Speaking Up in the Bedroom: The Cost of Pretending and Faking

Rewrite Your Marriage Sex Script for Mutual Pleasure

In this episode Paul explains that many couples follow a single sex "script" that often favours the husband and leaves the wife less satisfied. He urges partners to talk about what they really enjoy and assume the current script may not fit both people. Practical ideas include using multiple positions, taking turns focusing on each partner, masturbating together, and sometimes stopping short—simple experiments you can try to increase mutual pleasure and bring more satisfaction to your marriage.

The Marriage Gripe Fest: Echo Chambers Are Dangerous for Your Relationship

In this episode of Doing Marriage Well (July 2, 2026), Paul examines how "marriage gripe fests" and echo chambers formed around shared hurt can undermine relationships, drawing on Absalom's tactics in 2 Samuel as a warning. He urges listeners to seek friends who offer loving accountability, question their part in conflict, and avoid groups that only validate bitterness and excuse poor behaviour.

Loving the World But Failing at Home: The Danger of Misplaced Ministry

This episode reflects on a sermon about King David and Absalom and asks whether we use spiritual activity to avoid addressing real issues in our marriages. It emphasises that apologies should be common and sincere, explains how delayed apologies and busy ministry can mask neglect at home, and cites biblical warnings about failing to care for family while serving others. Listeners are encouraged to prioritise their spouse, offer honest apologies, and ensure ministry begins with loving and caring for those closest to them.

Why Avoiding Fights Might Be Killing Your Relationship

In this episode, Sean asks whether you’ve emotionally checked out of your marriage to avoid conflict, encouraging spouses to engage honestly and lovingly rather than withdrawing. Using Biblical examples and practical advice, the message urges couples to speak difficult truths, seek help for recurring fights, and remember that communication is essential to a healthy, Christ-centred marriage.

Why Ignoring Family Problems Always Makes Them Bigger

Paul borrows insights from Sean’s sermon on 2 Samuel 15:1–12 to show how David’s failure to address Amnon’s crime against Tamar led to deeper family damage and Absalom’s rebellion. Ignored harms rarely disappear; they strengthen, draw others in, and spill over into marriages. Paul urges listeners to set aside pride, repair relationships, and address family issues before they grow and harm your marriage. You can watch the sermon [https://subsplash.com/u/thevinecommunity/media/d/v9shcmq-incomplete-reconciliation-leads-to-conspiracy-and-rebellion-2-samuel-15-1-12].