EP16: The Navy SEAL Doctor on Sleep, Testosterone, Relationships, and Psychedelics | Dr. Kirk Parsley

EP16: The Navy SEAL Doctor on Sleep, Testosterone, Relationships, and Psychedelics | Dr. Kirk Parsley

Show Notes Most of us in midlife reach for the fix last and sacrifice sleep first. Dr. Kirk Parsley spent a career proving we have it backwards. Kirk earned his trident as a Navy SEAL at 19, left the teams, and came back years later as their doctor. What he found treating the fittest men on the planet is that almost everything they complained about, the fog, the short fuse, the body that would not respond, traced back to the one thing none of them mentioned. They were not sleeping, and most were leaning on Ambien to get through the night. This is the honest conversation about sleep, testosterone, and recovery in midlife. We get into why you build muscle while you sleep and not in the gym, why deep sleep is the recovery lever you actually control after 40, and the near one-to-one link Kirk’s team documented between a man’s testosterone and his time in bed. On testosterone he holds a credible middle ground: fix the foundation first, understand the real ceiling that comes with age, and know that a “normal” lab range mostly means you’re average in a country that isn’t healthy. Then we move it out of the gym. Kirk lays out what a bad night does to a man’s threat perception, why a tired version of you hears an attack in an ordinary comment from your wife, and the simple, honest move he uses at home: when he wakes up off, he says so before the day starts. We close on the brain, including what psychedelics may be doing for neuroplasticity and trauma, and his point that the medicine opens a window. But the change comes from the work you do afterward. A couple of notes for the record. The book Kirk references on LSD and creativity is Michael Pollan’s How to Change Your Mind. And the Alzheimer’s recovery he mentions is a single published case report (Frontiers in Neuroscience, 2026): one patient given psilocybin mushrooms, not a clinical trial, so read it as a striking anecdote, not settled science. Find Doc Parsley at docparsley.com [https://docparsley.com/] and sleepremedy.com [https://docparsley.com/get-sleep-now/]. Against the Fade. Don’t fade. Chapters 1:00 SEAL at 19, then walking away from the teams 4:00 Becoming a doctor and coming back to the SEALs 9:00 Building the SEAL clinic and the Ambien discovery 17:00 You build muscle in your sleep, not the gym 20:00 Sleep Remedy, built as the anti-Ambien 24:00 Sleep as the foundation under the other pillars 29:00 Repair, prepare, and why aging is unfinished recovery 32:00 The 80/20 rule for handling life’s stressors 36:00 The hard truth about building muscle after 40 44:00 Testosterone: lifestyle first, and the real ceiling 48:00 What “normal range” actually means 54:00 The near one-to-one link between testosterone and sleep 59:00 Sleep, threat perception, and marriage communication 1:08:00 “If I seem off today, don’t take it personally” 1:09:00 Psychedelics, the brain, and an Alzheimer’s case report 1:19:00 Neuroplasticity, and why the work comes after 1:26:00 LSD, Michael Pollan, and the cycle of fear 1:28:00 Where to find Doc Against the Fade — For Men Who Refuse to Fade in Midlife New episodes every Tuesday. Newsletter & resources: https://againstthefade.com [https://againstthefade.com]  Instagram: https://instagram.com/againstthefadepodcast [https://instagram.com/againstthefadepodcast]  TikTok: https://tiktok.com/@againstthefadepodcast [https://tiktok.com/@againstthefadepodcast]  X/Twitter: https://x.com/dontfadepodcast [https://x.com/dontfadepodcast]  YouTube: https://youtube.com/@againstthefadepodcast [https://youtube.com/@againstthefadepodcast] A Second Summit Podcast.

EP15: Setting the Standard

You learned how to be a man by watching one, and quietly copying him. Somewhere along the line the camera turned around. Now we’re the men younger guys are watching, whether we signed up for it or not. This solo episode makes the case that the work we do in midlife on our health, our marriages, and our character never stays private, and that we’re all setting a standard for the men coming up behind us. The only question is how high. What we get into: •       Why character takes all three valleys, not just the body •       Generativity, the midlife pull to pour ourselves into what comes after us •       The role model gap facing young men today, and what fills it •       A simple weekly audit to start raising your standard this week Referenced in this episode: Richard Reeves, Of Boys and Men. Against the Fade. Don’t fade.  Against the Fade — For Men Who Refuse to Fade in Midlife New episodes every Tuesday. Newsletter & resources: https://againstthefade.com [https://againstthefade.com]  Instagram: https://instagram.com/againstthefadepodcast [https://instagram.com/againstthefadepodcast]  TikTok: https://tiktok.com/@againstthefadepodcast [https://tiktok.com/@againstthefadepodcast]  X/Twitter: https://x.com/dontfadepodcast [https://x.com/dontfadepodcast]  YouTube: https://youtube.com/@againstthefadepodcast [https://youtube.com/@againstthefadepodcast] A Second Summit Podcast.

EP14: The Finish Line That Keeps Moving | Tripp Lanier

Most of us are waiting for permission. To relax, to take the risk, to finally live the life we keep telling ourselves we’ll get to once we retire, once the kids are grown, once we hit the number. Tripp Lanier calls it the finish line that keeps moving, and he’s spent more than twenty years coaching men who crossed it and found new problems waiting on the other side. Tripp is a men’s coach, host of The New Man Podcast, and author of This Book Will Make You Dangerous. In this conversation we get into why so many of us hit midlife running on a fraction of our power, what we have to let go of to move forward, and the difference between being genuinely burned out and being out of alignment. He also shares the question he asked one client about money and time that left the man in tears. It reframes a bargain a lot of us are making without noticing. This is not the guy yelling at us to dominate, and it’s not the guy asking us to perform our feelings on cue. It’s the ground in between. One note on a moment in the episode: when Tripp lays out the Hunter versus Prey idea, the quick version is that prey animals (deer, rabbits) have eyes on the sides of their heads, built to scan for danger, while hunters (predators) have eyes facing forward, locked on what they want. Most of us move through midlife like prey, playing not to lose. The call is to face forward. Find Tripp at triplanier.com [https://www.tripplanier.com/] and listen to The New Man Podcast at newmanpodcast.com [https://www.thenewmanpodcast.com/]. Against the Fade. Don’t fade. Against the Fade — For Men Who Refuse to Fade in Midlife New episodes every Tuesday. Newsletter & resources: https://againstthefade.com [https://againstthefade.com]  Instagram: https://instagram.com/againstthefadepodcast [https://instagram.com/againstthefadepodcast]  TikTok: https://tiktok.com/@againstthefadepodcast [https://tiktok.com/@againstthefadepodcast]  X/Twitter: https://x.com/dontfadepodcast [https://x.com/dontfadepodcast]  YouTube: https://youtube.com/@againstthefadepodcast [https://youtube.com/@againstthefadepodcast] A Second Summit Podcast.

Protein After 40: How Much Do Men Actually Need

If you're over 40 and you've been told to just eat "enough" protein, you've been told the wrong thing. The number is higher than you think, and the rules changed when you crossed 40. In this Straight Sets episode, I break down what protein actually does, why anabolic resistance changes the game after 40, and the daily protein targets most middle-aged men are missing. You'll get a save-able framework, a sample day for a 200-pound man, and the grocery anchors that make hitting your number boring and automatic. Sample Day (Save This) For a 200-pound man.  Target: 0.7 to 1.0g of protein per pound of body weight per day. Breakfast: 3-4 whole eggs + a cup of Greek yogurt or cottage cheese (40-50g) Lunch: 6 oz chicken, beef, or fish + any side (40-50g) Dinner: 6 oz chicken, beef, or fish + any side (40-50g) Gap-filler (if needed): 1 scoop whey isolate + 1 cup milk (30-35g)  Grocery Anchors Eggs and dairy: eggs, Greek yogurt, cottage cheese Meat and fish: chicken breast or thighs, ground beef, steak, salmon, white fish, canned tuna Milk: whole or 2 percent (8g protein per cup) Shake: whey isolate (or isolate-concentrate blend if cost matters), simple ingredients, no added sugar  Tracking Framework Track everything for 3-4 days. Don't change anything yet. Just see where you actually are. Compare your average daily protein to your target. The gap is your work. Close the gap with the smallest change possible. Then stop tracking once the habit is locked in.   Mentioned in This Episode •       EP9 — Recovery After 40 (anabolic resistance reference) •       MyFitnessPal, Cronometer (tracking apps) Against the Fade — For Men Who Refuse to Fade in Midlife New episodes every Tuesday. Newsletter & resources: https://againstthefade.com [https://againstthefade.com]  Instagram: https://instagram.com/againstthefadepodcast [https://instagram.com/againstthefadepodcast]  TikTok: https://tiktok.com/@againstthefadepodcast [https://tiktok.com/@againstthefadepodcast]  X/Twitter: https://x.com/dontfadepodcast [https://x.com/dontfadepodcast]  YouTube: https://youtube.com/@againstthefadepodcast [https://youtube.com/@againstthefadepodcast] A Second Summit Podcast.

Straight Sets: Warming Up After 40

It's easy to cut corners on the warm-up. We tell ourselves a few leg swings is enough, or we get sucked into the 30-minute Instagram mobility routine that eats half our gym time. Neither one is right.    In this episode of Straight Sets, I break down what a warm-up actually does in your body, what changes after 40 that makes it matter more, where the influencers and conventional wisdom get it wrong, and a four-step framework you can plug into your next session. I also share why I don't always take my own advice on this one, and what the research says about how a proper warm-up affects your recovery the next day.    You'll get a science-backed RAMP framework (Raise, Activate, Mobilize, Potentiate), a sample 10-minute warm-up you can use on your next training day, and the one thing to try this week to see what changes.  SAMPLE 10-MINUTE WARM-UP (LOWER BODY DAY, SQUATS AS MAIN LIFT)   RAISE (3-5 min): 4 minutes on the bike, easy effort. Light sweat, not exhausted.   ACTIVATE (2-3 min): One round of 10 glute bridges, 10 band pull-aparts, 10 dead bugs.   MOBILIZE (2-3 min): 30 seconds on three things. Half-kneeling hip flexor stretch. Deep squat hold. Ankle rocks against a wall.   POTENTIATE (2-3 min): Squat the empty bar for 8 reps. Then 95 lbs for 5. Then 135 for 5. Then 185 for 3. Then into your working weight. (weights are just examples)   Total: about 10 minutes. Against the Fade — For Men Who Refuse to Fade in Midlife New episodes every Tuesday. Newsletter & resources: https://againstthefade.com [https://againstthefade.com]  Instagram: https://instagram.com/againstthefadepodcast [https://instagram.com/againstthefadepodcast]  TikTok: https://tiktok.com/@againstthefadepodcast [https://tiktok.com/@againstthefadepodcast]  X/Twitter: https://x.com/dontfadepodcast [https://x.com/dontfadepodcast]  YouTube: https://youtube.com/@againstthefadepodcast [https://youtube.com/@againstthefadepodcast] A Second Summit Podcast.