Dr. Judy WTF

Critical mothers imprint their daughters with the psycho virus. It is hard to get out of this double dungeon of darkness with out therapy because we tend to buy in and believe the messages we are given. In order to get out of the toxic bond and this particular psychological prison of criticism, it is important to set boundaries and sometimes boundaries that include leaving the system so that we start to grow.

The codependent is hell bent on fixing the narcissist is hell ben on taking. The two have a functional dance. Do your own work before you become a couple if possible so that you can become a healthy individual and merge with another healthy individual. Synergy is the best game of life.

Being married to a narc can make you sick. Most importantly it is important to figure out what attracted you to the person and to heal your own wounds so you can prevent yourself from picking the same pattern. A narcissistic system can traumatize and can create PTSD and complex PTSD. People subject to this environment can develop psychosomatic symptoms as well. People can feel stuck and do not know to break free from this toxic bond.

Infidelity and narcissism are interconnected, however, just because someone is cheating does not make them a narcissist. The narcissist brand of cheating has a condition of apathy and disconnect behind it. Because they are not able to truly connect to their partner they use their partner as a throw away supply. They never truly achieve satisfaction. The hole in the soul never allow them to catch the light and feel nourished by love.

The narcissist and the empath are a good pathological match. While one is consumed by the self, the other is consumed by the feeling of the other. While one is devoid of empathy the other is over empathic and can not rest until they make their partner feel better. The double mask of narcissism is a protective shield of the under belly of the fragile traumatized self. This fragile self is protected by a double layer so that they don't explode or implode and crumble.