Intention or Inertia: What Intentional Living Actually Looks Like in Practice

Intention or Inertia: What Intentional Living Actually Looks Like in Practice

This episode is brought to you by Your Clockwise Week—a personalized weekly structure built around your actual life, not an ideal one. If your week feels full but not fitting, you can learn more at mikevardy.com/yourclockwiseweek [https://mikevardy.com/yourclockwiseweek]. The word "intentional" has been hollowed out. It's on coffee mugs, in Instagram bios, and attached to productivity advice that treats it like a personality trait rather than a practice. But intentional living isn't a vibe — and it's not the opposite of busy. It's a specific practice: asking, before you spend your time and energy, whether what you're doing actually aligns with what you value. That question is harder to sit with than most people expect. And most productivity systems never even ask it. This episode is the second in a series of solo livestreams I've been running, and it builds directly on last week's conversation about why busy isn't a badge — it's a blur. If busyness adds motion to the blur, intentional living is what clears it. What I'm walking through today is the operating system I use to do that: TimeCrafting. Not as a concept, but as something that actually runs your day-to-day life. Six Discussion Points * The word "intentional" has been so overused it's nearly meaningless — and reclaiming its operational definition is the first step toward building a life that reflects what you actually value. * Most people oscillate between the Ruthless Realm (all output, no alignment) and the Reckless Realm (all ideas, no follow-through) — and TimeCrafting is the path back to the Reasoned Realm, where choices are anchored rather than accidental. * Reason isn't logic and it isn't emotion — it lives in the middle, and it's harder to sustain precisely because it offers less of the certainty that binary thinking provides. * Daily themes aren't a rigid schedule — they're a gravitational pull, a lens you apply to your day rather than a rule you enforce on it, and a theme day that honors 70% still builds the cadence that intentional living depends on. * The most clarifying question you can ask at any decision point is: "Am I acting from intention or inertia?" — and the answer often reveals whether you're building momentum or simply filling time with motion. * TimeCrafting isn't just for work — the most durable themes are universal ones (connection, attunement, exploration, stewardship) that apply equally to your personal and professional life, which means you don't have to shift modes when you leave your desk. Three Connection Points * Check out the YouTube channel [https://www.youtube.com/@Itsmikevardy?sub_confirmation=1] * The Productivity Diet [https://mybook.to/theproductivitydiet] — goes deeper into mindset, method, and mastery across the TimeCrafting approach * Previous episode in this series: Busy Isn't a Badge — It's a Blur [https://share.transistor.fm/s/91373e7f] — the setup for everything covered here Intentional living isn't something you install once and leave running in the background. It's something you return to — like a rhythm, like a practice. The question isn't whether you're productive. It's whether you're willing yourself toward the right things. That distinction is where TimeCrafting lives. And if this episode gave you even one question worth sitting with — whether it's "what day is it?" or "am I acting from intention or inertia?" — then it's already doing its job. If this episode resonated, I’m exploring ideas like these more deeply in my upcoming book, Productiveness. You can follow along as it takes shape at mikevardy.com/productiveness [https://mikevardy.com/productiveness].

Why Speed Is a Byproduct, Not the Goal (with Dawna Ballard)

This episode is brought to you by Your Clockwise Week—a personalized weekly structure built around your actual life, not an ideal one. If your week feels full but not fitting, you can learn more at mikevardy.com/yourclockwiseweek [https://mikevardy.com/yourclockwiseweek]. We've built entire systems around moving faster — faster responses, faster workflows, faster outputs. But speed isn't something you pursue. It's something that shows up when you've built something worth moving through quickly. That distinction came up early in this conversation and stayed with me long after we stopped recording. If you've ever felt like you were moving fast but not actually going anywhere, this episode is for you. Dawna Ballard is a professor of organizational communication at the University of Texas at Austin, where she specializes in chronemics — the study of time as it relates to human communication. Her book, Time by Design: How Communicating Slow Allows Us to Go Fast, draws on decades of field research across medical settings, child advocacy networks, and organizations of all kinds to make a case that's both counterintuitive and deeply practical: slowing down your communication is often the fastest thing you can do. Six Discussion Points * The distinction between time — the clocks, calendars, meetings, and appointments we design — and temporality — the natural rhythm of relationships, sleep, learning, and meaningful conversation — isn't just semantic. It's the lens through which everything else about productivity either clarifies or collapses. * The Children's Advocacy Centers case study is one of the most compelling real-world arguments for slow design: agencies handling urgent child abuse cases discovered that pausing for regular 90-minute monthly meetings didn't cost them time — it gave them speed, trust, and accuracy across the entire system. * The obsession with efficiency didn't emerge from wisdom. It came from factory capitalism, Frederick Taylor's time-and-motion studies, and the industrialist impulse to extract skill from workers and standardize it. For knowledge work, creative work, or relational work, it's simply the wrong operating system. * Speed activates the nervous system the same way physical threats once did. When we treat every delay as a danger — a long line, a slow inbox, a stalled meeting — we stay in low-grade fight-or-flight. And that's not a state in which anyone does their best work. * The return-to-office push isn't really a productivity argument. At its core, it's a trust issue dressed in the language of culture — and forcing people into physical spaces doesn't resolve the underlying misalignment between what organizations measure and what actually produces quality work. * AI is most useful when it handles the quantity tasks — summarizing, simplifying, organizing — so that humans can stay focused on the quality work that requires genuine thought, relationship, and judgment. The key is knowing which is which. Three Connection Points 1. Time by Design [https://amzn.to/4fdw0OD] — Published by MIT Press, available wherever books are sold, including Kindle/Amazon. This is the kind of book you sit with, not sprint through. 2. Time Thieves documentary [https://tubi.tv] — Explores the Greek concepts of Kronos and Kairos through case studies from Japan, Germany, Italy, and the UK. A rare look at how different cultures experience the collision of time and temporality. 3. Are You Polychronic or Monochronic? — CBC Radio / The Current [https://www.cbc.ca/radio/thecurrent/are-you-polychronic-or-monochronic-struggling-to-manage-your-time-could-be-due-to-your-time-personality-1.7652387] — This is the piece that put Dawna on my radar. It introduces her research on "time personalities" — the idea that chronic lateness or rigid punctuality often isn't a character flaw but a reflection of how someone is wired to experience time. A good entry point before diving into the book. Dawna references a phrase the Navy SEALs use: slow is smooth, and smooth is fast. She reaches for it deliberately. It isn't a rejection of speed — it's a reframe of how you earn it. If you've been treating speed as the destination rather than the evidence that something deeper is working, this conversation is worth more than one listen. And if you want to keep thinking about what it means to stop doing productive and start being productive, that's exactly what we'll keep exploring here. Until next time, remember: stop doing productive, start being productive. See you later. If this episode resonated, I’m exploring ideas like these more deeply in my upcoming book, Productiveness. You can follow along as it takes shape at mikevardy.com/productiveness [https://mikevardy.com/productiveness].

Making Space for Grace (PM Talks S3E5)

This episode is brought to you by Your Clockwise Week—a personalized weekly structure built around your actual life, not an ideal one. If your week feels full but not fitting, you can learn more at mikevardy.com/yourclockwiseweek [https://mikevardy.com/yourclockwiseweek]. Patrick Rhone is back, and so is PM Talks — the monthly series where Patrick and I take our time with one idea and actually see where it goes. This is Season 3, Episode 5, and Patrick has just returned from a trip to Greece with his family — a trip built around anniversary celebrations, Mamma Mia filming locations, and the kind of serendipitous moments that only happen when you're open enough to notice them. It was a perfect setup for the conversation that followed. Because the thread running through everything we talked about — travel, family dynamics, technological change, self-judgment, and the way small kindnesses move through the world — turned out to be the same one: grace. Grace is also one of the principles at the heart of my upcoming book, Productiveness, which made this one feel especially fitting to sit with. If you've been wondering what that book is actually about, this episode gives you a meaningful glimpse. Six Discussion Points: * Grace starts with goodwill — not as a feeling, but as a practice. We dig into what it actually means to operate with grace day to day, and why it takes more intention than most people give it credit for. * Travel is one of the best teachers of grace around. From adjusting to late dinner culture in Greece and Portugal to ordering a chicken by pointing at the ones still running around a yard in the Philippines, travel asks you to meet the unfamiliar with openness rather than resistance. * Balancing everyone's needs on Patrick's Greece trip required grace in a very real, logistical way — from his daughter's Mamma Mia pilgrimage to his and his wife's 20th anniversary. The fact that everyone left feeling like the trip was complete says a lot about how that went. * I share a real-time example of reacting instead of responding — a strongly-worded email, a refund request, and some after-the-fact digging that made me feel briefly foolish before I decided to give myself some grace about the whole thing. * We get into grace and cancel culture, and the difference between holding someone accountable and refusing them any room to grow or change. It is okay to change your mind. In fact, it might be one of the most graceful things a person can do. * Small acts of grace echo further than you think. Patrick's daughter writing thoughtful notes to the colleges she's declining. Paying for a stranger's coffee without mentioning it. You don't know what someone is carrying, which is exactly why grace doesn't need full information to operate. Three Connection Points * Patrick Rhone's website [https://patrickrhone.com] — the best place to start to find everything Patrick has going on. * Productiveness [https://mikevardy.com/productiveness/] — my upcoming book, where grace appears as one of its core principles. * New to the show? I've been putting out solo episodes of A Productive Conversation as well — here's one right here [https://aproductiveconversation.transistor.fm/s1/654]. You can also find them in your podcast app of choice. Patrick and I covered a lot of ground this month, and I think that's because grace is one of those ideas that shows up everywhere once you start looking for it. Whether you're navigating a foreign dinner schedule, giving someone the benefit of the doubt, or just deciding not to beat yourself up over a to-do list that didn't get finished — grace is the practice underneath all of it. We'll be back next month for another round of PM Talks, and in the meantime, I hope this one gives you something worth sitting with. If this episode resonated, I’m exploring ideas like these more deeply in my upcoming book, Productiveness. You can follow along as it takes shape at mikevardy.com/productiveness [https://mikevardy.com/productiveness].

Max McKeown Talks About SuperAdaptability, Metaplasticity, and Thriving in an Age of Overwhelm

This episode is brought to you by Your Clockwise Week—a personalized weekly structure built around your actual life, not an ideal one. If your week feels full but not fitting, you can learn more at mikevardy.com/yourclockwiseweek [https://mikevardy.com/yourclockwiseweek]. Overwhelm isn’t new. It’s human. That idea sits at the heart of my conversation with Dr. Max McKeown—strategic advisor, keynote speaker, and author of SuperAdaptability: How to Transcend in an Age of Overwhelm. From the very start, Max challenges the notion that we’re living through a uniquely chaotic moment, arguing instead that overwhelm has always been part of the human condition. What follows is a thoughtful, recursive conversation about loops, space, nuance, and the difference between doing productive things and actually living productively. We explore how humans adapt consciously, why systems need slack to function, and how upgrading the way we upgrade ourselves may be the most important skill we have. Six Discussion Points * Why the “age of overwhelm” isn’t temporary—and never really was * The danger of confusing productivity with productiveness * How loops shape our behavior whether we notice them or not * Why space is essential for adaptation in systems, work, and life * The role of nuance, humility, and reason in conscious change * What it means to “upgrade your upgrade” through metaplasticity Three Connection Points * SuperAdaptability: How to Transcend in an Age of Overwhelm [https://amzn.to/4k4Y2Mm] * Max McKeown on LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/in/maxmckeown/?originalSubdomain=uk] * Productiveness [https://mikevardy.com/productiveness] This conversation is less about answers and more about awareness—about noticing the loops we’re already in and choosing how we engage with them. If you’ve ever felt busy but not better, productive but not present, this episode offers a different way to look at adaptation—and at yourself. If this episode resonated, I’m exploring ideas like these more deeply in my upcoming book, Productiveness. You can follow along as it takes shape at mikevardy.com/productiveness [https://mikevardy.com/productiveness].

The Backwards Law: Why More Self-Improvement Might Be Making Things Worse (with Mark Manson)

This episode is brought to you by Your Clockwise Week—a personalized weekly structure built around your actual life, not an ideal one. If your week feels full but not fitting, you can learn more at mikevardy.com/yourclockwiseweek [https://mikevardy.com/yourclockwiseweek]. There's an assumption buried inside almost every productivity system, self-help framework, and optimization routine: that you're not enough yet. That the gap between who you are and who you should be is the central problem to solve. I've spent fifteen years in this space, and I've watched that assumption quietly do a lot of damage. My guest today has spent roughly the same amount of time making the case that sometimes the belief that you need to improve is a bigger problem than whatever you're trying to fix. Mark Manson is the author of The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck [https://amzn.to/4elrVrb] and Everything Is F*cked: A Book About Hope [https://amzn.to/4txsSRM], two of the most widely read books in the personal development space over the last decade. He's the host of the Solved podcast, where he and his research team do exhaustive, long-form deep dives on the ideas most podcasters treat like talking points. And he recently co-founded Purpose, an AI-powered platform designed to make personal growth coaching accessible at scale. Mark and I have a lot of shared territory in this conversation—and a few places where we push each other in productive directions. Six Discussion Points * The backwards law in action: why every message of "you need to improve" carries an implicit second message—that you're not enough as you are right now * Why optimal is suboptimal—and how relentless optimization can make the quality of your actual life measurably worse, not better * The two dimensions of productivity most advice ignores: hours worked is not the same as leverage, and until you separate them, no system will help you * Why effort is a double-edged sword—it only creates meaningful output when it's aligned with something that actually matters to you, and it actively works against you when it isn't * How language shapes whether an idea lands—why the same truth needs to be said differently at different moments in a person's life, and why that's not semantics, it's everything * The question Mark poses before chasing any goal: do you actually want the costs? Not the highlights—the daily friction, the ongoing compromise, the downside of the dream Three Connection Points * Mark Manson's website and free twice-weekly newsletter [https://markmanson.net] * The Solved podcast: [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jfh_mmW73ys&list=PLkkA1LPpvlkjbuctKTaViIeIiZljzbqxW] Mark's long-form, research-heavy series on the ideas people say they've heard before but haven't actually examined * Learn about Purpose [https://markmanson.net/purpose-untold-story], Mark's AI coaching and personal growth platform Mark's most useful provocation in this conversation isn't the one with the sharpest edge. It's the quieter one: before you add another goal, another system, another layer of self-improvement, ask yourself whether you actually want to live with what it costs. Not the version of it that works. The version on the hard days. The answer to that question tells you more about whether you're chasing the right thing than any productivity metric ever will. If this episode resonated, I’m exploring ideas like these more deeply in my upcoming book, Productiveness. You can follow along as it takes shape at mikevardy.com/productiveness [https://mikevardy.com/productiveness].