Guest Episode: Bad marriage advise keeping you stagnant - here is what actually works with Monica Tanner Sex & Relationship Coach

My Dad died 36 years ago and it was a blessing

Sasha shares on losing her father 36 years ago and the blessings and legacy left from his departure. We look into the core wounds created from childhood, how to self soothe and understand your past is information for your present day struggles. This week on Heal You: Heal Your Relationship, Sasha hits record on one of her most personal episodes yet — and it wasn't even planned. 💛 Sasha shares why June 5th isn't a day of grief for her anymore, even though it marks 36 years since she lost her dad at seven years old. She opens up about the guilt she carried for decades over something she never actually said, the moment her son turning seven cracked everything open, and the three-part healing journey that took her from chronic dysregulation and dark spiraling to genuine peace. She also gets into why time doesn't heal core wounds — and what it actually takes to soothe them. If you've been quietly carrying something old that keeps showing up in your relationships, this one was made for you. Soulful Trio Reflection Questions for this week: 1. What did you most resonate with about this episode? 2. What is something that still stings from your past?  3. What do you think is a belief that is still attached to that? In this episode, you’ll discover: * Why the things that broke us early in life can become the very things that build our purpose.  * How a core wound from childhood quietly shapes every relationship, behavior, and fear that follows.  * Why time alone doesn't heal trauma — and what doing the actual work looks like.  * How unresolved grief lives in the body long after the mind thinks it's moved on.  * Why building safety within yourself is the only real foundation for secure love. 💘 2 weeks to secure love container is back - learn to build emotional resilience with this guided experience and the easiest way to work with Sasha at a no brainer investment - https://sasha-quince.mykajabi.com/feartofreedomsecurelove [https://sasha-quince.mykajabi.com/feartofreedomsecurelove]  💘Want to know if you're inadvertently sabotaging your relationship? Take the quiz now at: pw556n5gt0l.typeform.com/to/lqsEV0Qvvv [http://pw556n5gt0l.typeform.com/to/lqsEV0Qvvv] 💘Get Sasha's most used tool to regulate your nervous system when triggered by your partner straight from her VIP library here - Regulation Tool [https://sasha-quince.mykajabi.com/regulationtool] Learn more about Sasha Quince: Linktree [https://linktr.ee/sashaquince] Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/Sashaquincelovecoach] Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/sashalivingproof/] For more insights and guidance, reach out to sashaquincementoring@gmail.com [sashaquincementoring@gmail.com] or connect on Instagram @sashaquincelovecoach [https://www.instagram.com/sashaquincelovecoach/https://www.instagram.com/sashaquincelovecoach/] or @sashalivingproof [https://www.instagram.com/sashalivingproof/]. ---------------------------------------- Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy [https://acast.com/privacy] for more information.

How to handle a tricky person and protect your peace (personal story)

You’re going to come across tricky people — and most of us handle it all wrong. 💛 In this episode of Heal You: Heal Relationship: Sasha is fresh off a family vacation in Dubai when a simple Instagram unfollow turns into a flood of voice notes, guilt trips, and mean comments from a previous client. Instead of taking the bait, she does something most of us struggle with — she chooses empathy over defense. She’s breaking down exactly what she said, how she handled it, and the mindset that kept her peace intact. If there’s someone in your world right now stealing your energy, this one’s for you. Soulful Trio Reflection Questions for this week: 1. Who is a tricky, triggering person that you can identify in your life right now? 2. What do you feel is being triggered the most in them? What do you feel gets triggered in you so much? 3. What is a piece of empathy you can have towards this person? In this episode, you’ll discover: * Why rupture in a relationship is normal — and necessary. * How triggers work like boiling water and what to do when yours spikes. * Why “staying single until he’s perfect” is just avoidance in disguise. * How to know when a moment calls for ownership versus empathy. * Why waiting for your partner to change will never be the answer. 💘 2 weeks to secure love container is back - learn to build emotional resilience with this guided experience and the easiest way to work with Sasha at a no brainer investment - https://sasha-quince.mykajabi.com/feartofreedomsecurelove [https://sasha-quince.mykajabi.com/feartofreedomsecurelove]  💘Want to know if you're inadvertently sabotaging your relationship? Take the quiz now at: pw556n5gt0l.typeform.com/to/lqsEV0Qvvv [http://pw556n5gt0l.typeform.com/to/lqsEV0Qvvv] 💘Get Sasha's most used tool to regulate your nervous system when triggered by your partner straight from her VIP library here - Regulation Tool [https://sasha-quince.mykajabi.com/regulationtool] Learn more about Sasha Quince: Linktree [https://linktr.ee/sashaquince] Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/Sashaquincelovecoach] Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/sashalivingproof/] For more insights and guidance, reach out to sashaquincementoring@gmail.com [sashaquincementoring@gmail.com] or connect on Instagram @sashaquincelovecoach [https://www.instagram.com/sashaquincelovecoach/https://www.instagram.com/sashaquincelovecoach/] or @sashalivingproof [https://www.instagram.com/sashalivingproof/]. ---------------------------------------- Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy [https://acast.com/privacy] for more information.

You were lied to about what a healthy relationship is...

We’ve been lied to about what a healthy relationship actually looks like — and this week of Heal You: Heal Your Relationship, Sasha is setting the record straight. 💛 Sasha opens up about a recent weekend getaway with her partner that turned out to be anything but picture-perfect — and exactly why that made it meaningful. From a hard conversation that triggered his sense of worth and her fear of abandonment, to a solo beach moment where she caught her own narrative mid-spiral, she walks through what it actually looks like to move through rupture with awareness instead of reaction. If you’ve been waiting for a relationship where nobody ever disappoints you, boils your water, or says the thing you didn’t want to hear — this episode is your wake-up call. Real love isn’t the absence of triggers. It’s what you do when they show up. Soulful Trio Reflection Questions for this week: 1. What was the one part of this episode that really stood out to you? 2. Where do you think you tend to lean towards more? Ownership or empathy? 3. What is something in your life right now that’s happened with somebody that you can choose not to take personal?  In this episode, you’ll discover: * Why rupture in a relationship is normal — and necessary. * How triggers work like boiling water and what to do when yours spikes. * Why “staying single until he’s perfect” is just avoidance in disguise. * How to know when a moment calls for ownership versus empathy. * Why waiting for your partner to change will never be the answer. 💘 2 weeks to secure love container is back - learn to build emotional resilience with this guided experience and the easiest way to work with Sasha at a no brainer investment - https://sasha-quince.mykajabi.com/feartofreedomsecurelove [https://sasha-quince.mykajabi.com/feartofreedomsecurelove]  💘Want to know if you're inadvertently sabotaging your relationship? Take the quiz now at: pw556n5gt0l.typeform.com/to/lqsEV0Qvvv [http://pw556n5gt0l.typeform.com/to/lqsEV0Qvvv] 💘Get Sasha's most used tool to regulate your nervous system when triggered by your partner straight from her VIP library here - Regulation Tool [https://sasha-quince.mykajabi.com/regulationtool] Learn more about Sasha Quince: Linktree [https://linktr.ee/sashaquince] Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/Sashaquincelovecoach] Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/sashalivingproof/] For more insights and guidance, reach out to sashaquincementoring@gmail.com [sashaquincementoring@gmail.com] or connect on Instagram @sashaquincelovecoach [https://www.instagram.com/sashaquincelovecoach/https://www.instagram.com/sashaquincelovecoach/] or @healyouhealyourrelationship [https://www.instagram.com/healyouhealyourrelationship/] ---------------------------------------- Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy [https://acast.com/privacy] for more information.

Guest Episode: Bad marriage advise keeping you stagnant - here is what actually works with Monica Tanner Sex & Relationship Coach

I really enjoyed interviewing this expert in the relationship and healing world who like me practices what she preaches in her almost 24 year marriage and family of six. As a Relationship Coach certified in Relational Life Therapy and Sex Therapy, Monica guides couples ready to break old cycles and cultivate true connection. Her personal journey, including the lessons learned from her parents' divorce, inspired her to become the best-selling author of “Bad Marriage Advice: Debunking Myths That Will Make You Miserable and What To Do Instead.” She spent over 23 years living what she teach within her own marriage, as a parent of four, dig into this episode ready to walk away with lots of simple goodies to implement in your own relationship from life to sex to intimacy to connection. This week on Heal You: Heal Your Relationship, Sasha welcomes Monica Tanner, relationship coach, certified sex therapist, and bestselling author of Bad Marriage Advice: Debunking Myths That Will Make You Miserable and What to Do Instead — a mom of four who has been in a nearly 24-year marriage and lives everything she teaches. 💑 Monica breaks down why resentment is actually your relationship’s warning light, what it costs you to stay silent about your needs, and how the couples who go the distance aren’t the ones who never fight — they’re the ones who never let go. If you’ve ever shut down sexually, stewed in silent resentment, or wished your partner could just read your mind — this one’s for you. Soulful Trio Reflection Questions for this week: 1. What’s keeping you up at night? 2. What is it that you really want? 3. What request can I make? In this episode, you’ll discover: * Why resentment is an indicator light — not the enemy. * The 3-step framework for making requests that actually get met. * Why “if they love you enough, they’ll just know” is wrecking your marriage. * How broadening your definition of intimacy can transform your sex life. * Why marriage is actually where childhood wounds get healed. * What the happiest long-term couples always make room for. * * 💘 Complimentary Relationship 45 min Audit - get Sasha's expert eye on your exact hidden love pattern, get clear on your love goals, understand your gaps, receive an action plan to secure love. Apply Here - only 10 spots and application closes May 30th, 2026 https://pw556n5gt0l.typeform.com/to/sCqDcAwh [https://pw556n5gt0l.typeform.com/to/sCqDcAwh]  💘Join Sasha’s mini-experience 2 weeks to secure love: ditch anxiety for trust, communicate calmly and authentically and reconnect with your partner - Fear to Freedom [https://sasha-quince.mykajabi.com/feartofreedom] 💘Want to know if you're inadvertently sabotaging your relationship? Take the quiz now at: pw556n5gt0l.typeform.com/to/lqsEV0Qvvv [http://pw556n5gt0l.typeform.com/to/lqsEV0Qvvv] 💘Get Sasha's most used tool to regulate your nervous system when triggered by your partner straight from her VIP library here - Regulation Tool [https://sasha-quince.mykajabi.com/regulationtool] Learn more about Monica Tanner: LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/in/monicatanner] Website [https://www.monicatanner.com] Bad Marriage Advice: Debunking Myths That Will Make You Miserable and What To Do Instead [https://www.badmarriageadvice.com/get-the-book] Secrets of Happily Ever After [https://www.monicatanner.com/contenthub] Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/monitalksmarriage/] Learn more about Sasha Quince: Linktree [https://linktr.ee/sashaquince] Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/Sashaquincelovecoach] Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/healyouhealyourrelationship/] For more insights and guidance, reach out to sashaquincementoring@gmail.com [sashaquincementoring@gmail.com] or connect on Instagram @sashaquincelovecoach [https://www.instagram.com/sashaquincelovecoach/https://www.instagram.com/sashaquincelovecoach/] or @healyouhealyourrelationship [https://www.instagram.com/healyouhealyourrelationship/] ---------------------------------------- Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy [https://acast.com/privacy] for more information.

17 Years Later: The 4 Game Changers That Built Secure Love

This week on Heal You: Heal Your Relationship, Sasha gets honest about the four things that have quietly held her 17-year partnership together — and why none of them are what most people expect. 💛 Sasha opens up about the moment she realized she’d been outsourcing her happiness, expecting her partner to read her mind, and building resentment without ever asking herself why. From the beach day she almost talked herself out of to the three-sentence formula that changed how she asks for what she needs, she walks through the real, unglamorous work of staying in your own lane. If you’ve ever felt like the relationship is failing because your partner just doesn’t get it — this one is for you. This episode is about the inner shifts that make love last. Soulful Trio Reflection Questions for this week: 1. What out of the four most resonated with you today? 2. What needs to shift in you to apply this to your life? 3. Who are you going to share this with?  In this episode, you’ll discover: * Why it’s not your partner’s job to make you happy — and whose job it actually is. * Why expecting your partner to read your mind creates your own suffering. * How three simple phrases keep hard conversations from turning into blame. * Why ownership and empathy can’t happen at the same time — and how to choose. * What your anger is really telling you about the needs you’ve been keeping inside. 💘 Complimentary Relationship 45 min Audit - get Sasha's expert eye on your exact hidden love pattern, get clear on your love goals, understand your gaps, receive an action plan to secure love. Apply Here - only 10 spots and application closes May 30th, 2026 https://pw556n5gt0l.typeform.com/to/sCqDcAwh [https://pw556n5gt0l.typeform.com/to/sCqDcAwh]  💘Join Sasha’s mini-experience 2 weeks to secure love: ditch anxiety for trust, communicate calmly and authentically and reconnect with your partner - Fear to Freedom [https://sasha-quince.mykajabi.com/feartofreedom] 💘Want to know if you're inadvertently sabotaging your relationship? Take the quiz now at: pw556n5gt0l.typeform.com/to/lqsEV0Qvvv [http://pw556n5gt0l.typeform.com/to/lqsEV0Qvvv] 💘Get Sasha's most used tool to regulate your nervous system when triggered by your partner straight from her VIP library here - Regulation Tool [https://sasha-quince.mykajabi.com/regulationtool] Learn more about Sasha Quince: Linktree [https://linktr.ee/sashaquince] Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/Sashaquincelovecoach] Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/healyouhealyourrelationship/] For more insights and guidance, reach out to sashaquincementoring@gmail.com [sashaquincementoring@gmail.com] or connect on Instagram @sashaquincelovecoach [https://www.instagram.com/sashaquincelovecoach/https://www.instagram.com/sashaquincelovecoach/] or @healyouhealyourrelationship [https://www.instagram.com/healyouhealyourrelationship/] ---------------------------------------- Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy [https://acast.com/privacy] for more information.