How to Actually Change Your Behavior (No, It's Not Willpower) — Behavioral Scientist Kristen Berman

How to Actually Change Your Behavior (No, It's Not Willpower) — Behavioral Scientist Kristen Berman

Kristen Berman is one of the world's foremost experts on getting people to do what they say they want to do. She also routinely has a hard time following her own advice, which is precisely why she got into the field. Berman was on the founding team for behavioral economics at Google — a practice that now spans 26 teams across the company — and she founded Irrational Labs, a behavioral product design company that helps companies like LinkedIn, Airbnb, and PayPal increase the health, wealth, and happiness of their users. Her work keeps landing on the same uncomfortable truth: the things that actually run your behavior are your environment and your incentives, and you barely notice either one. She learned the incentive half the hard way, when a project quietly turned her into what she calls a predatory lender.  In this episode, she and Connor get practical: Why buying a dog beats relying on willpower. How a “Ulysses contract” binds your future self. Why she built her life around a 20-person Oakland commune called Radish, where everyone eats dinner together at 7:30.  If you've ever known better and done it anyway, or wanted to know how to design an environment that brings out the best in your team, this one’s for you. CHAPTERS CHAPTERS * 00:00:00 The chocolate croissant you didn't mean to eat * 00:00:55 Why behavioral science lights her up * 00:02:16 How choice architecture works * 00:05:31 You're always being manipulated by your environment * 00:07:08 When good intentions meet bad incentives * 00:08:39 The stand-up challenge — Closing the intention-action gap * 00:09:53 Buy a dog — The power of one-time decisions * 00:15:33 Commitment contracts that actually work * 00:17:13 Taking away the joy of work — What leaders get wrong * 00:19:51 Small teams, big autonomy — The Irrational Labs approach * 00:21:35 Extrinsic vs intrinsic motivation — What actually works * 00:26:26 Does confetti actually work? * 00:27:30 Work harder — The contrarian take on workplace culture * 00:29:04 Difficulty as fuel — The hero's journey at work * 00:31:18 Social desirability — Why we're all a little vain * 00:32:56 You've never arrived — The learning mindset * 00:34:02 Living in a commune — Behavioral science in the wild * 00:35:02 Behavioral contagion and seeing your partner perform * 00:36:57 Relationships drive happiness — Make them easier * 00:37:55 Low willpower, high design — How Kristen lives * 00:39:40 The billboard — Compliment someone

Politics Is the Problem. Politics Is the Solution — Manny's Founder Manny Yekutiel

What if politics didn't feel like homework? What if, instead, it was built on a foundation of love, community, and — most importantly — joy? Disowned by his Orthodox Jewish father for coming out, he showed up in San Francisco fourteen years ago with nothing. He says the city gave him everything. So he got to work giving it back. First, he built Manny's, the Mission gathering space where engagement, disagreement, action, and hope can flourish (and a required campaign stop for Democratic presidential candidates). Now, Manny is running for District 8 supervisor, Harvey Milk's old seat. Connor and Manny get into why joy is the most serious tool any politician has, how a guy who lost his dad built a home for a whole city, and why running for office might be the best dating strategy out there. If you're tired of politics feeling like a chore, this one's for you. CHAPTERS * 00:00:00 Intro — Politics is the problem, politics is the solution * 00:01:46 Coming out, being disowned, finding home in SF * 00:04:55 Building Manny's — A civic gathering space for democracy * 00:06:37 Dating a ballet dancer and enjoying the journey * 00:09:01 Loneliness and feeling outside the camp * 00:10:58 The craziest moments at Manny's * 00:17:16 Why I'm running for office — I owe the city * 00:23:34 Change is possible — Politics is the only thing standing in our way * 00:33:06 The Civic Joy Fund — Why joy matters in politics * 00:35:01 Community organizing 101 — How to build from scratch * 00:37:24 Gay, Jewish, and faithful — Reconciling identity and spirituality * 00:44:10 The housing crisis — Building 10,000 new homes in District 8 * 00:49:55 Burning bright — Harvey Milk's legacy and living fully IS THIS WORKING?! What if the most interesting thing about work isn't what we do—but what it does to us? Is This Working?! is about meaningful work and the messy humans who do it. Host Connor Diemand-Yauman talks to the leaders, builders, and creatives navigating the chaos through the moments they question everything and show up anyway. Next episode dropping soon - subscribe to get notified!

Why Real Leadership Feels Like Crap — Farmgirl Flowers Founder Christina Stembel

Christina Stembel started Farmgirl Flowers in 2010 with $49,000 in her bank account, no college degree, and no VC funding. Sixteen years later, it’s a $35-million-a-year company. "We joke at Farmgirl that we're like cockroaches. You can't get rid of us. You just get stomped on, you just keep going." In this conversation, Christina and Connor talk about: * the costs of building a company without the credentials * the 28-hour test that saved the company during the pandemic * why leaders can't always stick to their values * why real leadership means feeling like crap most of the time If you're sick of leadership platitudes and hungry for the story of someone doing the hard work, against the odds, this conversation is for you.

Don’t Follow Your Passion — Do This Instead | Crankstart Foundation's CEO Missy Narula

Most people in philanthropy wouldn't call themselves a "safety-net capitalist." Most people aren't Missy Narula. Missy’s made a career being comfortable in contradictions like “following your passion is overrated”—and she’s got the resume to prove it.  After Yale, Boston Consulting Group, and TPG, Missy walked away from all of it to start a company making phone holders that kept babies entertained during diaper changes. She got a patent. The company failed. She'll tell you those were the best years of her career.  Now she's CEO of Crankstart Foundation. Crankstart's work is mostly about San Francisco: affordable housing, healthcare career ladders, the kind of cross-sector partnerships Missy says the philanthropy field doesn't do enough of. One recent project put $10 million into a 168-unit affordable housing building. Another is a UCSF partnership that builds a career ladder from medical assistant to radiologist. On this episode of Is This Working?!, she tells Connor about the eight years she spent at blue-chip firms specifically to earn herself the option to fail later. About what it took to look herself in the mirror and admit she wasn't good at being an entrepreneur. About why the best career advice she has for a 22-year-old is take a hard job, learn something hard, and trust you'll find what calls your heart later. And then she tells him about her mom, who died when Missy was 19 and her mom was 46. "I thought she had lived a lot," Missy says. "But now that I'm 44, I realize she was just getting started." CHAPTERS CHAPTERS * 00:00:00 Being okay with being wrong * 00:00:57 McDonald's University and the hardest job ever * 00:01:54 Parental expectations and the privilege of freedom * 00:03:18 The competitive child * 00:04:29 Performance through play — High achievement without pressure * 00:07:19 The credibility sprint — Building a bank of signals * 00:09:09 Don't follow your passion — Do this instead * 00:14:55 The failed entrepreneur who never had more fun * 00:21:01 Parenthood as a superpower in the workplace * 00:24:30 From bloodthirsty capitalist to foundation leader * 00:30:52 Working with Michael Moritz — Excellence teaches excellence * 00:34:18 Making philanthropy less transactional * 00:42:22 The trust battery and rising tides lift all boats * 00:43:54 San Francisco needs grace, patience, and capital * 00:45:29 Losing her mom at 19 — Nobody's entitled to tomorrow

Winning AI *Without* Losing The American Dream — Fmr US Commerce Secretary Gina Raimondo

AI is here. The layoffs have started. Does anyone have a plan? Gina Raimondo does. Two-term Governor of Rhode Island, former U.S. Commerce Secretary, the person who shepherded the CHIPS Act through Congress and personally negotiated chip exports with Chinese leadership. Harvard, Oxford, Yale Law before any of it. Her plan: a new grand bargain between government and business. Workforce training that's continuous, employer-led, and funded by outcomes. Wage insurance for workers retraining mid-career. Tax incentives that make it more expensive to abandon workers than to retrain them. The same urgency we've poured into chips and models, applied to the tens of millions of American jobs about to change. In this episode, Connor and Gina get into the plan, the warning ("do this wrong and we will have automated our decline"), why UBI is a cop-out, and her honest reply to whether she'd like the job of President in 2028. There's also a phrase she banned in her own cabinet that we can't in good conscience print here. Connor gets her to use it on camera. Stay for that. CHAPTERS * 00:00:00 Intro — The woman betting on America's AI future * 00:01:16 Finding your Andy — Love, partnership, and non-negotiables * 00:05:46 Faith, spirituality, and the work arena * 00:08:01 The AI crisis nobody's preparing for * 00:10:33 Winning AI without losing America * 00:14:34 The grand bargain — Changing incentives for companies * 00:17:55 More women in charge would help * 00:20:16 The girl in the back seat with the racing stripe * 00:22:39 Lightning round — Biden, bathrooms, and power perks * 00:30:11 Grin-fucking and the yes-man problem * 00:37:32 Presidential ambitions and the right moment * 00:41:48 Conquering the self and the Msgina Special * 00:48:03 Legacy, love, and what really matters IS THIS WORKING?! What if the most interesting thing about work isn't what we do—but what it does to us? Is This Working?! is about meaningful work and the messy humans who do it. Host Connor Diemand-Yauman talks to the leaders, builders, and creatives navigating the chaos through the moments they question everything and show up anyway. Next episode dropping soon - subscribe to get notified!