Love Over Addiction

Cookies in the Freezer: Little Joys for Big Holidays

In this deeply personal episode, Michelle shares intimate insights and compassionate strategies, for navaigateing family dynamics during the holidays when you love someones suffering from addiction.

What Happens After We Leave

We lay in bed at night and dream about what life would be like if we left the ones we desperately love who struggle with addiction. What would living without constant worry feel like? How would we deal with our finances, the kids, and no one to laugh with on holidays? Sometimes, imagining leaving feels so freeing (especially when they are not answering their phones or are passed out on the couch). But the next moment, it can be absolutely terrifying, thinking of being alone and the anger and judgment we might face. So, how does it really feel once we've moved on? https://michelleanderson.substack.com/

Three Ways Addiction Makes Us Feel Like It's Our Fault

When we love someone suffering from addiction, we can often get into the bad habit of blaming ourselves for their poor behavior. Addiction is manipulative and cunning. Becoming educated women will ensure we don't fall for one of the most common lies in the addiction playbook: if WE change, they will get sober. We have nothing to do with their sobriety. Truly. We could leave, we could stay, we could change every single trait about ourselves, and they would STILL need to decide for themselves to commit to a sober life and continue to make that choice every day for the rest of their lives. And that choice - the choice to get healthy, has nothing to do with us. https://michelleanderson.substack.com/

A Well Designed Happy Life With or Without Them

How would it feel if I said we need to live a life that isn't dependent on our loved one's sobriety? And if we can create that kind of life, we can have a happy future if they get sober or not. We can learn to live with or without our partners. Here's the loving truth: we hope and pray that our loved ones will not drink too much or stop using drugs and start being faithful. But when we put our lives on hold, hoping they will keep their promise of remaining sober and stopping their bad habits, we are leaving our happiness in their hands. https://michelleanderson.substack.com/

What To Do With The Kids If Our Partner Is Drinking or Using Drugs

Knowing what to do when our loved one starts drinking or using drugs around the children can be difficult. Here's one helpful tip: We don't need to stick around when they're making bad choices. We can ask them to leave the house. If they refuse or they're too drunk, we can pick up our keys, grab the kids, and head right out the door. https://michelleanderson.substack.com/