You Are Taking the Wrong Risks in Dating and It Is Costing You Love

You Are Taking the Wrong Risks in Dating and It Is Costing You Love

Ready to rewrite your love story? Join the After Hello registry here: https://bit.ly/start--your-love-story-here [https://bit.ly/start--your-love-story-here] ☎️Have questions or need assistance? Call our hotline today at (504) 233-4006 In this episode of the After Hello Podcast, hosts Ann Parnes [https://www.linkedin.com/in/ann-parnes/] and Maria Murray [https://www.linkedin.com/in/maria-murray-bewell] look into the risks of dating, discussing when it's worth taking a leap and when the signs point to walking away. They tackle real-life dating dilemmas from callers, including one about navigating long-distance relationships, another about the complexities of attraction and compatibility, and a third about the challenge of creating chemistry on dates. The hosts share valuable insights on how to be vulnerable, recognize patterns, and make smarter dating decisions, all while balancing the excitement of romance with the realities of life and career. The first caller: Adam, a 42-year-old man, shares his frustration about dating, where the women who are interested in him don’t excite him, and the women he’s interested in don’t reciprocate. He seeks advice on how to break this pattern. The second caller: David, a 41-year-old professional, is facing an office romance dilemma. He’s developed a personal connection with a colleague and wonders if it’s worth pursuing despite potential career risks and complications. The third caller: Jason See, a 38-year-old, who often experiences dating frustration asks for advice on how to create genuine attraction and chemistry on dates when the conversations are good, but the spark is missing by the end of the evening. Expect to Learn 1. How Dating Changes Later in Life: Discover how your relationship goals evolve as you gain more life experience. 2. Balancing Attraction and Compatibility: Learn how to find a balance between physical attraction and long-term emotional connection. 3. Making Long-Distance Work: Get insights on when long-distance relationships can work and how to make them thrive. 4. Dating With Clear Intentions: Explore how to communicate your relationship goals to build meaningful connections. 5. Risk and Reward in Dating: Understand how to assess dating risks and decide when they’re worth taking. EPISODE BREAKDOWN WITH TIMESTAMPS: [00:00] Teaser. [00:46] Introduction to taking risks in dating. [01:23] Common dating patterns and self-sabotage issues. [02:34] First caller Adam’s struggle with attraction spark. [05:03] Breaking unhealthy patterns in modern dating. [07:54] Attraction intuition and attachment style discussion. [23:30] Second caller David’s office romance concerns. [34:12] Evaluating risks of workplace relationships carefully. [36:39] Knowing when to move beyond work boundaries. [46:14] Third caller seeking chemistry on dates. [49:51] Creating chemistry without overthinking romantic interactions. [54:25] Role of location in shaping attraction dynamics. [01:10:43] Final advice on taking dating risks wisely. Follow the Hosts: 👉 Ann Parnes - LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/ann-parnes/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/ann-parnes/] - Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/ann.parnes/ [https://www.facebook.com/ann.parnes/] - Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/annparnes/ [https://www.instagram.com/annparnes/] 👉 Follow Maria Murray - LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/maria-murray-bewell [https://www.linkedin.com/in/maria-murray-bewell] - Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/bewell.maria/ [https://www.instagram.com/bewell.maria/] Follow After Hello Podcast: 👉 Website - https://www.afterhello.com/ [https://www.afterhello.com/] 👉 Youtube - https://www.youtube.com/@AfterHelloMatchmaking [https://www.youtube.com/@AfterHelloMatchmaking] 👉 Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/afterhellomatchmaker/ [https://www.facebook.com/afterhellomatchmaker/] 👉 Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/afterhellomatchmaking/ [https://www.instagram.com/afterhellomatchmaking/] 👉 Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@afterhello [https://www.tiktok.com/@afterhello]

Five Accomplished Singles on What They Actually Want in a Partner

Ready to rewrite your love story? Join the After Hello registry here: https://bit.ly/start--your-love-story-here [https://bit.ly/start--your-love-story-here] ☎️Have questions or need assistance? Call our hotline today at (504) 233-4006 In this episode of the After Hello Podcast, hosts Ann Parnes [https://www.linkedin.com/in/ann-parnes/] and Maria Murray [https://www.linkedin.com/in/maria-murray-bewell] explore the concept of "built lives, chosen love" with a remarkable group of guests. They are joined by Keith Guillory [https://www.linkedin.com/in/keith-guillory-3265b73/], a successful real estate and biotech entrepreneur, who is ready to embrace love at this exciting stage of life. Keith is accompanied by Sally Connolly [http://linkedin.com/in/sally-connolly-63724716], an inventor and entrepreneur; Joni Miller [https://www.linkedin.com/in/jonimiller], a retired adventurer; https://www.linkedin.com/in/susan-r-scott?utm_source=share_via&utm_content=profile&utm_medium=member_iosSusan Scott [https://www.linkedin.com/in/susan-r-scott?utm_source=share_via&utm_content=profile&utm_medium=member_ios], an emotionally grounded insurance underwriter and swing dancer; and Kerry Andersen [https://www.linkedin.com/in/kerryandersen/], a PR consultant and breast cancer survivor with a passion for wildlife preservation. Together, they explore what it means to find love when you’ve already built a fulfilling life and are now looking for a partner who complements that. The episode highlights the importance of shared values, emotional maturity, and finding connection at a later stage in life. As the group discusses their personal journeys and visions for the future, Keith reflects on what he’s looking for in a partner. Each of the women brings unique perspectives on love, partnership, and adventure, leading to a thoughtful and inspiring conversation about the power of intentional connection. By the end of the episode, there’s a sense of excitement and possibility as Keith contemplates the next steps in his journey, with potential future connections on the horizon. Expect to Learn How embracing love later in life means prioritizing emotional readiness and connection over timing. What qualities are most important when seeking a partner who complements an already fulfilled life. The impact of shared values and life experiences in building meaningful, intentional relationships. How adventures and personal growth shape the dating experience for those with established careers and families. Insights on navigating modern dating from real-life conversations that reveal compatibility beyond profiles and first impressions. Episode Breakdown with Timestamps [00:00] - Teaser [01:30] - Introduction to the episode and the concept of "built lives, chosen love" [03:50] - Keith introduces his background: Fitness, family, and the joy of simple pleasures [08:13] - What Keith is looking for in a partner and how it might impact his lifestyle [11:37] - Sally describes her ideal beachside lifestyle, travel adventures, and entrepreneurial journey [14:43] - Joni talks about adventure, scuba diving, and her dream of climbing Kilimanjaro [18:25] - Joni shares the emotional story of skydiving with her 90-year-old father [19:18] - Susan introduces her love for Nashville, mentoring students, and swing dancing [24:12] – Kerry opens up about reinvention, surviving breast cancer, and dating priorities [26:16] – Discussion on old-fashioned values, manners, and relationship considerations (Group) [32:39] – Kerry and Keith explore critical thinking, science, and medical breakthroughs [39:02] – Keith asks compatibility questions; Sally shares travel lessons and life perspectives [41:55] – Joni and Keith discuss adventure, cultural exploration, and global experiences [44:45] – Susan reflects on gratitude, joy, and appreciating life and family [01:04:06] – Final reflections from the group on intentional love, meaningful connection, and partnership Follow the Guests: 👉 Keith Guillory LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/keith-guillory-3265b73/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/keith-guillory-3265b73/] 👉 Joni Miller LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/jonimiller [https://www.linkedin.com/in/jonimiller] 👉 Sally Connolly LinkedIn - http://linkedin.com/in/sally-connolly-63724716 [http://linkedin.com/in/sally-connolly-63724716] 👉 Susan Scott LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/susan-r-scott/https://www.linkedin.com/in/susan-r-scott/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/susan-r-scott/] Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/susansc1966/ [https://www.instagram.com/susansc1966?igsh=NnJiZ3JzaWgzZnY%3D&utm_source=qr] 👉 Kerry Anderson LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/kerryandersen/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/kerryandersen/] Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/kerryandersen/ [https://www.instagram.com/kerryandersen/] Follow the Hosts: 👉 Ann Parnes - LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/ann-parnes/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/ann-parnes/] - Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/ann.parnes/ [https://www.facebook.com/ann.parnes/] - Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/annparnes/ [https://www.instagram.com/annparnes/] 👉 Follow Maria Murray - LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/maria-murray-bewell [https://www.linkedin.com/in/maria-murray-bewell] - Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/bewell.maria/ [https://www.instagram.com/bewell.maria/] Follow After Hello Podcast: 👉 Website - https://www.afterhello.com/ [https://www.afterhello.com/] 👉 Youtube - https://www.youtube.com/@AfterHelloMatchmaking [https://www.youtube.com/@AfterHelloMatchmaking] 👉 Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/afterhellomatchmaker/ [https://www.facebook.com/afterhellomatchmaker/] 👉 Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/afterhellomatchmaking/ [https://www.instagram.com/afterhellomatchmaking/] 👉 Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@afterhello [https://www.tiktok.com/@afterhello]

Dating After 50 Is Harder Than Ever for Divorced Singles Who Want Real Love Again

Ready to rewrite your love story? Join the After Hello registry here: https://bit.ly/start--your-love-story-here [https://bit.ly/start--your-love-story-here] ☎️Have questions or need assistance? Call our hotline today at (504) 233-4006 In this episode of the After Hello Podcast, hosts Ann Parnes [https://www.linkedin.com/in/ann-parnes/] and Maria Murray [https://www.linkedin.com/in/maria-murray-bewell] answer questions from people over 50 who are returning to dating after long relationships. They discuss topics like long distance connections, attraction versus compatibility, and dating with clear intentions after divorce. The hosts share practical advice on communication, understanding personal needs, and building relationships that match each person’s stage of life. The first caller: Paul, a 51 year old man from Providence, Rhode Island, asks if a long distance connection is worth pursuing with a woman he met while traveling. The second caller: Mark, is a 54-year-old from Orange County, shares his struggle with feeling attraction toward women his age while also wanting a stable partner. The third caller: Phillip from Louisiana, New Orleans, asks how to date with intention after divorce while being honest about not wanting to remarry soon and where to go on dates. Expect to Learn * How Dating Changes Later in Life: Understand how goals, priorities, and relationship needs shift after long marriages and life experience. * Balancing Attraction and Compatibility: Learn how to approach physical attraction while also focusing on emotional connection and long term fit. * Making Long Distance Work: Gain insight into when a long distance relationship is realistic and how to stay connected over time. * Dating With Clear Intentions: Explore how to communicate your goals, including views on commitment and marriage, while building a meaningful relationship. Episode Breakdown with Timestamps [00:00] - Teaser [01:15] - Dating After Long Marriages: Navigating Life Changes and Finding Love Again After 50 [04:17] - Common Dating Patterns and Self Sabotage [08:44] - First Caller on Long Distance Relationship [10:48] - When Long Distance Relationships Make Sense [19:38] - Absence and Staying Connected in Relationships [22:47] - Second Caller on Attraction and Compatibility [24:30] - Dating After Divorce: Attraction vs Emotional Connection [37:32] - Third Caller on Dating Intentions After Divorce [44:39] - Communicating Views on Marriage and Commitment [50:14] - Date Ideas for Mature Adults [53:13] - Final Advice for Dating Later in Life Follow the Hosts: 👉 Ann Parnes - LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/ann-parnes/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/ann-parnes/] - Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/ann.parnes/ [https://www.facebook.com/ann.parnes/] - Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/annparnes/ [https://www.instagram.com/annparnes/] 👉 Follow Maria Murray - LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/maria-murray-bewell [https://www.linkedin.com/in/maria-murray-bewell] - Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/bewell.maria/ [https://www.instagram.com/bewell.maria/] Follow After Hello Podcast: 👉 Website - https://www.afterhello.com/ [https://www.afterhello.com/] 👉 Youtube - https://www.youtube.com/@AfterHelloMatchmaking [https://www.youtube.com/@AfterHelloMatchmaking] 👉 Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/afterhellomatchmaker/ [https://www.facebook.com/afterhellomatchmaker/] 👉 Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/afterhellomatchmaking/ [https://www.instagram.com/afterhellomatchmaking/] 👉 Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@afterhello [https://www.tiktok.com/@afterhello]

The Emotionally Available Men Are the New Sexy in Modern Dating

Ready to rewrite your love story? Join the After Hello registry here: https://bit.ly/start--your-love-story-here [https://bit.ly/start--your-love-story-here] ☎️Have questions or need assistance? Call our hotline today at (504) 233-4006 In this episode of the After Hello Podcast, hosts Ann Parnes [https://www.linkedin.com/in/ann-parnes/] and Maria Murray [https://www.linkedin.com/in/maria-murray-bewell] explore the shift from nonchalant dating to “Chalant dating”, a more intentional, emotionally present approach to building relationships. Blending thoughtful conversation with a live matchmaking format, they create space for authentic dialogue about connection and compatibility. They’re joined by John Andoh [https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-andoh-1a70b374], a 32 year old attorney who values emotional depth, faith, and long-term partnership, along with four accomplished women: Aisha Cook [https://www.linkedin.com/in/aishacook/], a biosafety officer who prioritizes presence and travel; Amanda, an architect and interior designer driven by creativity and growth; Indya Ajai [https://www.instagram.com/indya_ajai/], [https://www.instagram.com/indya_ajai/] a Doctor of Pharmacy turned spiritual teacher focused on intentional living; and Jessica Hawkins [https://www.instagram.com/jhawk421/], a criminal defense attorney who values honesty and direct communication. Through candid exchanges, the episode highlights the power of vulnerability, mutual effort, humor, and alignment showing how meaningful chemistry begins when people choose to show up with clarity and intention. Expect to Learn * How “Chalant dating” encourages intentional effort, clear communication, and emotional presence in modern relationships. * What accomplished, career driven singles truly value when seeking alignment in love and partnership. * The importance of vulnerability, humor, and mutual curiosity in building authentic chemistry. * How personal growth, spirituality, career ambition, and lifestyle preferences influence compatibility. * Insights from a live matchmaking style dating experience about what really matters beyond first impressions. Episode Breakdown with Timestamps [00:00] - Teaser [00:55] - Ann Parnes and Maria Murray explain the rise of "Chalant Dating" and the move toward intentional, effort-based connections. [01:20] - The shift from nonchalant dating to intentional connections, emphasizing clear communication and showing up with purpose. [04:03] - John Andoh discusses his values, emotional vulnerability, and his approach to finding a long-term partner. [07:59] - The importance of mutual effort in dating, explaining why effort, honesty, and vulnerability are key to modern relationships. [09:19] - John talks about how vulnerability is key to building meaningful connections and how it impacts dating dynamics. [21:44] - Introduction to the girls - Aisha, Amanda, Indya, and Jessica share their values and what they seek in a partner. [25:46] - The women talk about emotional safety & what makes them feel emotionally safe and valued in a relationship. [39:41] - The women answer questions from John and the hosts, covering personal values, deal-breakers, and what makes them feel connected. [01:17:22] - Ann’s insights as a matchmaker what she’s noticing in the conversations, highlighting emotional connection and alignment among the group. [01:23:22] - Final reflections, discussing the importance of mutual effort and emotional clarity in forming lasting relationships. Follow the Guests: John Andoh - LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-andoh-1a70b374 [https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-andoh-1a70b374] Aisha Cook - LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/aishacook/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/aishacook/] Jessica Hawkins - Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jhawk421/ [https://www.instagram.com/jhawk421/] Indya Ajai - Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/indya_ajai/ [https://www.instagram.com/indya_ajai/] Follow the Hosts: 👉 Ann Parnes - LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/ann-parnes/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/ann-parnes/] - Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/ann.parnes/ [https://www.facebook.com/ann.parnes/] - Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/annparnes/ [https://www.instagram.com/annparnes/] 👉 Follow Maria Murray - LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/maria-murray-bewell [https://www.linkedin.com/in/maria-murray-bewell] - Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/bewell.maria/ [https://www.instagram.com/bewell.maria/] Follow After Hello Podcast: 👉 Website - https://www.afterhello.com/ [https://www.afterhello.com/] 👉 Youtube - https://www.youtube.com/@AfterHelloMatchmaking [https://www.youtube.com/@AfterHelloMatchmaking] 👉 Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/afterhellomatchmaker/ [https://www.facebook.com/afterhellomatchmaker/] 👉 Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/afterhellomatchmaking/ [https://www.instagram.com/afterhellomatchmaking/] 👉 Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@afterhello [https://www.tiktok.com/@afterhello]

When to Walk Away in Dating for Smart Singles to Stop Waiting and Trust the Signs Sooner

Ready to rewrite your love story? Join the After Hello registry here: https://bit.ly/start--your-love-story-here [https://bit.ly/start--your-love-story-here] ☎️Have questions or need assistance? Call our hotline today at (504) 233-4006 In this episode of the After Hello podcast, hosts Ann Parnes [https://www.linkedin.com/in/ann-parnes/] and Maria Murray [https://www.linkedin.com/in/maria-murray-bewell] explore real-life relationship dilemmas that many people face when it comes to balancing personal connections and timing. The first caller: Adeline from New Orleans, asks about how long to give a relationship before deciding it’s not the right connection. She struggles with finding the right balance between being patient and noticing potential red flags. The second caller: Jeff, is a 42-year-old from San Diego who is in a relatively new relationship and is uncertain about the right time to start blending his life with his partner’s, especially regarding meeting friends and family.. The third caller: David from Scottsdale, a corporate professional, shares his concerns about feeling unsupported in social settings that are important for his career and wonders about the future of his relationship. Expect to Learn * How Timing Impacts Relationships: Discover how timing plays a crucial role in dating decisions, from figuring out when to move forward in a relationship to when it's time to walk away. * The Role of Personal Values in Dating: Learn how identifying your non-negotiables and recognizing relationship patterns can help you make better decisions in love. * Integrating Your Partner Into Your Life: Gain insights into when and how to introduce a partner to your social circles, including friends and family, while maintaining a balanced relationship pace. * Navigating Relationship Expectations in the Professional World: Explore how busy professionals especially those in high-pressure careers like tech manage to balance ambition with meaningful personal connections. Episode Breakdown with Timestamps [00:00] - Teaser [00:40] - Introduction: Discussing Dating and Timing [02:24] - How Long to Give a Connection Before Deciding? [03:51] - Identifying Non-Negotiables in Relationships [05:43] - The Danger of Making Excuses in Relationships [06:42] - The Importance of Timing and Alignment in Relationships [10:06] - Three to Six Month Timeline for Serious Dating [11:47] - Question on Integrating Lives and Meeting Family [16:03] - Inclusion in Someone’s Life Reflects Genuine Interest [19:39] - How Many Dates Before Becoming Exclusive? [24:30] - Instinct to “Lock It Down” Quickly When Excited About a Match Follow the Hosts: 👉 Ann Parnes - LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/ann-parnes/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/ann-parnes/] - Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/ann.parnes/ [https://www.facebook.com/ann.parnes/] - Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/annparnes/ [https://www.instagram.com/annparnes/] 👉 Follow Maria Murray - LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/maria-murray-bewell [https://www.linkedin.com/in/maria-murray-bewell] - Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/bewell.maria/ [https://www.instagram.com/bewell.maria/] Follow After Hello Podcast: 👉 Website - https://www.afterhello.com/ [https://www.afterhello.com/] 👉 Youtube - https://www.youtube.com/@AfterHelloMatchmaking [https://www.youtube.com/@AfterHelloMatchmaking] 👉 Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/afterhellomatchmaker/ [https://www.facebook.com/afterhellomatchmaker/] 👉 Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/afterhellomatchmaking/ [https://www.instagram.com/afterhellomatchmaking/] 👉 Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@afterhello [https://www.tiktok.com/@afterhello]