Beliefs our Parents Gave Are Still Running Your Life Here's How to Find Them | Nyambe Sumbwanyambe

Beliefs our Parents Gave Are Still Running Your Life Here's How to Find Them | Nyambe Sumbwanyambe

What's the cost to you if you stay in the small shoes? That's the question that opens this episode. And it doesn't let go Nyambe Sumbwanyambe - known to everyone as Yam - spent 20 years in the pharmaceutical industry helping underrepresented talent navigate the unwritten rules of career progression. Now, through the Black Sherpa and the 29K Club he's doing it on his own terms. But this conversation goes way deeper than career advice. We talk about the beliefs that were handed to us in childhood and are still quietly running the show. The phrases we heard so many times they became fact. People like us don't do things like that. Don't get too big for your boots. Be grateful you're here. You're gonna have to work twice as hard. We talk about third culture kids and the tension of growing up between two worlds. We talk about fatherhood as the greatest leadership challenge there is. We talk about why men sit in semi-silence next to each other, thinking about the hard stuff but almost never actually say it out loud. And Yam turns the tables completely - firing limitations at Andy one by one and watching him unpack them live on air, including the gulp. You'll see the gulp. This one got under my skin. I think it'll get under yours, too. If any of this resonates, I created a free audit that shows you what's actually running the show underneath all of it. Ten minutes. No fluff. Just clarity. Take it here: https://illimitable.co.uk/lifeaudit =================== Follow on The Podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theillimitablepodcast Subscribe so you never miss an episode. =================== Connect with : Yam Website: https://www.instagram.com/justnvs LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/nyambesumbwanyambe Instagram: https://www.theblacksherpa.com ===================

He Did Everything Right Worked Less Came Home More His Son Still Said "Dad's Never Here

He cut his hours in half. Built his whole business around being home for his kids. Stopped taking clients who could text him at night. And then his eight year old son told his mum "dad works all the time." That moment broke Jerry Potter. And it sent him down a path that changed everything. Because here's the thing nobody tells you when you go self-employed. You can do less and still feel like more. You can be physically present and completely absent. You can build the life you wanted for your family and still have them experience you as gone. That gap. That's what this episode is about. Jerry Potter is the founder of Done By Lunch. He helps self-employed business owners grow a lead-generating YouTube channel in 90 minutes a week so they can actually stop working at noon and mean it. In this conversation, we go deep on the stuff that actually matters. Why working less isn't about discipline. It's about design. Why separating decisions from actions is the single most powerful productivity shift he's ever made. Why recovering people pleasers and recovering perfectionists are running most self-employed businesses straight into the ground? And why nobody ever knocks off at lunchtime when they're quietly terrified about next month. If any of this resonates, I created a free audit that shows you what's actually running the show underneath all of it. Ten minutes. No fluff. Just clarity. Take it here: https://illimitable.co.uk/lifeaudit =================== Follow on The Podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theillimitablepodcast Subscribe so you never miss an episode: @theillimitablepodcast =================== Connect with Jerry Potter: Website: https://donebylunch.co LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/mrjerrypotter Instagram: https://instagram.com/mrjerrypotter =================== 0:00 — His son said dad works all the time. He was doing 25 hours a week. 0:29 — How Jerry got Andy off his backside and started this podcast 2:23 — Why 90% of podcasts are dead by episode 3 3:05 — The vulnerability hangover of putting yourself out there 4:13 — From shy introverted kid to radio presenter 5:09 — How a stranger on LinkedIn accidentally launched his business 6:09 — The moment that changed everything 7:28 — The hardest thing about entrepreneurship nobody warns you about 8:40 — Stop the to-do list. Start the high leverage list. 10:27 — Building your business as the opposite of everything you hated 11:46 — How Done By Lunch actually started (it began with a Friday lunch date) 13:25 — Parkinson's Law and why AI is quietly making it worse 14:42 — Using AI on a morning hike to move ideas forward before 6am 16:17 — Doing the same thing on the beach with the dogs 18:35 — The Ask Jeeves conspiracy theory 19:00 — Superman, superhero t-shirts and why optimism is a superpower 20:12 — Jerry's kryptonite (he runs his business on vibes) 22:46 — The emotional trauma of watching your unsubscribes 24:08 — What work life harmony actually means 27:42 — What Jerry wishes he knew when he became an entrepreneur 28:17 — Separate decisions from actions and watch everything change 30:09 — The Ted Lasso parenting lesson that actually works 32:34 — The one song that makes every single day feel like a vacation

He Bet On Himself Early. It Paid Off. What's Stopping You? | Rohan Molligoda.

Rohan Molligoda bet on himself before he had any reason to. No track record. No safety net. Just a pizza shop in Woolacombe, a belief that it'd work out, and a quiet decision. If it falls apart, we rebuild. It didn't fall apart. Two businesses. Four kids. Winters in Sri Lanka. A community that showed up when everything got hard. A life built entirely on his own terms. In this conversation, he breaks down exactly how that happened. The risks he took, the stuff that nearly broke him, what changed when the kids arrived, and why he still gets in the water even when the surf is rubbish. If you're listening to that and feeling something stir, that quiet voice asking what's actually stopping you, I created a free audit for exactly that moment. Link below. → Take the Life Audit: https://illimitable.co.uk/lifeaudit 00:00 — Accepting support is the hardest part 00:21 — How Rohan set the pathway for everyone 00:53 — Doing everything before his friends — marriage, kids, business 01:54 — Skiing, Steph, and the first no that became a yes 02:36 — How do you have your coffee? 03:30 — How Rohan got into coffee by accident 05:05 — Starting a coffee business with a surfing accountant 06:29 — Getting into Woolacombe at the right time 07:13 — Where the entrepreneurial spark really came from 09:06 — The pizza shop freehold and the people who believed in him 10:04 — Crisis management as a superpower 10:29 — If it fails we're young — we can just rebuild 11:53 — How kids changed everything 13:05 — This is a lifestyle business not a make me a millionaire business 14:41 — What Woolacombe actually means to him 15:57 — Why the water fixes everything 17:20 — Watching the next generation skate and surf 18:06 — Risk, age and watching your kids have zero fear 18:51 — Work life harmony is actually seasonal harmony 19:49 — Sri Lanka, the Iran situation and two months away 21:05 — How old are the kids now 22:02 — What he wishes he knew as a parent on day one 23:36 — Accepting support is the hardest part 24:09 — What he wishes he knew when he started his business 26:56 — Have a flexible plan — not a fixed one 28:01 — Photography, surfing and protecting what you love 30:51 — When your passion becomes your business 33:35 — Why he will never turn surfing into a business 34:08 — The one song that gets him going every time =================== Andy Casey Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/andycaseyuk Linkedin | https://www.linkedin.com/in/andycaseyuk =================== Rohan Molligoda Woolacombe Pizza: https://www.instagram.com/woolacombepizza Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/wikidslippers ===================

I Died Twice on the Streets. Now I Heal the Elite | Dr. Robb Kelly

I Died Twice on the streets of Manchester before I found The Cure for Addiction. If you think Alcoholism is a choice or a lack of willpower, this conversation with Dr. Robb Kelly will change everything you know about the brain. I sat down with Robb—a world-renowned Neuroscientist and Recovery Expert—to talk about how he went from being a top session bass player at Abbey Road (playing for David Bowie and Elton John) to losing his family, his home, and his life on a stinky back street in England. Dr. Robb has a 98% success rate in curing Chronic Addiction, and he does it by treating the causes, not the symptoms. We dive deep into the Neuroscience of Addiction, the role of the Hypothalamus, and why traditional 12-Step Programs often fail the people who need them most. If you’re struggling with Mental Health, Trauma Recovery, or Alcohol Abuse, this No-BS guide to rewiring your brain is the most powerful story I’ve ever shared on this podcast. In this episode of The Coffee Chaos and Confidence Podcast, we cover: The Neuroscience of Addiction: Why the brain stops choosing and starts surviving. Celebrity Recovery Stories: Working with Eddie Van Halen and turning down Matthew Perry. The Abbey Road Years: Sessions with Freddie Mercury, Bowie, and Stevie Wonder. Family System Success: Why involving the spouse increases recovery rates by 42%. The "Guardian Angel": The mysterious man who saved Robb’s life and vanished. =================== About me, Andy Casey =================== 🎯 START YOUR DAY RIGHT: Your mornings probably start with everyone else's agenda taking over immediately. This can all change in just 9 minutes with Andy's FREE Morning Meditation: https://illimitable.co.uk/morning Get your hands on an illimitable Planner https://amzn.eu/d/grjvRID =================== Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/andycaseyuk Youtube | https://youtube.com/@andy-coach-casey Linkedin | https://www.linkedin.com/in/andycaseyuk =================== Connect with Dr Robb Kelly : Website: https://www.robbkelly.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/addiction_doctor =================== 00:00 - I Died Twice: The reality of the Piccadilly Gardens bench. 01:25 - From Manchester Council Flats to a Bentley in Texas. 04:59 - Neuroscience: Why alcoholics are born, not made. 07:39 - The Hypothalamus: When "Choice" is taken away from the sick. 10:32 - The 98% Success Rate: Why Dr Robb doesn't use the 12 Steps. 12:37 - The Darkest Day: Stabbing my wife and losing my children. 15:39 - Why your PhD doesn't matter if you haven't been "Kicked in the Bollocks." 19:46 - The Bus Pattern: How to recognise the invisible loops in your brain. 22:36 - The 9 Actors Experiment: How your environment dictates your behaviour. 25:41 - Abbey Road: Playing bass for Bowie, Freddie Mercury, and Elton John. 29:47 - The "Aha" Moment: Why it was never about the alcohol. 31:34 - Alcohol-Free Beer: A dangerous relapse trigger for real alcoholics. 47:28 - Kicking Eddie Van Halen out of the car: Authority in recovery. 54:11 - Charlie’s Message: Meeting my granddaughter after 30 years. 1:02:15 - The Golden Gate Bridge Letter: A 2-word phrase that saves lives. 1:06:00 - The Girl in the Box: Why we choose the "Comfort" of trauma. 1:08:27 - "Says Who?": Dr Robb’s final challenge to you.

Why You Overeat Isn't About Willpower | The 7 Voids Exposed

Why You Actually Overeat isn't about willpower; it's about The 7 Voids of Disconnection. If you are struggling with Binge Eating Recovery, Food Noise, or Emotional Eating, you need to understand that Disordered Eating is a symptom of Disordered Living. I sat down with Sam Gibson to pull the curtain back on the Seven Voids—the environmental root causes of why we use food to escape a life we don't enjoy. Most gurus tell you to "just eat less," but that’s surface-level BS. We’re diving into the Nervous System Regulation and Mindset Transformation required to fill the voids in your work, relationships, and soul. If you’ve ever felt like you're "unhappy because you eat and eat because you're unhappy," this No-BS guide to the 7 Voids is the missing piece for your Weight Loss Mindset and Mental Health. In this episode of The Coffee Chaos and Confidence Podcast, we cover: The 7 Voids Framework: Mapping the disconnections driving your hunger. The RAPID & SOS Methods: Real-time tools to stop a binge. The Power of "Yet": Turning anxiety into an action signal. The 24-Hour Reset: Why you should NEVER restrict food after overreaching. The Chapters: 00:00 - Why You Actually Overeat: The Austin Powers Paradox. 02:42 - The 7 Voids: Mapping environmental disconnections. 06:45 - Disordered Eating vs. Disordered Living: Reframing the struggle. 07:33 - The 50 Pop-Tart Binge: Sam’s raw story of hitting rock bottom. 15:58 - The Bus Stop Moment: "I'm more afraid of dying than living." 19:19 - The Power of "Yet": Shifting anxiety into Confidence. 24:25 - Being the Observer: Managing negative emotions in the moment. 34:23 - Deep Dive into the Voids: Job, Relationships, and Hobbies. 39:44 - The RAPID Framework: Recognition and Intentional Response. 43:53 - The 24-Hour Reset: Why self-loathing kills progress. 51:00 - The 5 Types of Eaters: Which one are you? =================== About me, Andy Casey =================== 🎯 START YOUR DAY RIGHT: Your mornings probably start with everyone else's agenda taking over immediately. This can all change in just 9 minutes with Andy's FREE Morning Meditation: https://illimitable.co.uk/morning Get your hands on an illimitable Planner https://amzn.eu/d/grjvRID =================== Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/andycaseyuk Youtube | https://youtube.com/@andy-coach-casey Linkedin | https://www.linkedin.com/in/andycaseyuk =================== Connect with Sam Gibson: Website: www.samgibsonlimitless.co.uk LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sam-gibson-0754a51a3 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/samgibsonlimitless =================== #WhyYouOvereat #BingeEatingRecovery #EmotionalEating #SamGibson #AndyCasey #The7Voids #MindsetShift #FoodNoise