What women want their partners to know

What women want their partners to know

Last week we polled men on what they wish women knew. This week we polled women on what they wished their partners knew. If you could sit down with hundreds of women and ask them one question—’What’s one thing you wish your partner understood?’—what do you think they’d say? Today, we’re answering that question. Here are some comments we heard I wish they knew: I’m not mad about the dishes; I’m tired of being the manager I do not need this problem fixed I need an ear to listen Foreplay starts at 9am not 9pm The little things matter more than the big things I want to go on dates We have some ideas on ways to strengthen your relationship and have some fun in the process. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit abbeysamide.substack.com [https://abbeysamide.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_1]

What Men Want Women to Know....

I remember reading Marie Claire magazine when I was in my teens and 20s. I would read articles with titles like, What Men Really Want, 10 Ways to Turn Someone Off, 6 Things that will drive your man wild. Well, I have to laugh because now what I would tell you all is that if you want to know something like that, the best thing to do is ask. We have heard your suggestions, your outcry for male representation in our podcast. We asked our social media audience to tell us what they wished women would understand about them. We got a few responses and decided to dedicate our podcast to the male perspective as best as we two women with depleted estrogen levels can. We will do our best today to give a voice to a group who may struggle with vulnerability in general and are less likely to seek out counseling than their female counterparts. Unfortunately, stoicism has done our boys a disservice with messages to withhold your feelings or shut them down. Don’t feel. Don’t be a “wuss.” This has huge repercussions healthwise. Today’s chat is “what men want women to know.” This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit abbeysamide.substack.com [https://abbeysamide.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_1]

Tips and Therapy Tricks

Why do people want mental health interventions? Because advice from social media, their cousin, and late-night overthinking wasn’t quite doing the trick. Why should you listen to this podcast? Maybe you are tired of using the same solutions and getting the same problems. Maybe you are looking for relief Maybe what use to work isn’t working anymore Maybe something hurts, stalls, or keeps repeating Maybe you feel you have tried everything Maybe you realize there might be another way Maybe you hit your bottom If any of this resonates today is your day. We are giving coping strategies, tools, interventions that can maybe help if any of the above apply to you. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit abbeysamide.substack.com [https://abbeysamide.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_1]

Intervention Spotlight

We have compiled a list of our favorite interventions to use in therapy. We often like to describe a problem during our chats and sometimes we forget to give an intervention or how to potentially solve something. Today we want to remedy this and talk about our most used and most effective interventions. As therapists we acknowledge that what sounds very simple is not EASY. There is a big difference in talking about solutions or interventions and knowing something you can do and actually doing it in real time. That’s where it can get dicey and why therapy isn’t a quick fix. It takes time and patience and trial and error. Every person has a system of defense mechanism (all aimed to protect you) that may tell you that something new is scary or that discomfort is bad. It may be telling you that it’s someone else’s fault so you don’t need to change!! It may say that if I stay vigilant then I’ll be safe so never put your guard down. If I joke about something then someone else cannot hurt me. It can tell you to avoid the conversation because it’s not going to end well. Or feelings and vulnerability are weaknesses so don’t express them. This is what every therapist is up against and will help you wade through so you can dream big and feel empowered enough to get there. (shameless plug for therapy) But here we are and we want to tell you about the best things to DO and to consider doing to improve your life. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit abbeysamide.substack.com [https://abbeysamide.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_1]

Radically Honesty in a Filtered Social Media World

Last week we discussed radical honesty and took the challenge of only posting on our social media unfiltered day to day business. Not making posts that misrepresent our lives. Social media feeds into our feelings of shame, embarassment and the need to be accepted/admired. Hence the lying on social media misrepresenting situations, spouses, children to gain acceptance and admiration. We are exploring what happens when you post the reality. We are on a 10 day challenge of posting the real day to day things we may struggle with not the triumphs. The reality post have generated more comments and likes than the post of success. It has been a great learning experience being vulnerable to others seeing your daily fails and the second thoughts that happen when you post the fail. Stay tuned today as we review our journey posting the reality, the comments and the post that got the most likes. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit abbeysamide.substack.com [https://abbeysamide.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_1]