Mom Guilt, a JFK Meltdown, & My First Vacation Since Becoming a Mom

Mom Guilt, a JFK Meltdown, & My First Vacation Since Becoming a Mom

In this episode of Hot Mom Shit, I'm catching you up on my European vacation with Matt, our first real trip away from the boys, ever. I'm talking eight nights, two countries, and the kind of mom guilt that hit me so hard at the airport I was sobbing. To add to my guilt, I get into the pumping disaster that had me standing over a sink in the Delta lounge with two broken pump sets and a true moment of panic, the text my mom sent me that I think every mom needs to read, and what it  felt like to remember who I am outside of being someone's mother for the first time in years. Also, I have a Bravo story for you. I accidentally became paparazzi in Sicily, and I have some thoughts about Real Housewives of Rhode Island, Summer House, and the Netflix show that spoiled the ending of the book I was reading on the plane home. In this episode I get real about: * The eight nights away from my kids and the anxiety attack I had at JFK before I even left the country * The text my mom sent me that made so many of you cry when I posted it on Instagram * The pumping nightmare in the airport lounge * Why the trip wasn't really about getting away from my kids, it was about remembering who I am as a whole person * The moment I accidentally went full paparazzi on a Bravo couple in Taormina * The Netflix show that spoiled my book on the flight home and why I will never forgive Kate Hudson * My Real Housewives of Rhode Island hot takes, because we are due for a reality TV catch up New episodes of Hot Mom Shit drop every Tuesday. Follow along wherever you listen to podcasts. And join the Snatch Chat [https://snatch-chat.mn.co/plans/1947758?bundle_token=fa4cf205db7d3ca29e04d2c80cac446f&utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=show_notes&utm_campaign=whoami&utm_content=episode_8Leah] community to get first access to new episodes and meet a community of women who get it. Follow me on Instagram: @theleahvandale [https://www.instagram.com/theleahvandale/] Join the Snatch community: snatch.co [https://snatch-chat.mn.co/plans/1947758?bundle_token=fa4cf205db7d3ca29e04d2c80cac446f&utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=show_notes&utm_campaign=whoami&utm_content=episode_8Leah] Follow Snatch on Instagram: @snatchforher [https://www.instagram.com/snatchforher/]  "Top Tier Matriarch" — written and produced by Quantum Plectrum Episode Production by KNWN [https://theknwn.com/]

Screen Time Guilt, Hiding in the Bathroom & Postpartum Resentment with Dr. Sanam Shamtobi

In this episode of Hot Mom Shit, Dr. S is back and this time we took questions straight from the community and went deep on three things that I think every mom is quietly carrying: screen time guilt, the permission to hide in the bathroom when you need a minute, and the mental load mothers carry.  In this episode we get real about: * Screen time and how much is too much, what content matters, and why it starts with what we're modeling ourselves * The 90s TV method that eliminated meltdowns in my house  * The mental load and why Dr. S doesn't believe equality between moms and dads will ever be achieved  * The three H's: the one tool Dr. S gave us to teach our partners how to actually support us * How becoming a mom changes every relationship in your life Momma, we're all figuring this out together. And Dr. S is proof that even the experts are navigating this in real time. Join Snatch Chat [https://snatch-chat.mn.co/plans/1947758?bundle_token=fa4cf205db7d3ca29e04d2c80cac446f&utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=show_notes&utm_campaign=guestsegment&utm_content=episode_7DrS] and meet a community of women who get it. Follow me on Instagram: @theleahvandale [https://www.instagram.com/theleahvandale/] Join the Snatch community: snatch.co [https://snatch-chat.mn.co/plans/1947758?bundle_token=fa4cf205db7d3ca29e04d2c80cac446f&utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=show_notes&utm_campaign=guestsegment&utm_content=episode_7Sanam] Follow Snatch on Instagram: @snatchforher [https://www.instagram.com/snatchforher/]  "Top Tier Matriarch" — written and produced by Quantum Plectrum Episode Production by KNWN [https://theknwn.com/]

Nobody Shows the Real Shit: Why Fake Motherhood Content Is Stressing Us All Out

In this episode of Hot Mom Shit, I'm going somewhere I've been stewing on for a while, because there is zero accurate depiction of real motherhood anywhere. Not in movies, not on reality TV, not on social media. Nowhere.  I'm not coming for anyone. But I am coming for the beige outfits, the timestamped morning routines, and the 47th Amazon haul of the week because, momma, it's making all of us feel like we're failing, and we're not. In this episode I get real about:  * Why The Valley might actually be one of the only shows doing it right and what Secret Lives of Mormon Wives missed the mark on * The social media scroll that's leaving us feeling like garbage (and why it's literally designed to do that) * Amazon hauls, storefronts, and the closet full of clothes I bought and never wore two months postpartum * The timestamped morning routine content that makes me want to throw my phone across the room * Why I'm in my "unfollow everything that makes me feel like sh*t" era * The 2018 concealer confession you didn't know you needed to hear * What my actual nighttime routine looks like…and it includes a toddler slapping my butt This one's for the mom who opened Instagram today and closed it feeling worse than when she opened it. It’s not you, the content is not reality. Join the Snatch community [https://snatch-chat.mn.co/plans/1947758?bundle_token=fa4cf205db7d3ca29e04d2c80cac446f&utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=show_notes&utm_campaign=whoami&utm_content=episode_2Leah] to get first access to new episodes, behind the scenes content and so much more. Listen to new episodes of Hot Mom Shit dropping every Tuesday. Follow along wherever you listen to podcasts. Follow me on Instagram: @theleahvandale [https://www.instagram.com/theleahvandale/] Join the Snatch community: snatch.co [https://snatch-chat.mn.co/plans/1947758?bundle_token=fa4cf205db7d3ca29e04d2c80cac446f&utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=show_notes&utm_campaign=whoami&utm_content=episode_6Leah] Follow Snatch on Instagram: @snatchforher [https://www.instagram.com/snatchforher/] "Top Tier Matriarch" — written and produced by Quantum PlectrumEpisode Production by KNWN [https://theknwn.com/]

Holy Eye Bags, Batman: The Truth About My Plastic Surgery

In this episode of Hot Mom Shit, I get real about something I've been sitting with my entire life…the eye bags that have followed me since birth. Yes, I am talking about my lower bleph surgery today.  But, don’t come at me and do not hear me say to fix your face. This is my story and something I’ve wanted to do for decades. But do hear me say, momma it’s time to stop waiting to do the thing you’ve been waiting to do.  In this episode I get real about:  * The acting class moment that stuck with me for 22 years (and why a grown a$$ woman had no business saying that to a 16-year-old girl) * What a lower bleph actually is and what I had done * Matt's reaction: skeptical going in, full nurse mode coming out * My pre and post-surgery non-negotiables * Why this wasn't about changing my face it was about feeling like myself  * The PSA every mom needs to hear: stop putting it off, the time is gonna pass anyway Momma, do what makes you feel good. Whether that's plastic surgery, a gym membership, or just lunch with a friend. I'm four weeks out and I feel like a different person in the best way.  Join the Snatch community [https://snatch-chat.mn.co/plans/1947758?bundle_token=fa4cf205db7d3ca29e04d2c80cac446f&utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=show_notes&utm_campaign=whoami&utm_content=episode_2Leah] to get first access to new episodes, behind the scenes content and so much more. New episodes of Hot Mom Shit drop every Tuesday. Follow along wherever you listen to podcasts.  Follow me on Instagram: @theleahvandale [https://www.instagram.com/theleahvandale/] Join the Snatch community: snatch.co [https://snatch-chat.mn.co/plans/1947758?bundle_token=fa4cf205db7d3ca29e04d2c80cac446f&utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=show_notes&utm_campaign=whoami&utm_content=episode_5Leah]Follow Snatch on Instagram: @snatchforher [https://www.instagram.com/snatchforher/] "Top Tier Matriarch" — written and produced by Quantum PlectrumEpisode Production by KNWN [https://theknwn.com/]

Mental Load, Mom Guilt & Quitting Breastfeeding Without the Shame with Dr. Sanam Shamtobi

In this episode of Hot Mom Shit, I'm introducing someone who is going to become a regular around here, Dr. Sanam Shamtobi or as we like call her, Dr. S, a maternal mental health psychologist and a mom herself. And we're jumping straight into the deep end. I came in with a breastfeeding question. I left with a completely different way of thinking about mom guilt, identity, and why the mental load feels so invisible to the people we live with. In this episode we get real about: * Why partners aren't clueless, they just need a different kind of direction (Dr. S literally makes handouts for husbands in therapy) * The mental load and why it's so hard to explain to someone who isn't carrying it * How to hold onto your identity when it feels like "mom" swallowed everything else * Do dads love their kids the same way moms do? Dr. S gets into it * Pumping six months in and wanting to quit, Dr. S gives me the permission I didn't know I needed * Why mom guilt will always find a new target no matter what you do Want to hear the full conversation? Join Snatch Chat [https://snatch-chat.mn.co/plans/1947758?bundle_token=fa4cf205db7d3ca29e04d2c80cac446f&utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=show_notes&utm_campaign=guestsegment&utm_content=episode_4Sanam] and get access to the whole episode along with a community of women who get it.  Momma, we're all figuring this out together. None of us have every box checked and Dr. S is proof that even the experts are navigating this in real time. See you inside. When you join the Snatch community [https://snatch-chat.mn.co/plans/1947758?bundle_token=fa4cf205db7d3ca29e04d2c80cac446f&utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=show_notes&utm_campaign=whoami&utm_content=episode_2Leah] you get first access to new episodes, behind the scenes content and so much more. Follow me on Instagram: @theleahvandale [https://www.instagram.com/theleahvandale/] Join the Snatch community: snatch.co [https://snatch-chat.mn.co/plans/1947758?bundle_token=fa4cf205db7d3ca29e04d2c80cac446f&utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=show_notes&utm_campaign=guestsegment&utm_content=episode_4Sanam] Follow Snatch on Instagram: @snatchforher [https://www.instagram.com/snatchforher/]