Live with Let’s Get UnStuck x Chris Carazus- The Silence that Almost Ended Me

Live with Let’s Get UnStuck x Chris Carazus- The Silence that Almost Ended Me

Post-Live Reflection I gotta say I absolutely LOVE what we do here with Let’s Get Unstuck Live [http://www.letsgetunstuck.blog] Some stories ask us to listen. Others ask us to look inward. Tonight’s conversation with Christopher Carazas [https://substack.com/profile/214057481-christopher-carazas] did both. We spent the evening talking about trauma, emotional survival, and what happens when the weight of our past quietly catches up to us. Not with chaos or dramatic moments, but in silence. The type of silence that can make us question whether anyone would even notice we’re struggling. One of the things that struck me most was the reminder that healing isn’t always about finding the perfect words or the perfect solution. Sometimes it’s simply about having something or someone who stays with us long enough for us to find our footing again. As we talked, I found myself thinking about how many people are carrying invisible battles. People who look like they’re functioning. They’re working, parenting, laughing, and showing up every day, while privately wondering how much longer they can keep carrying the weight they’re under. That’s why conversations like this matter. Not because they give us all the answers, but because they remind us that we’re not the only ones asking the questions. If Chris’s story taught me anything, it’s that survival isn’t weakness, and healing isn’t linear. Both require incredible courage. Sometimes that courage looks like asking for help. Sometimes it looks like accepting it. And sometimes it simply looks like choosing to stay for one more day. Thank you, Christopher Carazas [https://substack.com/profile/214057481-christopher-carazas] , for trusting us with one of the most vulnerable chapters of your life. Every story shared here reminds us that getting unstuck isn’t about pretending we’re okay, it’s about having the courage to tell the truth about where we’ve been so we can keep moving toward where we’re going. Thank you Chris B. Writes [https://substack.com/profile/114735890-chris-b-writes], KarenC-Book Collector📚⚖️🗽🗳️🧿♒️ [https://substack.com/profile/861075-karenc-book-collector], Robert Lancaster [https://substack.com/profile/14154749-robert-lancaster], and many others for tuning in. Join me for my next live with one of my fav friends Erin Gregory Creative [https://substack.com/profile/65107394-erin-gregory-creative] Weds, 6/30 5:30pm PST Shout out to my producer John Rinaldo © [https://substack.com/profile/23345777-john-rinaldo] for his exceptional intro and outro artwork and creation. Get full access to Let’s Get UnStuck at traciedwards1.substack.com/subscribe [https://traciedwards1.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_4]

🎙️Live with Let’s Get UnStuck x Simon Salt -The Pill Bottle That Saved My Relationship

After the live ended tonight with Simon Salt [https://substack.com/profile/103975123-simon-salt], I found myself thinking less about perimenopause and more about the assumptions we make when we don't fully understand what someone else is experiencing. At first glance, this story seems like it’s about perimenopause. And certainly, that is part of it. Simon shared openly about the years his wife spent searching for answers while navigating symptoms that doctors struggled to explain. He talked about the impact those changes had on their marriage, their communication, and their intimacy. The more we talked, the more I realized this story is really about something much bigger. It’s about the assumptions we make when we don’t understand what someone else is going through. When things started changing in his relationship, Simon did what many of us do. He filled in the blanks. Without answers, he began questioning himself. He wondered if he was failing as a husband. He wondered if his marriage was slowly slipping away and if he was doing wrong. The truth was that neither he nor his wife fully understood what they were facing. One of the most powerful moments from our conversation came when Simon talked about the difference between knowing someone’s symptoms and understanding their experience. Those are not the same thing. You can know the facts, read the articles, and understand the terminology. Yet still completely miss what it feels like to be the person living through it. That lesson extends far beyond perimenopause. It applies to anxiety, depression, grief, burnout, self-doubt and much more. Any experience where someone is carrying something internally that we cannot fully see from the outside. The title of Simon’s story comes from a moment that could have become a breaking point in his marriage. Instead, it became a turning point. A moment that forced both of them to see each other differently. What struck me most was Simon’s willingness to admit that he had been asking the wrong questions. Not because he didn’t care or that he wasn’t trying. It’s because fear and confusion often narrow our perspective. Many of us have been there. We become so focused on our own uncertainty, frustration, or hurt that we stop asking what the other person might be experiencing. Sometimes getting unstuck starts there. Not with finding the perfect solution or fixing everything overnight. But with becoming curious enough to see beyond our own perspective. I’m grateful to Simon for sharing a story that so many couples will recognize themselves in. If you missed tonight’s conversation, I hope you’ll take the time to listen. Whether you’re navigating perimenopause, relationship challenges, communication struggles, or simply trying to better understand someone you love, there is a lesson here for all of us. Sometimes the breakthrough isn’t learning what’s wrong. Sometimes it’s finally learning how to sit, listen and believe. Thank you to everyone who tuned into my live video! Join me for my next live nest week on 6/24 at 5:30pm PST with Christopher Carazas [https://substack.com/profile/214057481-christopher-carazas]. Get full access to Let’s Get UnStuck at traciedwards1.substack.com/subscribe [https://traciedwards1.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_4]

🎙️Let's Get Unstuck x The Therapist Who Came Undone🎙️

What If Healing Isn’t a Fight? Tonight’s conversation with The Therapist Who Came Undone [https://substack.com/profile/349751534-the-therapist-who-came-undone] left me [http://www.Letsgetunstuck.blog] thinking about how much energy people spend managing themselves. The mental calculations and the second guessing. The constant pressure to stay in control. For our guest, that pressure lived inside an eating disorder for more than thirty years. Recovery felt like something that had to be earned through discipline, vigilance, and never letting her guard down. What struck me most was how differently she views that experience today. At some point, the focus shifted away from defeating the eating disorder and toward understanding it. That doesn’t mean the damage wasn’t real or the suffering disappeared. The consequences were significant, and she was incredibly honest about that throughout the conversation. What changed was the lens she was looking through. Instead of asking, “How do I beat this?” she began asking, “Why did this become necessary in the first place?” That question opened the door to a much deeper conversation about shame, anxiety, emotional survival, self compassion, identity, and the need for control. Listening to her story, I kept thinking about how many people are carrying their own version of that struggle. An eating disorder may not be part of their story. Anxiety might be. Perfectionism might be. For someone else, it could be the relentless voice that points out every mistake, every flaw, and every reason they are still not enough. Different struggles. The same exhaustion and desire to feel safe. The same hope that life might feel lighter if they could just figure out what is wrong with them. Tonight’s conversation challenged that idea. Perhaps healing begins when we spend less time trying to fix ourselves and more time understanding ourselves. Thank you to our guest for sharing such an honest and vulnerable story. If you missed the live conversation, the full episode is now available. One thought continues to stay with me: You do not have to hate yourself into healing. Thank you to everyone who tuned into my live video! Join me next week with Simon Salt [https://substack.com/profile/103975123-simon-salt] Get full access to Let’s Get UnStuck at traciedwards1.substack.com/subscribe [https://traciedwards1.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_4]

🎙️Let’s Get UnStuck Live x Daniel Yee Psychology - Adult Life with ADHD

Last night’s conversation with Daniel Yee was one of the most honest and psychologically layered episodes we’ve had on Let’s Get Unstuck [http://www.letsgetunstuck.blog]. What started as a conversation about ADHD quickly unfolded into something much deeper. Daniel Yee Psychology [https://substack.com/profile/99604957-daniel-yee-psychology] read his story What ADHD Feels Like as an Adult [https://open.substack.com/pub/danielyeepsych/p/what-having-adhd-feels-like-as-an?r=exoqq&utm_campaign=post-expanded-share&utm_medium=post%20viewer] We talked about shame. About growing up believing your struggles mean something is fundamentally wrong with you as a person. About knowing exactly what you should be doing while still feeling unable to consistently make yourself do it. Daniel spoke openly about executive dysfunction, emotional dysregulation, gambling addiction, limerence, loneliness, dopamine chasing, and the exhausting cycle of constantly searching for the next thing that might finally make life feel okay. One of the biggest takeaways from the conversation was this: A lot of what people call laziness is actually pain, overwhelm, avoidance, shame, and a nervous system struggling without the right map. There were also powerful moments about modern dating, rejection sensitivity, impulsivity, identity, and the pressure so many people carry to become someone else before they finally feel worthy of love, stability, or peace. But underneath all of it was something hopeful. The realization that understanding yourself changes everything. That maybe the answer is not becoming a completely different person.Maybe the answer is learning how to build a life around the brain, nervous system, and emotional reality you actually have. If you have ever struggled with self sabotage, addiction, procrastination, emotional overwhelm, feeling behind in life, or constantly questioning why things seem harder for you than everyone else around you, I think this episode will resonate deeply. The full episode is now live on Let’s Get Unstuck. Thank you Dido Torchi [https://substack.com/profile/357262444-dido-torchi], Chris Laible [https://substack.com/profile/73272868-chris-laible], Lynn J. Broderick [https://substack.com/profile/116644987-lynn-j-broderick] , Marlana aka Outtamydamnmind [https://substack.com/profile/327704097-marlana-aka-outtamydamnmind], Hannah Brown [https://substack.com/profile/310912020-hannah-brown] and many others for tuning into my live video with Daniel Yee Psychology [https://substack.com/profile/99604957-daniel-yee-psychology]! ~ I AM TAKING A WEEK OFF~ I WILL BE BACK JUNE 3rd~ Get full access to Let’s Get UnStuck at traciedwards1.substack.com/subscribe [https://traciedwards1.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_4]

🎙️Let’s Get UnStuck Live x Relationships Reimagined

Tonight’s conversation with Eric Bensoussan [https://substack.com/@erictherelationshipcoach] https://substack.com/@erictherelationshipcoachwent far beyond relationship advice. His story Why People Keep Choosing the Same Person [https://open.substack.com/pub/erictherelashionshipcoach/p/why-you-keep-choosing-the-same-person?r=exoqq&utm_campaign=post-expanded-share&utm_medium=post%20viewer] took me through some deep reflections on parts of my life that definitely raised my eyebrows. What made this discussion powerful was the honesty inside it. The exhaustion of recognizing our own patterns while still feeling pulled toward them.The shame we carry when awareness alone does not create change and the realization that survival responses often shape relationships more than people realize. Eric spoke openly about attachment wounds, grief, emotional survival, nervous system conditioning, and the slow process of learning how to stop abandoning yourself inside relationships. One of the biggest takeaways from tonight was this:Understanding your patterns intellectually does not automatically mean your body feels safe enough to choose differently yet. That does not make someone broken. It makes them human. This conversation opened up honest dialogue around emotional safety, vulnerability, anxiety in relationships, trauma responses, and what healing actually looks like beyond self help language and surface level advice. The full conversation with Eric is now available on Let’s Get Unstuck and the blog. Thank you to everyone who joined us live tonight and shared pieces of themselves in the comments. Lynn J. Broderick [https://substack.com/profile/116644987-lynn-j-broderick], KaZ Akers-Wild About The Wild. [https://substack.com/profile/348270809-kaz-akers-wild-about-the-wild], John Rinaldo [https://substack.com/profile/23345777-john-rinaldo] , Ellen Scherr [https://substack.com/profile/363599366-ellen-scherr] , Marlana aka Outtamydamnmind [https://substack.com/profile/327704097-marlana-aka-outtamydamnmind], Albert Kivak [https://substack.com/profile/77643233-albert-kivak], and many others for tuning into my live video with Relationships Reimagined [https://substack.com/profile/128106078-relationships-reimagined]! Join me for my next live 5/20 5:30pm pst. with Daniel Yee Psychology [https://substack.com/profile/99604957-daniel-yee-psychology] and an in depth conversation about life with ADHD. Get full access to Let’s Get UnStuck at traciedwards1.substack.com/subscribe [https://traciedwards1.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_4]