066: Queer Standard Time and choosing epic levels of accommodation to care for our beautiful brains

066: Queer Standard Time and choosing epic levels of accommodation to care for our beautiful brains

What if you stopped forcing your ADHD brain to work like everyone else's? This episode is about unmasking in the most practical sense -- because what if we could build our businesses and our lives around how we actually function instead of how we think we're supposed to do it. We talk about QST (Queer Standard Time), 23-minute appointment slots (though actually, since recording this episode, I'm exploring just having all of my appointments start at 5 mins after the half/hour), and my client who chose to do a $5.27 daily payment plan. Getting specific and creative about accommodation changes everything. This has honestly been such a game changer for me and so many people I know. Also in this episode (because we are who we are 😆) Rachael and I drift into Christmas Eve traditions and that one time I made out with a dude to the Phantom of the Opera. Lol, this is a chatty one and it's one of my favorite sorts of episodes to share. 🤳🏼 Get our FREE selfie guide: https://empowermentphotographer.com/selfie [https://empowermentphotographer.com/selfie] 🔗 Sign up for the #SelfietoSelfLove Challenge: selfietoselflove.com [http://selfietoselflove.com/] 📸 Follow us on Instagram: @empowermentstudio__ [https://instagram.com/empowermentstudio__] 🌐 Learn more about our boudoir sessions and Empowerment Experience: empowermentphotographer.com [http://empowermentphotographer.com/] 👥 Join our Facebook Group: The Empowerment Studio [https://www.facebook.com/groups/empowermentstudiokcmo]

065: Who the heck is Audy Avery today?

The very delightful Audy Avery (they/them) is back for another conversation, and this entire episode centers around the question "Who are you today?" which is how Audy and I end up beginning our catch ups most of the time. Because when you're this constantly growth-y and curious and open handed about your becoming, things inevitably shift in significant ways each time we connect. Today, we're exploring who Audy is -- the shifts they've experienced recently, including how they've gone from nesting temporarily with their partner Brett, to how they're now consciously and intentionally living alone. It's a wild thing having so much autonomy over your life. When everything can be your option, how do you choose what's next? We also talk about relationship smorgasbords (have you heard of this before? it's AWESOME), and the therapist who had to gently let us know, back in the day, that we had broken up without realizing it (thanks Amanda!). We'll be back for a Part 2 at some point around who the heck I am these days, but you'll have to be patient for that. For now, enjoy this nuanced conversation between me and one of my very favorite fellow yappers. --- Audy Avery -- writer || educator || facilitator || mystic || widow || mama || lover || queer TBH, it's hard to find Audy Avery online these days, because they are already practicing their crone-in-the-woods vibes real hard, but if you want to indulge in more of their thoughts and brilliant writing, you can head over to their Substack: @audyavery [https://substack.com/@audyavery] 🤳🏼 Get our FREE selfie guide: https://empowermentphotographer.com/selfie [https://empowermentphotographer.com/selfie] 🔗 Sign up for the #SelfietoSelfLove Challenge: selfietoselflove.com [http://selfietoselflove.com/] 📸 Follow us on Instagram: @empowermentstudio__ [https://instagram.com/empowermentstudio__] 🌐 Learn more about our boudoir sessions and Empowerment Experience: empowermentphotographer.com [http://empowermentphotographer.com/] 👥 Join our Facebook Group: The Empowerment Studio [https://www.facebook.com/groups/empowermentstudiokcmo]

064: Building a Business While Chronically Ill with Max Sheffield!

What happens when your body forces you to stop before you're ready to? Max Sheffield (they/he) collapsed a block and a half from their kid's school. That was the moment that redefined how Max was able to move through this world -- in business, parenting, and in terms of how they approached rest. In this episode, we talk about building a business and a life around how your brain and body actually work instead of how capitalism says they should. We get into chronic illness and entrepreneurship and why your weirdness is your marketing advantage (lol we do that well around here!) If you've been white-knuckling your way through your to-do list and wondering why it's not working, this one's worth your time. ------ You can go find Max (and hire them if you want a marketer who will help you make your clients feel seen and not sold to!) over on IG @maxwildestories [https://www.instagram.com/maxwildestories/] 🤳🏼 Get our FREE selfie guide: https://empowermentphotographer.com/selfie [https://empowermentphotographer.com/selfie] 🔗 Sign up for the #SelfietoSelfLove Challenge: selfietoselflove.com [http://selfietoselflove.com/] 📸 Follow us on Instagram: @empowermentstudio__ [https://instagram.com/empowermentstudio__] 🌐 Learn more about our boudoir sessions and Empowerment Experience: empowermentphotographer.com [http://empowermentphotographer.com/] 👥 Join our Facebook Group: The Empowerment Studio [https://www.facebook.com/groups/empowermentstudiokcmo]

063: Queer Home Logistics -- The Emoji System That Holds My Relationship Together

Most relationship advice assumes your brain works a certain way. This episode is for when it doesn't. Kinzie's partner Donnie (he/they) joins to talk about what 16+ years of sharing space as a neurodivergent household has taught them: how to divide labor based on strengths, why explicit communication beats subtle signals every time, and the emoji codes they use to navigate the stuff that's hard or inconvenient to say out loud. This episode reminds us that we don't need to stretch ourselves to do things the "right" way. What if we could build systems that actually work for the humans in them, instead? -- We're re-releasing this episode from 2025 because it keeps coming up as a listener favorite -- so make sure to tune in if you missed it last time. And no need to spread the word about our roommate search -- we found someone who is a great fit for the studio since this episode aired! 🤳🏼 Get our FREE selfie guide: https://empowermentphotographer.com/selfie [https://empowermentphotographer.com/selfie] 🔗 Sign up for the #SelfietoSelfLove Challenge: selfietoselflove.com [http://selfietoselflove.com/] 📸 Follow us on Instagram: @empowermentstudio__ [https://instagram.com/empowermentstudio__] 🌐 Learn more about our boudoir sessions and Empowerment Experience: empowermentphotographer.com [http://empowermentphotographer.com/] 👥 Join our Facebook Group: The Empowerment Studio [https://www.facebook.com/groups/empowermentstudiokcmo]

062: What No One Told You About Gender Exploration (It's Not Too Late!)

What does it actually mean to explore your gender identity when you weren't raised with the language to do it? In this episode, I'm joined by co-host Rachael (she/her) and guest Audy Avery (they/all) to talk about non-binary identity, gender fluidity, and what it looks like to stop performing who you're supposed to be and start figuring out who you actually are. We get into pronouns, coming out later in life, raising gender-expansive kids, and why "I'm still figuring it out" is a completely valid place to be. This episode originally aired in 2024 under our very first podcast name, Taking Up Space. It's one of our most popular for a reason, and we wanted it in the F*ck Confidence feed where it belongs. 🤳🏼 Get our FREE selfie guide: https://empowermentphotographer.com/selfie [https://empowermentphotographer.com/selfie] 🔗 Sign up for the #SelfietoSelfLove Challenge: selfietoselflove.com [http://selfietoselflove.com/] 📸 Follow us on Instagram: @empowermentstudio__ [https://instagram.com/empowermentstudio__] 🌐 Learn more about our boudoir sessions and Empowerment Experience: empowermentphotographer.com [http://empowermentphotographer.com/] 👥 Join our Facebook Group: The Empowerment Studio [https://www.facebook.com/groups/empowermentstudiokcmo]