Survival Instinct or Real Love? Why We Reach for Our Exes

How Can You Be Irritated and Aroused at the Same Damn Time?

There are things that our partner says or does that grate on our very last nerve. But sometimes, as annoyed as we may be, we find desire bubbling to the surface. In this episode, Stacey gets into the alchemy of irritation and desire, and why the thing that drives you absolutely batshit crazy might also stir your loins. Suggested Reading: Arousal transfer (a.k.a. Excitation transfer): * https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1002/9781119011071.iemp0055 [https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1002/9781119011071.iemp0055] * https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/35471677/ [https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/35471677/] 🗳️ Share top suggestions for the show: https://bit.ly/sexirlpod-suggestion-box [https://bit.ly/sexirlpod-suggestion-box] 💌 Subscribe to the Sex IRL Substack: https://www.sexinreallife.com/ [https://www.sexinreallife.com/] Ready to Transform Your Intimate Conversations? Get the free workbook [https://staceyherrera.com/yes-no-maybe-workbook/] 📖 How Do I Tell Them I Have Herpes? A guide to having "the talk" without losing your cool (or your dignity). https://staceyherrera.com/herpesbook [https://staceyherrera.com/herpesbook] 📖 How to Give Amazing Head: 10 Easy Tips to Blow His Mind https://staceyherrera.com/how-to-give-amazing-head/ [https://staceyherrera.com/how-to-give-amazing-head/]

This Is Your One and Only Sex Life. There Are No Do-Overs.

Long-term relationships have a way of settling into routine. Same person, same bed, same sex, possibly on the same night of the week. In this episode, Stacey gets into why the sexual do-over is a myth. And how you could be overlooking the eroticism in the sex you're already having. Resources mentioned: 1. Mono no aware [https://www.toki.tokyo/blogt/mono-no-aware-aesthetics-of-a-fleeting-word] - Japanese concept * Translation: "the pathos of things" * In other words… the bittersweet realization that everything is transient. 🗳️ Suggest a topic for the show: https://bit.ly/sexirlpod-suggestion-box [https://bit.ly/sexirlpod-suggestion-box] 💌 Subscribe to the Sex IRL Substack: https://www.sexinreallife.com/ [https://www.sexinreallife.com/] Ready to Transform Your Intimate Conversations? Get the free workbook [https://staceyherrera.com/yes-no-maybe-workbook/] 📖 How Do I Tell Them I Have Herpes? A guide to having "the talk" without losing your cool (or your dignity). https://staceyherrera.com/herpesbook [https://staceyherrera.com/herpesbook] 📖 How to Give Amazing Head: 10 Easy Tips to Blow His Mind https://staceyherrera.com/how-to-give-amazing-head/ [https://staceyherrera.com/how-to-give-amazing-head/]

How Our Past Relationships Shape the Way We Receive Love

Sometimes old relationships linger in our nervous system. We brace for disappointment, questioning generosity, or waiting for new love to come with a list of conditions. In this episode, Stacey explores how past relationships shape the way we receive love in the present. And the shadows they cast long after they're over. 🗳️ Suggest a topic for the show: https://bit.ly/sexirlpod-suggestion-box [https://bit.ly/sexirlpod-suggestion-box] 💌 Subscribe to the Sex IRL Substack: https://www.sexinreallife.com/ [https://www.sexinreallife.com/] Ready to Transform Your Intimate Conversations? Get the free workbook [https://staceyherrera.com/yes-no-maybe-workbook/] 📖 How Do I Tell Them I Have Herpes? A guide to having "the talk" without losing your cool (or your dignity). https://staceyherrera.com/herpesbook [https://staceyherrera.com/herpesbook] 📖 How to Give Amazing Head: 10 Easy Tips to Blow His Mind https://staceyherrera.com/how-to-give-amazing-head/ [https://staceyherrera.com/how-to-give-amazing-head/]

Survival Instinct or Real Love? Why We Reach for Our Exes

Sometimes exes come back into your life because they missed you. But there are times when they return because their life unraveled without the structure you provided.. In this episode, Stacey explores the difference between reconciliation and retreat. Between love and survival instinct. Knowing the difference can change everything. 🗳️ Suggest a topic for the show: https://bit.ly/sexirlpod-suggestion-box [https://bit.ly/sexirlpod-suggestion-box] 💌 Subscribe to the Sex IRL Substack: https://www.sexinreallife.com/ [https://www.sexinreallife.com/] Ready to Transform Your Intimate Conversations? Get the free workbook [https://staceyherrera.com/yes-no-maybe-workbook/] 📖 How Do I Tell Them I Have Herpes? A guide to having "the talk" without losing your cool (or your dignity). https://staceyherrera.com/herpesbook [https://staceyherrera.com/herpesbook] 📖 How to Give Amazing Head: 10 Easy Tips to Blow His Mind https://staceyherrera.com/how-to-give-amazing-head/ [https://staceyherrera.com/how-to-give-amazing-head/]

Do You Really Want the Kind of Honesty You Claim to Value?

Most of us really believe we want honesty. But do we want the truth? Or do we just want to be agreed with? In this episode, Stacey digs into the difference between honesty and the curated version many of us seek. And why it's essential to recognize the difference. 🗳️ Suggest a topic for the show: https://bit.ly/sexirlpod-suggestion-box [https://bit.ly/sexirlpod-suggestion-box] 💌 Subscribe to the Sex IRL Substack: https://www.sexinreallife.com/ [https://www.sexinreallife.com/] Ready to Transform Your Intimate Conversations? Get the free workbook [https://staceyherrera.com/yes-no-maybe-workbook/] 📖 How Do I Tell Them I Have Herpes? A guide to having "the talk" without losing your cool (or your dignity). https://staceyherrera.com/herpesbook [https://staceyherrera.com/herpesbook] 📖 How to Give Amazing Head: 10 Easy Tips to Blow His Mind https://staceyherrera.com/how-to-give-amazing-head/ [https://staceyherrera.com/how-to-give-amazing-head/]