene post-COVID, we've both found new layers of joy & authenticity by getting HONEST with ourselves about what we actually want from music, venues, and most of all: our friends.  Listen for these highlights: * The deeper friendships & love for music that evolve when you take a break from substances  * Must-have snacks to have in a fanny pack if you're not drinking * Outdated labels like "sober" and "addict" that often prevent from acknowledging whatever that is toxic that has a grip on us * Why you're NEVER alone -- but you'll feel alone if you refuse to acknowledge toxic positivity  * The "vibe shift" that's happening EVERYWHERE in the scene, that maybe people are still afraid to talk about * That "Wizard of Oz" moment of seeing colors when you realize it's POSSIBLE to push through your anxiety and be more intentional about when and how you connect  CONNECT W/ AUSTIN Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/hawdhitta/?hl=en Stream his single "SEE ME" on Spotfiy: https://open.spotify.com/artist/1UQSAyDVTIGdluOAYlVKie?si=y94bLvyTTjek6vLxS34y8w

Shuffling to Short Term Sobriety w/ MADDIE NAYLOR (Health Coach)

What does 7 weeks of not drinking sound like?  Maddie & I met shuffling at CRSSD Festival in San Diego a few months ago as I was filming content about how I love to go to music festivals without alcohol. This inspired Maddie to take a break from the booze... and you won't believe what she discovered next.  We talk CONNECTING TO OUR NATURAL ENERGY and then break down the two definitions of TOXIC POSITIVITY: "Good vibes only" vs. "Using substances to stay positive." Then, I tell the story about the best week of my life: going sober to Burning Man and walking proudly into orgy tent as my confident, sober self.  Maddie concludes with a beautiful story about how even this short break from booze has helped her come back to the "best version of herself" that she had felt distant from. CONNECT WITH MADDIE: Instagram (dance & shuffling): https://www.instagram.com/maddieoffthemat/ [https://www.instagram.com/maddieoffthemat/] Maddie's Coaching Website: https://maddienaylor.com/about#header.0

PARTY#3: Creating Purposeful Parties (from Harvard to Munich to Venice) w/ my Purpose Coach & Co-Founder "MORE OF THAT," Meredith Baker

Early in quarantine I took a random ZOOM yoga class a friend had posted in their story, and was blown away by the energy of the teacher: turns out it was Meredith Baker, and she lived just down the street from me. Deep in my bout of unemployment, Meredith launched her coaching program PIVOT INTO PURPOSE, and as her client, inspired me to launch my own coaching career! In fact, at 28:10 I discuss how and why I recently had the courage to finally leave my lucrative admissions job to pursue this podcast. Meredith inspires risk-takers! On her coaches bio, she details: [https://www.themeredithbaker.com/about] "From big leaps like pursuing music and yoga teaching after doing my undergrad at Harvard and MSc at Oxford, to founding a company with no business background, to signing up for an Ironman having never biked or done a triathlon..." and I guarantee that by listening to her discuss TOXIC POSITIVITY, you'll be inspired as well.  But not at the expense of authenticity! We go DEEP into the discriminative male Finals Clubs at Harvard, and how that inspired Meredith early on to host her own storytelling own events, and ever since she has been hosting potlucks and events where people could fully be themselves [https://www.instagram.com/more.of.that/?hl=en]. We go on to talk about how you can't party your pain away, and how it becomes more difficult to integrate PARTY LIFE with REAL LIFE without structure as you age. Then, we discuss MORE OF THAT, a perpetually sold-out event series (deep house yoga, musical storytelling, cacao full moon ceremony) Meredith is hosting and how every interaction is designed for people to "come alone, but leave with friends." (We also realize we hosted "dueling Moon Circles" last night #hashtagvenicelyfe).  Finally, we close with some thoughts about TOXIC POSITIVITY in coaching: how do we show up for clients when we are feeling like shit? Or without being overly optimistic about their chances of success?  follow: @themeredithbaker [https://www.instagram.com/themeredithbaker/?hl=en] info on "unique IRL experiences that bring us into the present moment" follow @more.of.that [https://www.instagram.com/more.of.that/?hl=en]

PARTY #2: Talking CHAOS & PARTY DEMONS w/ my roommate, Veronica Hernandez!

Veronica expertly kicks off our first podcast segment with her wild trip to Istanbul where the Black Sea meets the forrest in answering "What is the BEST 24 HOURS YOU'VE EVER HAD PARTYING?" Then, we dive deeper into the concept of TOXIC POSITIVITY and the party scene. I share a story about chasing a Daft Punk rumor in Spain and transition into the question: can INTENTIONALITY really be the secret to unlocking authentic happiness? Or is chaos really what we seek? What happens when confronted with PARTY DEMONS 👹and how can we protect our own energy in these spaces? Thank you Veronica for being my first guest and for all you to to bring AUTHENTIC VIBES to every situation