Lolita Guarin

Lolita Guarin

In this episode of Just Like Nana, host Amie (Elizabeth) Penny Sayler is joined by stress management coach Lolita Guarin, where they discuss struggling with anxiety and self abandonment as an unintentional way to honor your ancestors and how to break your ‘loyalty’ to your family’s trauma patterns. They also discuss the societal pressure to uphold perfectly happily family narratives, even when that is not the reality for many people. About Lolita Guarin Lolita Guarin is a stress management expert, speaker, coach, six-time Amazon #1 bestselling author, creator of the CALM Process, and Story to IMPACT mentor. She helps audiences move from stress and burnout into clarity, confidence, and self-trust with practical tools they can use right away.  In This Episode, You’ll Learn: * Understand that ancestral trauma is an inherited historical memory that converts into rigid behavioral patterns. Recognizing that your constant state of hyper-vigilance is an inherited default setting allows you to separate the trauma from who you truly are. * By looking through a third-person lens rather than a wounded child's perspective, you can see how an ancestor’s inability to show love often stems from unresolved trauma in their own childhood. * Many adults self-abandon and refuse to practice self-care because they unconsciously believe that suffering honors the sacrifices of their lineage.  * Stop bulldozing your own needs. Reclaim your personal sovereignty by practicing small boundaries, like pausing before saying "yes" to a demand, and actively celebrating your small daily victories to heal your inner child. Resources Mentioned Dr. Gabor Maté: https://drgabormate.com/ [https://drgabormate.com/] Connect with Lolita Lolita’s Website: https://www.beamazingyou.com/ [https://www.beamazingyou.com/] Lolita’s Books: https://beamazingyou.lpages.co/get-the-books/ [https://beamazingyou.lpages.co/get-the-books/] Book a Session: https://beamazingyou.lpages.co/book-a-session/ [https://beamazingyou.lpages.co/book-a-session/] Connect with the Show * Website: justlikenana.com [http://justlikenana.com] * Share Your Story: If you have a family story or trauma you’re exploring, reach out via our website for a chance to be interviewed. Connect with Just Like Nana's Website [https://justlikenana.com/]. A proud member of the Feminist Podcasters Collective [https://feministpodcasterscollective.com/]. Theme music by Carter Penny.

Yildiz Sethi

In this episode of Just Like Nana, host Amie (Elizabeth) Penny Sayler is joined by Yildiz Sethi, a psychotherapist, best-selling author, and founder of Emotional Mind Integration, to challenge outmoded mental health models and explore the generational subconscious mind. Together they discuss the importance of addressing generational trauma and the potential for mental health recovery through neuroscience and epigenetics. About Yildiz Sethi Yildiz Sethi is a psychotherapist, author, and innovator in mind science, with over 25 years of experience helping people create deep, lasting change. She is the founder of Emotional Mind Integration, Rapid Core Healing, and PTIT Trauma Recovery, offering brief, powerful approaches to healing personal and generational trauma in just 1–4 sessions. Her work bridges neuroscience, consciousness, and spirituality, challenging outdated mental health models that focus on managing symptoms rather than resolving root causes. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: * Your struggles are split between your personal subconscious mind (repressed personal experiences) and your generational mind (the systemic patterns, anxieties, and relationship dynamics you carry from your family tree). * Traditional talk therapy can flood your system by forcing you to relive painful memories. Rapid core healing uses resourced, distanced subconscious processing to release stored adrenaline safely and effectively within a session. * Modern neuroscience tells us the brain can constantly rewire itself.  Resources Mentioned * Crazy Normal for Better Mental Health and Wellbeing podcast [https://yildizsethi.com/crazy-normal-podcast/] * Let's Take the Crap Out of Psychotherapy by Yildiz Sethi [https://store.bookbaby.com/book/lets-take-the-crap-out-of-psychotherapy] Connect with Yildiz * Website: https://yildizsethi.com/ [https://yildizsethi.com/] * Books: https://yildizsethi.com/mind-and-trauma-healing-books/ [https://yildizsethi.com/mind-and-trauma-healing-books/] Connect with the Show * Website: justlikenana.com [http://justlikenana.com] * Share Your Story: If you have a family story or trauma you’re exploring, reach out via our website for a chance to be interviewed. Connect with Just Like Nana's Website [https://justlikenana.com/]. A proud member of the Feminist Podcasters Collective [https://feministpodcasterscollective.com/]. Theme music by Carter Penny.

Malinda DeMercurio

In this episode of Just Like Nana, host Amie (Elizabeth) Penny Sayler is joined by Malinda DeMercurio, an acupuncturist and Sangoma, to explore how energy medicine, shamanic traditions, and ancestral healing can guide you back to your heart. Together they discuss how to begin working with your ancestors, trusting your intuition as it draws you to specific healing modalities, and more. About Malinda Malinda DeMercurio is a licensed acupuncturist in New York, Connecticut, and Wisconsin, a certified instinctive meditation teacher, a Reiki master, and an initiated Sangoma, which is a traditional healer from the Zulu lineage of South Africa. She integrates acupuncture, meditation, energy medicine, and ancestral healing to help individuals restore health, reconnect with their spiritual inheritance and step into greater sovereignty. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: * Awaken Your Ancestral Qi: Recognize that you carry the energy, strength, and life force of those who came before you in your very DNA. True vitality comes from learning to unblock and honor this spiritual inheritance. * Listen to the Call of the Grandmothers: Reconnecting with the wisdom of the grandmothers allows us to ground ourselves in fierce, nurturing energy and find our way back to the heart. * Trust Your Intuitive Memory: Pay attention to the sudden signs, repeating patterns, or subtle inner pulls that draw you toward specific healing modalities like acupuncture, massage, or ritual work. Your ancestors often communicate through these intuitive nudges. * The Power of Ritual Prescription: Move your healing beyond mental processing by engaging in physical rituals. Honoring family stories and ancestral spirits through intentional acts helps metabolize stored emotional grief. * Fierce Self-Care Filters Outward: True matriarchal energy reminds us that taking care of ourselves is not selfish; it gives us the vital wherewithal to fiercely love, protect, and offer deep healing to our families and communities. Resources Mentioned * Amazon Magic by Jaya Bear: https://www.abebooks.com/9780967425504/Amazon-Magic-Life-Story-Ayahuasquero-0967425506/plp * An Overview of Sangomas: https://www.britannica.com/science/sangoma [https://www.britannica.com/science/sangoma] Connect with Malinda DeMercurio Dragon Springs Wellness: https://dragonspringswellness.com/ [https://dragonspringswellness.com/]  90-Day Ancestral Healing & Sovereignty Reset: https://dragonspringswellness.com/programs-classes-and-events [https://dragonspringswellness.com/programs-classes-and-events] Malinda's Substack: https://substack.com/@primordialmothers Connect with the Show * Website: justlikenana.com [http://justlikenana.com] * Share Your Story: If you have a family story or trauma you’re exploring, reach out via our website for a chance to be interviewed. Connect with Just Like Nana's Website [https://justlikenana.com/]. A proud member of the Feminist Podcasters Collective [https://feministpodcasterscollective.com/]. Theme music by Carter Penny.

Dr. Irit Felsen

In this episode of Just Like Nana, host Amie (Elizabeth) Penny Sayler is joined by Dr. Irit Felsen, a clinical psychologist who specializes in trauma and traumatic loss, where they discuss the impact of significant familial trauma through the lens of Holocaust survivors and their families. Together, they explore how to navigate family dynamics that result from trauma, and the importance of separating the love from the trauma. About Dr. Irit Felsen Irit Felsen, PhD is a clinical psychologist specializing in trauma and traumatic loss, whose clinical work and research have been focused on Holocaust survivors and their families. Dr. Felsen is an Adjunct Professor at Columbia University and was previously an Assistant Professor at Ferkauf Graduate School of Psychology, Yeshiva University for 14 years. Dr. Felsen is a Fellow of the APA Trauma division (Division 56) and a member of the American Academy of Experts in Traumatic Stress. She is the chair of the Trauma Working Group at the NGO Committee on Mental Health in Consultative Relationship to the United Nations.   During the Covid-19 pandemic, Dr. Felsen was the chair of the Working Group focused on the needs of Vibrant Older Adults in the APA Interdivision Covid-19 Task Force, and when she resided in NJ,  she was a board member of the Holocaust Council of MetroWest.   Dr. Felsen’s papers have been published in peer-reviewed professional journals, and she authored multiple book chapters. Her research was the basis for the book “Psychoanalysis and Holocaust Testimony: Memories of Unwanted Social Trauma.”  Dr. Felsen is sought-after speaker presenting nationally and internationally about the long-term effects of trauma on survivors and about the intergenerational transmission of trauma and resilience to the descendants of survivors. She is in private practice in Englewood, NJ. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: * Learn to distinguish between your parents' true core personality—what they actually wished and wanted for you—and the restrictive, anxious behaviors caused by post-traumatic stress. * Gain a clearer psychological perspective on why trauma survivors sometimes struggle with boundary-setting and letting their children separate, removing the blame and introducing deep compassion into the relationship. * Reclaim your family narrative by honoring the immense resilience it took for your lineage to survive, turning that historical strength into fuel for your own personal growth and success. Resources Mentioned * Psychoanalysis and Holocaust Testimony: Memories of Unwanted Social Trauma [https://www.routledge.com/Psychoanalysis-and-Holocaust-Testimony-Unwanted-Memories-of-Social-Trauma/Laub-Hamburger/p/book/9781138859210] * The work of Beatrice Beebe, PhD [https://www.beatricebeebe.com/] * Nothing Makes You Free [https://bookshop.org/p/books/nothing-makes-you-free-writings-by-descendants-of-jewish-holocaust-survivors-melvin-jules-bukiet/7f18302984cdd8a2] edited by Melvin Jules Bukiet * Fugitive Pieces [https://bookshop.org/p/books/fugitive-pieces-anne-michaels/7bb54b8aa88aa299?ean=9780679776598&next=t] by Anne Michaels Connect with Dr. Irit Felsen * Website: https://www.iritfelsen.com/ [https://www.iritfelsen.com/] * Research: https://www.iritfelsen.com/research/ [https://www.iritfelsen.com/research/] * LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/irit-felsen-3b316712/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/irit-felsen-3b316712/] * YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCoPm6rBX9nGA0g76s4A-UpA [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCoPm6rBX9nGA0g76s4A-UpA] Connect with the Show * Website: justlikenana.com [http://justlikenana.com] * Share Your Story: If you have a family story or trauma you’re exploring, reach out via our website for a chance to be interviewed. Connect with Just Like Nana's Website [https://justlikenana.com/]. A proud member of the Feminist Podcasters Collective [https://feministpodcasterscollective.com/]. Theme music by Carter Penny.

Liza Miron

In this episode of Just Like Nana, host Amie (Elizabeth) Penny Sayler is joined by Liza Miron, Family Constellations facilitator and coach, to discuss ancestral trauma through family entanglements and how we can heal from them. Together they discover how to balance ancestral anger while honoring those ancestors, the importance of acceptance and belonging, and so much more. About Liza With over 15 years of hands-on experience with different modalities, Family Constellations facilitator and trainer Liza Miron is passionate about nurturing growth, fostering awareness, and uncovering underlying threads that keep people from enjoying their lives. This is complemented by her dynamic academic background, including a BA in Business Administration, an MA in Coaching and Human Resources Management, and spectrum-wide certifications including NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming), EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques), Reiki, and Syntara System Energy Healing. In This Episode, You’ll Learn: * Recognize that you are part of a larger energetic web. When an ancestor is forgotten, excluded, or judged, the system often entangles a later generation to represent that person, leading us to repeat their difficult patterns. * Healing begins when we acknowledge the black sheep or the forgotten ones and return them to their place in the system. * Discover why the most powerful healing sentence is a simple Yes to reality. Looking at the truth of your family history without judgment allows the heavy energy of the past to transform into strength. * You don't have to suffer to show loyalty to your lineage. Learn how to honor your ancestors by living a full, happy life—turning their survival and sacrifices into your fuel for success. Resources Mentioned * Another Self (Zeytin Agaci) [https://www.imdb.com/title/tt14899624/] Connect with Liza Miron * Website [https://www.coachingandconstellations.com/] * Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/newfamilyconstellations/] * YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCQ14F4nfDntDlGlmRhIiaZQ/videos] * Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/lizamironcoaching/] * LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/in/lizamiron/] Connect with the Show * Website: justlikenana.com [http://justlikenana.com] * Share Your Story: If you have a family story or trauma you’re exploring, reach out via our website for a chance to be interviewed. Connect with Just Like Nana's Website [https://justlikenana.com/]. A proud member of the Feminist Podcasters Collective [https://feministpodcasterscollective.com/]. Theme music by Carter Penny.