The Invisible Load of Solo Parenting (You Are Enough)

The Invisible Load of Solo Parenting (You Are Enough)

Single mom, solo parent, running on empty? This one’s for you. In this episode of IDK wtf I’m doing, I’m pulling back the curtain on the invisible load of solo parenting — the constant mental tracking, the financial juggling, the never-ending list that nobody sees and nobody claps for. I’m talking about the tears in the car before work, the showers you turn on just to cry in private, and the exhaustion of being everyone’s everything with no one to pass the baton to. But this episode isn’t just about naming the weight — it’s about giving yourself permission to put some of it down. We get into why pouring into yourself isn’t a luxury, it’s maintenance. Why asking for help is wisdom, not weakness. And why you deserve to be poured into, not because you’ve earned it, but because you’re human. If you’re a single mom solo parenting with little to no support, this is for you. I see you. I am you. Follow me on socials @callhermiaj, and follow the business @noirjoya. My updated manifestation journal is launching soon, so stay close so you don’t miss it.

Act As If: The Identity Shift That Actually Changes Your Life

Manifestation is step one. Becoming her is the work. In this episode, Mia J breaks down what “acting as if” really means — and why it’s not faking it till you make it. It’s identity-level transformation backed by neuroscience (neuroplasticity + your RAS), and Mia shares a personal story from when she was living in a shelter and used this exact framework to shift her reality. If you’ve been doing all the right things but still feel stuck, this one’s for you. You’ll learn: → Why affirmations alone won’t move the needle → How your brain rewires around the identity you embody → Why your circle is part of the work → 3 ways to start acting as if today None of us know what we’re doing. We’re just taking one foot in front of the other — and doing our best. Follow Mia: @callhermiaj on Instagram, TikTok & Threads Follow my business: @noirjoya on all social media Email: noirjoya@gmail.com

Episode 8: When the Tears Won’t Stop: Navigating a Depressive Episode as a Solo Mom & Entrepreneur

In this episode, Mia gets raw and unfiltered about the depressive episode that hit her out of nowhere — crying spells that lasted days, canceling plans she actually wanted to keep, and a body that finally said enough. She breaks down what triggered it, why she couldn’t just “journal it out,” and how being a solo mom, entrepreneur, and woman with no village makes mental health hits land differently. She also opens up about reaching out to her spiritual therapist, doing emergency self-Reiki in her car, and the one rhetorical question that cracked everything open. This episode is where season two begins — with Mia stepping fully into the “Act As If” journey and outlining who her future self actually is. If you’re sick and tired of being sick and tired, this one is for you. Topics covered: • Depressive episodes & grief nobody talks about • The impossible weight of juggling every role alone • Why surface-level advice doesn’t cut it • Self-Reiki as a real coping tool • Burnout vs. tiredness — knowing the difference • Introducing the Act As If framework • Getting back to creativity as medicine Follow along: @callhermiaj (personal) | @noirjoya (business)

Episode 7: God’s Voice Vs Intuition Vs Ego - How to Know Which One Is Talking To You

Have you ever been in the middle of a big decision and felt like you were hearing a million different voices — but had no idea which one to actually listen to? In this episode of I Don’t Know What the F** I’m Doing*, host Mia J breaks down the three voices we all experience: the ego, God’s voice, and your intuition — and more importantly, how to tell them apart. Whether you’re navigating a major life decision, trying to manifest your next level, or just trying to figure out if that nagging feeling is fear or guidance — this episode gives you a practical framework for discernment that you can use in real time. Mia shares a personal story about wrestling with the decision to leave Michigan and move back to Arizona — hearing all three voices at once — and what finally helped her choose. In this episode: • Why the ego is loud, urgent, and fear-based — and why we still need it • How God’s voice shows up as quiet authority — direct, calm, and unbothered • Why your intuition is like a calm mom gently tapping your shoulder • The pause practice: how to check which voice is actually running the show • How your body tells you the difference between fear and alignment • Why discernment is a muscle — and how to keep building it Follow Mia J: TikTok & Instagram @callhermiaJ | Noir Joya on all platforms Subscribe for new episodes weekly — you don’t have to have it all figured out.

Episode 6: You Are Not Your Emotions: How to Stop Identifying With Your Feelings

You are not your anger. You’re not your anxiety. You’re not your sadness — you’re a person experiencing those things, and that difference is everything. In this episode we’re talking about one of the simplest but most powerful mindset shifts you can make: changing “I am angry” to “I feel angry.” It sounds small. It’s not. When you fuse your identity with your emotions, you make them permanent. When you separate them, you get your power back. We’re breaking down: → Why language shapes how long emotions stick → The psychology behind identity vs. emotional state → How to start rewiring the way you talk about yourself — starting today This is emotional intelligence meets spiritual growth, and it’s a conversation that’ll hit different if you’ve ever felt like you were your worst feelings. 🎙️ IDK WTF I’m doing — real talk on mindset, growth, and figuring it out. #emotionalintelligence #mindsetshift #personalgrowth #selfawareness #mentalhealth #spiritualgrowth #innerwork #healingjourney #podcastforyou #selfhelp