I Stopped Asking What's Wrong With Me | EP321

I Stopped Asking What's Wrong With Me | EP321

For years, every time another relationship ended, I asked the same question: what is wrong with me? Why does everyone else get the ring while I get another "it's not you, it's me" text? I figured the answer was out there somewhere, in the right man, the right timing, the right effort. Then I lost my mom, and in the middle of the hardest season of my life, the question changed on its own. Not what's wrong with me, but who am I without her? That's the season that taught me self-love isn't something you do while you wait for the relationship. It IS the relationship. IN THIS EPISODE: * Why "what's wrong with me" is the wrong question if you're stuck in your single season and ready to give up * The fear I felt every time I had to tell a man I wanted marriage, and why it pushed good ones away before they had a real chance * How grief turned my search for love into a search for myself, and why that changed everything * The 3-part self-love audit: what you're feeding yourself, what you believe about love, and whether you actually see how amazing you are TIMESTAMPS: 00:00 Single Season Struggle 01:22 Dating Streets Reality 02:47 Media Shapes Beliefs 04:50 Loss And Self Discovery 06:36 Called Up Not Out 07:40 Three Part Self Audit 13:11 Nothing Wrong With You 15:56 Invitation To Wholeness 16:54 Final Encouragement GET YOUR JOURNAL PROMPTS Friend, if you've been swirling in your single season way too long for your taste and you're high-key ready to give up, but you know after the next break you'll be right back on the dating scene hoping for different results, grab the Main Character Energy Journal Prompts 👉 Get Yours [https://encourageovereverything.com/shop] LET’S STAY CONNECTED 📍Come share what shifted for you after this episode. Drop a review, comment on a YouTube video, or hit reply on the weekly Love Notes newsletter. 💌Not on the Love Notes list yet? Join at the link below — it is the best way to stay connected and keep the encouragement coming straight to your inbox every week. 👉 Subscribe Here [https://encourageoe.myflodesk.com/mylib] 📺 New videos DAILY on YouTube: @EO_E [https://youtube.com/@eo_e] 🎙️ New podcast episodes every Tuesday and Thursday 🌐 encourageovereverything.com [http://encourageovereverything.com] 🎵 Music: It's Easy to Love You 💖💖 Confident and Empowered Women with Letitia Hopkins drops every Tuesday and Thursday. Subscribe so you never miss an episode. If today's conversation shifted something for you, leave a review — your words help other women find this podcast and there is a woman out there right now who needs exactly what you just heard.

Success and Secretly Falling Apart Becomes a Work of Art | EP 320

Have you ever had someone tell you "you are the strongest person I know," and smiled, said thank you, and let them walk away without ever telling them the truth? Friend, this episode is for the woman who looks completely fine on the outside while she's unraveling on the inside. I'm telling you about the season I built an entire life to prove people wrong, a corporate career, a great life as a single mom, success stacked on success, only to completely unravel when my mom made her transition to heaven and nobody around me even knew. I'm sharing what pulled me out of isolation, what grief actually taught me about loving myself, and the one question I need you to sit with if you're the one everybody calls strong. IN THIS EPISODE: ➡️ Why building enough success can become proof you're trying to hand someone else, instead of proof for you ➡️ What it really looks like when the "strong friend" is quietly falling apart, and why she chooses isolation nine times out of ten ➡️ The invitation you keep turning down, and who's still waiting for you to accept it ➡️ Why grief is a shedding process, and what it stripped away so the truest version of me could show up ➡️ Redefining success: what you build out of survival versus what you build out of self-love SELF LOVE 2-STEP REMIX: 1. Stop performing fine for people who only want the version of you that doesn't need anything. No shade, no shame, no judgment for however long you mastered that performance. Get honest about who you're actually safe with. 2. Accept the invitation you keep turning down. Let someone carry something for once. That's not weakness, that's how the world finally gets to love you back. 3. The YOU Step: get still, get quiet, and ask your heart what it's telling you to do next. Not the whole plan, just the next move. Trust her. She already knows. GET YOUR JOURNAL PROMPTS Want to go deeper on this episode? Grab the Main Character Energy Journal Prompts 👉 Get Yours [https://encourageovereverything.com/shop] — start getting the conversation you keep replaying in your own head down in your own handwriting, where you can't talk yourself out of it anymore and actually start living it in real life. LET’S STAY CONNECTED 📍Come share what shifted for you after this episode. Drop a review, comment on a YouTube video, or hit reply on the weekly Love Notes newsletter. 💌Not on the Love Notes list yet? Join at the link below — it is the best way to stay connected and keep the encouragement coming straight to your inbox every week. 👉 Subscribe Here [https://encourageoe.myflodesk.com/mylib] 📺 New videos DAILY on YouTube: @EO_E [https://youtube.com/@eo_e] 🎙️ New podcast episodes every Tuesday and Thursday 🌐 encourageovereverything.com [http://encourageovereverything.com] 🎵 Music: It's Easy to Love You 💖💖 Confident and Empowered Women with Letitia Hopkins drops every Tuesday and Thursday. Subscribe so you never miss an episode. If today's conversation shifted something for you, leave a review — your words help other women find this podcast and there is a woman out there right now who needs exactly what you just heard.

You've Outgrown the Version of You That Built This | EP 319

Have you ever sat in a room you worked so hard to get into and thought, something is wrong with me? Friend, that feeling almost never means what you think it means. I'm taking you back to my corporate leadership days, and the extra years I stayed in a role I had already outgrown because I mislabeled the feeling as something being wrong with me instead of what it actually was. I'm handing you the three questions that will tell you the truth faster than it took me to find it, so you can stop arguing with the version of you who's already outgrown a room, a relationship, or a role. IN THIS EPISODE: ➡️ Why "I don't belong here" is almost never the diagnosis it feels like ➡️ The real difference between misalignment, imposter syndrome, and outgrowing something, and why the fix is different for all three ➡️ The one tell that separates guilt from genuine misalignment ➡️ What it looks like to release the version of you that built your current life so the next version can build what's next THE SELF LOVE 2-STEP REMIX: 1. Stop personalizing the discomfort. Not belonging is information, not a verdict on your worth. No shade, no shame, no judgment for the years you spent mislabeling it. 2. Honor the season out loud, even the one you're leaving. Say what it built in you before you name what it's costing you now. Both are true at once. 3. The YOU Step: get still, get quiet, and ask your heart what it's telling you to do next. Not the whole plan, just the next move. Trust her. She already knows. GET YOUR JOURNAL PROMPTS Want to go deeper on this episode? Grab the Main Character Energy Journal Prompts 👉 Get Yours [https://encourageovereverything.com/shop] — start getting the conversation you keep replaying in your own head down in your own handwriting, where you can't talk yourself out of it anymore and actually start living it in real life. LET’S STAY CONNECTED 📍Come share what shifted for you after this episode. Drop a review, comment on a YouTube video, or hit reply on the weekly Love Notes newsletter. 💌Not on the Love Notes list yet? Join at the link below — it is the best way to stay connected and keep the encouragement coming straight to your inbox every week. 👉 Subscribe Here [https://encourageoe.myflodesk.com/mylib] 📺 New videos DAILY on YouTube: @EO_E [https://youtube.com/@eo_e] 🎙️ New podcast episodes every Tuesday and Thursday 🌐 encourageovereverything.com [http://encourageovereverything.com] 🎵 Music: It's Easy to Love You 💖💖 Confident and Empowered Women with Letitia Hopkins drops every Tuesday and Thursday. Subscribe so you never miss an episode. If today's conversation shifted something for you, leave a review — your words help other women find this podcast and there is a woman out there right now who needs exactly what you just heard.

You Are Not What Happened to You — Here's What to Do With It | EP 318

According to history, my life wasn't supposed to amount to much. Divorced. Single mom raising two babies on my own. And then I lost my two anchors in this world. Any one of those things could have taken me completely out of the game — but what happened to me was never meant to be my whole story. And friend, neither was yours. Friend, I'm getting personal about the years I spent stewing in what happened — and the simple three-step process that helped me step out of it, reclaim my power, and build a life I am genuinely in love with. Because you are not what happened to you. You are the one who gets to decide what you will do with it and what you will build instead. If you have ever felt defined by your past, stuck in the why and the how-could-they, or like the hard things you've been through have quietly staked a claim over your future — this episode is for you. WE’RE TALKING: → Why we get stuck in the story of what happened — and why it's keeping you from the future you actually want → The difference between giving something its airtime and giving it all of your time → Why the hero's journey resonates with all of us and what that means for your own story → The three-step process to reclaim your power and your position: process and release, reclaim your power, and define your new story → Why healing is not something you Amazon Prime your way through — and how to grant yourself grace in the process → How falling in love with yourself opens the door for everything else TIMESTAMPS: 00:00 My Story Isn’t Over 01:35 You Decide What’s Next 04:21 Grief Changed Everything 06:36 Stop Living the Before 08:13 Who Will You Become 10:14 Create Heaven on Earth 11:03 The How Better Questions 12:24 Self Love Two Step 15:47 Grace Over Timelines 16:45 Write Your New Story 19:03 Final Encouragement THE SELF LOVE 2-STEP REMIX Knowing is one thing — but we don't just talk about it around here, we ‘be’ about it. Here's your remix for this episode: Step 1 — Process and release. Honor the story. Do the work. Get whatever support you need to walk through it. There is no shame in needing help — that is wisdom, not weakness. Just don't stay there. Open your hand and allow the release. Step 2 — Reclaim your power. You get to decide who you will be in spite of what happened — or because of it. Don't let a season assign you a permanent label. That power belongs to you. Step 3 — You get still. You get quiet. And you ask yourself: what is my heart telling me to do next? Whatever comes up is your next right aligned step. Not the whole plan — just the next move. Trust her, friend. She already knows. GET YOUR JOURNAL PROMPTS Want to go deeper on this episode? Journal prompts are waiting for you — designed to help you get clear on your desires, honor yourself now, and start stepping toward your next level with intention and without guilt. 👉 Get Yours [https://encourageovereverything.com/shop] LET’S STAY CONNECTED 📍Come share what shifted for you after this episode. Drop a review, comment on a YouTube video, or hit reply on the weekly Love Notes newsletter. 💌Not on the Love Notes list yet? Join at the link below — it is the best way to stay connected and keep the encouragement coming straight to your inbox every week. 👉 Subscribe Here [https://encourageoe.myflodesk.com/mylib] 📺 New videos DAILY on YouTube: @EO_E [https://youtube.com/@eo_e] 🎙️ New podcast episodes every Tuesday and Thursday 🌐 encourageovereverything.com [http://encourageovereverything.com] 🎵 Music: It's Easy to Love You 💖💖 Confident and Empowered Women with Letitia Hopkins drops every Tuesday and Thursday. Subscribe so you never miss an episode. If today's conversation shifted something for you, leave a review — your words help other women find this podcast and there is a woman out there right now who needs exactly what you just heard.

You Are Not Who You Used To Be | EP 317

Friend, have you ever looked up in the middle of your life and felt like a stranger was living it? Like the woman you used to be is somewhere you cannot quite reach, and you have been quietly searching for her ever since — retracing your steps, looking in all the usual places, wondering if you left her somewhere in the loss? That is exactly where this episode meets you. And I need you to know: what you have been calling lost is actually layers. When my mom made her transition to heaven, I thought I had lost myself right along with her. What I found on the other side of that grief changed everything about how I understand identity, becoming, and what it actually means to get to know yourself in a new season of life. And today I am sharing all of it with you. IN THIS EPISODE WE TALK ABOUT: ➡️ Why feeling like a stranger in your own life after a major transition is not loss — it is layers rising to the surface ➡️ The difference between the core of who you are (which never left) and the new parts of you this season has been calling forward ➡️ Why getting to know yourself is not a crisis — it is a practice most of us have never stopped long enough to do SELF LOVE 2-STEP REMIX — Step 1 — Name what stayed. Write down at least three things about you that have never changed no matter what season you have been in. Your values. What you will not compromise. What makes you laugh even on a hard day. Start with your favorite color if that is all you have — because you still know it, and that is proof you are still in there. Step 2 — Name one new layer. One thing this season has revealed that was not on the surface before. A new limit you are holding. A new way you love. A new thing you care about. You do not need the whole list. One is enough to start. Name her. Honor her. She showed up for you. Step 3 — The YOU Step: You get still. You get quiet. And you ask yourself — what is my heart telling me to do next? Whatever comes up, that is your next right aligned step. Not the whole plan. Just the next move. Trust her, Friend. She already knows. LOVE NOTE — THE TRUTH THIS EPISODE IS ANCHORED IN ~ You are not who you used to be. And that is not a sign that something went wrong. That is a sign that you have been living. The seasons have been doing exactly what they were designed to do — building something in you that had to be built through the going, not around it. The woman you are becoming is not a lesser version of who you were. She is a fuller one. And it is time to reintroduce yourself. GET YOUR JOURNAL PROMPTS Want to go deeper on this episode? Journal prompts are waiting for you — designed to help you get clear on your desires, honor yourself now, and start stepping toward your next level with intention and without guilt. 👉 Get Yours [https://encourageovereverything.com/shop] LET’S STAY CONNECTED 📍Come share what shifted for you after this episode. Drop a review, comment on a YouTube video, or hit reply on the weekly Love Notes newsletter. 💌Not on the Love Notes list yet? Join at the link below — it is the best way to stay connected and keep the encouragement coming straight to your inbox every week. 👉 Subscribe Here [https://encourageoe.myflodesk.com/mylib] 📺 New videos DAILY on YouTube: @EO_E [https://youtube.com/@eo_e] 🎙️ New podcast episodes every Tuesday and Thursday 🌐 encourageovereverything.com [http://encourageovereverything.com] 🎵 Music: It's Easy to Love You 💖💖 Confident and Empowered Women with Letitia Hopkins drops every Tuesday and Thursday. Subscribe so you never miss an episode. If today's conversation shifted something for you, leave a review — your words help other women find this podcast and there is a woman out there right now who needs exactly what you just heard.