They Loved Me, Nobody Hired Me: Why Your Talks Aren't Converting Into Clients

They Loved Me, Nobody Hired Me: Why Your Talks Aren't Converting Into Clients

🎙️ 💥 Learn how to Speak up for Your Excellence: https://lovekindcure.kit.com/b80a66aa37 They clapped. They cried. They told you it was the best thing they'd ever seen — and then nobody hired you. That's not a talent problem. It's not even a confidence problem. 👀 What's actually going on?  THIS VIDEO UNPACKS: -- Why your talk needs a "job" before you ever walk on stage — and the one question I ask every client before we even get on a call -- The exact window after you speak when people are primed to say yes and how fast it slams shut -- The one sentence that decides whether people leave inspired or leave ready to hire you. A couple years back I led a retreat for a room full of corporate executives, and when I tell you it was stiff — you could've dropped a pin and heard it echo. One guy, built like a big buffy bear, came at me sideways the second I asked an opening question, like I was there to run some cute little woo-woo thing on him. By the end of that session? Same guy is walking side by side with me, telling me everything about his company. People were crying. The room was electric. Electric. 🔥 And it still didn't book me again. Not because the work wasn't real — because that retreat didn't have a job. I never architected it to convert. That's mistake number one, and it's probably costing you clients right now too. Then there's the flip side — missing the moment entirely. I once sat through a multi-day experience so good the whole room felt like friends by lunch. The founder never made the ask in the room. I got in my Uber, called my baby to say Mommy's flying home, landed, walked into my house — still nothing. Days later, an email shows up trying to recreate a moment that was already gone. 😬 YOUR TURN Of the 3 issues we talk about in the video—your talk as no job, you missed the moment, or your promised land is unclear--which one is showing up in your talks right now? 👇🏽 Drop it in the comments, I've got popcorn and I'm waiting... CHAPTERS 0:00 They Loved Me, Nobody Hired Me 2:00 The One Thing Your Talk Needs Before You Walk On Stage 4:50 The Retreat That Never Rebooked Me 7:00 You're Missing the Conversion Moment 7:35 The Keynote Where the Ask Came Too Late 10:25 The Promised Land Problem 12:10 What TED Gets Right About Selling Without Selling 13:40 Learn More: The Whole Damn Talk RESOURCES 📚Innards — My debut, a short story collection and among Guardian Best Fiction Books of 2023. 🎤 Work with me. Learn more about The Whole Damn Talk: https://madamespeakersays.com LET'S CONNECT 📲 Are we instagram friends? https://www.instagram.com/madamespeakersays/ 👩🏽‍💻 Storytelling website: http://www.magogodi.com 🎤 Madame Speaker Says site: http://www.madamespeakersays.com #PraisedNotHired #GetHiredMore #ClientAttraction #BusinessGrowth #TheWholeDamnTalk 📧 JOIN [https://lovekindcure.kit.com/9a6eb6b63e] -  Expect fresh newsletters every week or so, where I share bare truths, storytelling tips and plenty of F-bombs. Ready to turn your ideas into influence?  APPLY [https://madamespeakersays.com] for 1:1 coaching to transform your voice into your greatest asset.

Your Work Doesn't Speak for Itself - The Most Expensive Lie Brilliant Women Believe

Learn how to Speak up for Your Excellence - The Whole Damn Talk. [https://lovekindcure.kit.com/b80a66aa37] We've told brilliant women one of the most expensive lies in the world--that if the work is good enough, it'll speak for itself. It won't. I just closed out a season of interviews with women whose work has shaped institutions, ideas, their communities and countries—Wanuri Kahiu, who became the first Kenyan director to take her film to Cannes, Lebo Mashile who turned Sarah Baartman's story into a play and now an opera, Alicia DeLia, reimagining how we move money in the Global South, Rachel Cargle on the personal renaissance, Dr. Kemi Doll revolutionizing gynecologic care for Black and Brown bodies and Dr. Djamila Robeiro, the woman who disrupted a white-centric publishing industry and gave Brazil new language for dissecting power.  On paper, completely different lives. Underneath, the exact same pattern: not one of them got here by quietly becoming excellent and waiting to be discovered.  Each one learned how to make others being understand why her work mattered.That's the skill. And we celebrate it far too little. In this episode, you learn: * Why "your work will speak for itself" is costing you the opportunities that are actually yours * How you're already a public speaker every single day — whether you'd ever call yourself one or not * Why the skills don't change whether you're in front of 2 people or 2,000 * What I actually do (hint: I can't make you smarter — I help the room understand how smart you already are) * And what's coming next If you're an expert with a body of work you've spent forever building, this one's for you. 🎙️ Hit subscribe so you don't miss the next episode.  💬 Got a question about translating your own expertise? Send it my way, here. [https://lovekindcure.kit.com/b80a66aa37]  Chapters  00:00 — The one thing every guest had in common 01:04 — The women of this season, and why they could all speak to their work 02:13 — The expensive lie: "work hard and your work will speak for itself" 03:17 — Translation is a skill (send me your questions) 04:20 — You're already a public speaker, even if you'd never call it that 05:32 — Two people or two thousand: the skills don't change 06:29 — "I can't make you smarter. I make the room understand how smart you are." 07:32 — Turning expertise into bank: 18 crisp minutes that move people to act 08:37 — The throughline I didn't expect to find 09:45 — What's next: turning the lens on you 10:46 — Why I'm betting on Black and brown women Resources 📚 Innards — My debut, a short story collection and among Guardian Best Fiction Books of 2023. 🎤 The Whole Damn Talk: https://madamespeakersays.com [https://madamespeakersays.com/] Connect with Magogodi  Magogodi: http://www.magogodi.com  Madame Speaker Says: http://www.madamespeakersays.com  📧 JOIN [https://lovekindcure.kit.com/9a6eb6b63e] -  Expect fresh newsletters every week or so, where I share bare truths, storytelling tips and plenty of F-bombs. Ready to turn your ideas into influence?  APPLY [https://madamespeakersays.com] for 1:1 coaching to transform your voice into your greatest asset.

The Overnight Success That Took 20 Years | Rachel Cargle on Building a Movement From One Idea

Rachel Cargle on the quiet years behind "overnight" success — building The Loveland Foundation from one Instagram post, self-knowledge, and real thought leadership. You keep watching other people blow up overnight. Meanwhile you've got the idea, the skill, the whole thing — and it's still just sitting in your notes app. So what are they doing that you're not? "All I had to do was usher them into place — because I had already dreamt it out." — Rachel Cargle These days, The New York Times calls and quotes Rachel Cargle. But the moment that "made" her wasn't luck and it wasn't sudden. One Instagram post — asking if we could pay the therapy bills of Black women — raised $10,000 in 24 hours and grew into a foundation that's funded over $10 million in mental health care. It looked like an overnight win. It wasn't. That post sat on top of almost 20 years of quietly curating herself — all the way back to a 10-year-old practicing handwriting she admired until it became her own. So by the time the money and the right people showed up, she already knew exactly where everything went.  This episode is the part nobody posts: the long, quiet work that makes the loud moment land. You'll learn: * The real reason your idea hasn't taken off yet — and the unglamorous work that actually changes that * How Rachel turned one vulnerable post into a $10M movement, and why it wasn't the post that did it * What those 20 quiet years actually looked like — and how to use the years before anyone's clapping so you're ready the day they are * How to get so clear on what you want that the right people and money come find you * Why she walked away from a Columbia degree, and what she chose instead * One small move you can make this week to start Here's the thing: the talk inside you is the same kind of quiet work. The Whole Damn Talk is the three hours where we build it — the talk that makes a room not just nod, but book you, sign up, join what you're building. I only take five clients a month. Book a call at madamespeakersays.com. New episode every Sunday. Follow Madame Speaker Says so you don't miss one. Chapters 00:00 — The authority The New York Times calls now 00:00 — Curating yourself since age 10: the handwriting story 00:00 — Why she left Columbia 00:00 — Building rooms instead of waiting to be invited into one 00:00 — One post, $10,000, 24 hours: the Loveland Foundation 00:00 — Why it wasn't actually overnight 00:00 — What being public really costs 00:00 — Your move this week 00:00 — Rapid fire Resources 📚 A Renaissance of Our Own: A Memoir & Manifesto on Reimagining: https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/635409/a-renaissance-of-our-own-by-rachel-e-cargle/ [https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/635409/a-renaissance-of-our-own-by-rachel-e-cargle/] 🌿 The Loveland Foundation: https://thelovelandfoundation.org [https://thelovelandfoundation.org/] 🎤 The Whole Damn Talk: https://madamespeakersays.com [https://madamespeakersays.com/] Connect * Rachel Cargle: @rachel.cargle * Madame Speaker Says: @madamespeakersays  📧 JOIN [https://lovekindcure.kit.com/9a6eb6b63e] -  Expect fresh newsletters every week or so, where I share bare truths, storytelling tips and plenty of F-bombs. Ready to turn your ideas into influence?  APPLY [https://madamespeakersays.com] for 1:1 coaching to transform your voice into your greatest asset.

Building Authority No One Can Take | Djamila Ribeiro on Power & Speaking Unapologetically

What does it cost to keep waiting for the world to confirm what you already know about yourself? Djamila Ribeiro's answer will stop you: "People didn't give the opportunity to me, so I created the opportunity — because I knew my value." Djamila Ribeiro is one of the most important philosophers at work in the world right now. She coined a concept that gave Brazil new language for power. When the publishing industry couldn't hold her work, she built a publishing house. When 90% of books in her country had been written by white people for fifty years, she launched a collective that published 80 Black authors. When the United Nations needed someone to speak on the International Day of Recognizing the Victims of Slavery, they called her — the first Brazilian civilian ever invited to that stage. She gave herself three words before she walked up: speak unapologetically. This is a masterclass in what happens when you stop waiting for permission and start building from what you already know. In this episode, Djamila breaks down: * Why the moment she read Toni Morrison's The Bluest Eye at 19 didn't just change her — it issued her a demand, and what she did with it * What it actually means to know your value before the academy, the industry, or the institution confirms it — and how that self-knowledge becomes the foundation everything else is built on * How she diagnosed a market that wasn't built for her work and built an alternative market instead of waiting for it to change * What happened the day she found out a stranger had built a community library by hand in a poor neighborhood and named it after her work — and what it teaches you about building something that outlasts you * The one concrete move she gives her students before she sees them again — not over the course of the semester, but before next time * The three words she gave herself before walking onto the floor of the UN General Assembly — and why they are the only preparation that mattered 🔔 Subscribe to Madame Speaker Says - new episodes every Sunday.  Join the conversation - madamespeakersays.com [http://www.madamespeakersays.com] Chapters 00:00 Introduction — Djamila Ribeiro 02:30 Toni Morrison at 19 — What Recognition Demands of You 08:00 Brazil's Racial Landscape — The Last Country to End Slavery in 1888👀 13:30 University at 27 — Self-Knowledge Before the Degree 19:00 Lugar de Fala & the Feminismos Plurais Publishing Collective 27:30 The Library in Campinas — When the Work Leaves Its Creator 33:00 What Brazil Can Teach the Rest of the World 37:30 Take the Floor — Rapid Fire 44:30 The UN General Assembly — Speak Unapologetically 48:00 The Whole Damn Talk — Work with Magogodi Resources Mentioned 📚 The Bluest Eye — Toni Morrison 📚 Where We Stand — Djamila Ribeiro (Yale University Press, 2024) 📚 Letters to My Grandmother — Djamila Ribeiro Connect with Djamila 🔗 djamilaribeiro.com.br 📱 Instagram: @djamilaribeiro1 📧 JOIN [https://lovekindcure.kit.com/9a6eb6b63e] -  Expect fresh newsletters every week or so, where I share bare truths, storytelling tips and plenty of F-bombs. Ready to turn your ideas into influence?  APPLY [https://madamespeakersays.com] for 1:1 coaching to transform your voice into your greatest asset.

AI Wants to Erase You. Here's How I Use Clause to Sharpen My Talks & Essays.

What does it cost to let a machine make you sound smooth? Because the machine is trained for smooth. And smooth is forgettable. In this solo episode, Magogodi —host of Madame Speaker Says— goes deep on the move most people get exactly backwards. Feed AI "here's the assignment, just write it for me," and you'll sound like a corporate talking machine — forgettable, in a room you fought to get into.  The fix isn't to stop using AI. It's to stop letting AI write for you, and start using it as the most ruthless editor you've ever had. Magogodi walks through the exact process she used to write an application against 1,300 people — owning every first draft herself, then handing it over to sharpen, fact-check and remember what she forgot. And she's been edited by big thinkers at the Iowa Writer's Workshop, Harvard Review and W.W.Norton, so she doesn't say "ruthless editing" lightly. In this episode, Magogodi breaks down: * Why you own the first draft, every time—so the thinking stays yours, plus the voice-note hack for when you freeze * The five words that turn AI into a beast editor—and why they surface what most human editors miss * How to use AI as your fact-checker and your memory bank—the kind that sifts your own life and hands you back the story you forgot was the best part * How to protect your idiosyncrasies—your singular unique phrasing, weird jokes and tone— so your talk still sounds like a human, not a panel * Why ethics matters around here, and why use Claude over the rest. Your authority is in how unmistakably yourself you sound when you connect with folks through the real AF human stuff they're navigating. Used right, AI doesn't flatten that —it makes you clearer, sharper and more obviously, you. When you're done, do the one thing no machine can do for her: rate Madame Speaker Says 5 stars on Apple Podcasts and leave a review. 🔔 Subscribe to Madame Speaker Says — new episodes every Sunday. madamespeakersays.com Chapters  00:00 Introduction & What You'll Learn Today  02:00 The Fear: AI Is Making You Sound Like Everyone Else  04:00 The Machine Is Trained for Smooth — and Smooth Is Forgettable  06:00 Move 1: Own the First Draft — Pretend the Internet Doesn't Exist  08:30 The Voice-Note Hack for When You Freeze  10:30 Move 2: "Show Me My Blind Spots" — AI as Beast Editor  14:00 Move 3: AI as Your Fact-Checker — More rigorous than The New Yorker  17:00 Move 4: AI as a Memory Bank That Sifts for What Matters  20:30 Move 5: Protect Your Idiosyncrasies — Keep the Weird Jokes  24:00 Why Claude, and Why Ethics Matter Around Here  27:00 Your Move This Week  29:00 The Whole Damn Talk — Work with Magogodi Resources Mentioned:  🤖 Claude — claude.ai  📚 Innards — https://wwnorton.com/books/9781324051008 [https://wwnorton.com/books/9781324051008] Work with Magogodi  The Whole Damn Talk — 3 hours, one-on-one. Your hook, your spine, your one-liner, your business case. Built from scratch. Five spots a month.  Learn More → madamespeakersays.com 📧 JOIN [https://lovekindcure.kit.com/9a6eb6b63e] -  Expect fresh newsletters every week or so, where I share bare truths, storytelling tips and plenty of F-bombs. Ready to turn your ideas into influence?  APPLY [https://madamespeakersays.com] for 1:1 coaching to transform your voice into your greatest asset.