5.47: The Questions You're Googling at 2AM Postpartum (Mom Guilt, Resentment, Identity Loss + More)

5.47: The Questions You're Googling at 2AM Postpartum (Mom Guilt, Resentment, Identity Loss + More)

We pulled the questions you're actually Googling at 2am, the ones you're too scared to ask out loud,  and we're answering all of them, no fluff. In this episode of Baby Then What, Amanda and Jessie tackle your most-submitted postpartum questions: Is it normal not to feel instant love with your baby? Why does mom guilt never go away? Why do you secretly resent your partner postpartum? And what's the real difference between a night nurse and a mother's helper? This is the unfiltered Q&A you've been asking for,  the stuff nobody prepares you for, answered honestly. In this episode, we talk about: * Is it normal not to feel instant love with your baby? * Why you might miss your old life (even when you love being a mom) * The truth about resenting your partner postpartum * Mom guilt: why it never actually ends * Feeding guilt, breast, formula, combo, and why it hits so hard * What to actually ask your village for help with * Night nurse vs. mother's helper: what's the difference and which one you need * How to ask for help without feeling like a failure * The identity shift no one warns you about after baby #2 * When you actually start feeling like yourself again (and if you ever fully do) * Pregnancy and birth in your 30s vs your 20s * The first time going out postpartum,  what it's really like 👶 New here? Baby Then What is the podcast for moms in the stage after the newborn bubble - when everyone stops checking on you but things somehow get harder. 🔔 Subscribe so you never miss an episode! 🎧 New episodes every Thursday. Follow @baby.then.what [https://www.instagram.com/baby.then.what/] for real motherhood, pregnancy, and postpartum conversations without the fluff. 💛 Book a 1:1 call with us for registry help, postpartum support, or a safe place to vent - every call includes free resources. Follow @baby.then.what [https://www.instagram.com/baby.then.what/] for daily mom chaos. Amazon Faves [https://www.amazon.ca/shop/baby.then.what] Instagram: @baby.then.what [https://www.instagram.com/baby.then.what/] YouTube: Baby Then What [https://www.youtube.com/@babythenwhat] Resources & Free Guides: www.babythenwhat.com [https://www.babythenwhat.com] | stan.store/babythenwhat [https://stan.store/babythenwhat] More Shopping Fun: shopmy.us/shop/babythenwhat [https://shopmy.us/shop/babythenwhat] postpartum questions, mom guilt, things nobody tells you about motherhood, postpartum reality, googling at 2am mom, resenting your partner postpartum, night nurse vs mother's helper, identity shift after baby, feeding guilt breastfeeding formula, postpartum Q&A, motherhood honest, real motherhood podcast

5:46 Nobody Warned Us Our Marriage Would Do This: Relationships After Kids, The Honest Version

The two most common DMs we get? "I want to murder my husband" and "mother in law." So we made the episode. This week Amanda and Jessie get into everything that actually happens to your relationship when you have kids, and nobody warns you about. The tier one tier two love shift the moment you hold your baby. The mental load and why just saying "how can I help" doesn't cut it. Why you're both exhausted and both think the other has it easier. The new category of fighting that only exists when you have kids, because now everything is a decision. The touched out conversation and why mat leave and work life are two completely different worlds that are suddenly supposed to merge at 6pm. What real connection actually looks like when you have zero time. And what to actually say to the couple who is really struggling right now, not the therapist answer, the honest one. Plus: we are bringing the husbands back on in September. Comment if you want it. 👶 New here? Baby Then What is the podcast for moms in the stage after the newborn bubble, when everyone stops checking on you but things somehow get harder.  🔔 Subscribe so you never miss an episode!  🎧 New episodes every Thursday. Follow ⁠⁠⁠@baby.then.what⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/baby.then.what/] for real motherhood, pregnancy, and postpartum conversations without the fluff.  💛 Book a 1:1 call with us for registry help, postpartum support, or a safe place to vent, every call includes free resources. ⁠⁠⁠Amazon Faves⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.amazon.ca/shop/baby.then.what?ref_=cm_sw_r_cp_ud_aipsfshop_2F8R9R0YSYYZ7SZDFZ72]  Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠@baby.then.what⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/baby.then.what/]  YouTube: ⁠⁠⁠Baby Then What⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.youtube.com/@babythenwhat]  Resources & Free Guides: ⁠⁠⁠www.babythenwhat.com⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.babythenwhat.com/]  More Shopping Fun: ⁠⁠⁠https://shopmy.us/shop/babythenwhat⁠ [https://shopmy.us/shop/babythenwhat]

5:45 Breastfeeding, Pumping & Formula: The Honest Truth Nobody Tells You

Amanda is seven weeks postpartum and officially off her blood pressure medication, and today we're getting into everything breastfeeding, pumping and formula. From the first time they shove the baby on your boob in the hospital, to latching, supply issues, engorgement, mastitis, the boob vibrator that saved Amanda's life, and the combo trifecta that nobody warns you is completely exhausting. We also get into what actually tanks your supply, why you're not losing the baby weight while breastfeeding, the pumping hack most people don't know about, and the one question every mom asks, when is it okay to stop? No judgment here. Just the real stuff. 👶 New here? Baby Then What is the podcast for moms in the stage after the newborn bubble, when everyone stops checking on you but things somehow get harder.  🔔 Subscribe so you never miss an episode!  🎧 New episodes every Thursday. Follow ⁠⁠@baby.then.what⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/baby.then.what/] for real motherhood, pregnancy, and postpartum conversations without the fluff.  💛 Book a 1:1 call with us for registry help, postpartum support, or a safe place to vent, every call includes free resources. ⁠⁠Amazon Faves⁠⁠ [https://www.amazon.ca/shop/baby.then.what?ref_=cm_sw_r_cp_ud_aipsfshop_2F8R9R0YSYYZ7SZDFZ72]  Instagram: ⁠⁠@baby.then.what⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/baby.then.what/]  YouTube: ⁠⁠Baby Then What⁠⁠ [https://www.youtube.com/@babythenwhat]  Resources & Free Guides: ⁠⁠www.babythenwhat.com⁠⁠ [https://www.babythenwhat.com/]  More Shopping Fun: ⁠⁠https://shopmy.us/shop/babythenwhat⁠ [https://shopmy.us/shop/babythenwhat] breastfeeding tips, pumping breast milk, formula feeding, newborn feeding, postpartum, mastitis, low milk supply, combo feeding, breastfeeding problems, when to stop breastfeeding, pumping schedule, newborn, fourth trimester, mom podcast, postpartum weight loss

5:44 The Mind F*ck That Is Postpartum - What Your Body Actually Goes Through

Amanda is officially five weeks postpartum and we are getting into all of it. This week: what happens when postpartum doesn't go to plan, four days in, Amanda's blood pressure spiked, she ended up in the ER sobbing, and the next two weeks were a revolving door of hospitals downtown Toronto. We break down the medication spiral (shoutout to everyone on labetalol, we see you), what OB Med is and why you might need it, and the postpartum stuff nobody puts in the baby books. We cover breast engorgement and milk coming in (the good and the painful), the real reason for your six week checkup (hint: it is not about sex), bleeding, uterine contracting, hemorrhoids, sitz baths, peri bottles, tucks pads, all of it. Plus: postpartum anxiety and depression, the mom guilt that hits hard with older kids at home, and why postpartum is not four weeks, it's two years. If you're pregnant, postpartum, or you've ever grown a human this ones for you! 👶 New here? Baby Then What is the podcast for moms in the stage after the newborn bubble, when everyone stops checking on you but things somehow get harder.  🔔 Subscribe so you never miss an episode!  🎧 New episodes every Thursday. Follow ⁠⁠@baby.then.what⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/baby.then.what/] for real motherhood, pregnancy, and postpartum conversations without the fluff.  💛 Book a 1:1 call with us for registry help, postpartum support, or a safe place to vent, every call includes free resources. ⁠⁠Amazon Faves⁠⁠ [https://www.amazon.ca/shop/baby.then.what?ref_=cm_sw_r_cp_ud_aipsfshop_2F8R9R0YSYYZ7SZDFZ72]  Instagram: ⁠⁠@baby.then.what⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/baby.then.what/]  YouTube: ⁠⁠Baby Then What⁠⁠ [https://www.youtube.com/@babythenwhat]  Resources & Free Guides: ⁠⁠www.babythenwhat.com⁠⁠ [https://www.babythenwhat.com/]  More Shopping Fun: ⁠⁠https://shopmy.us/shop/babythenwhat⁠ [https://shopmy.us/shop/babythenwhat]

5:43 Labour & Delivery Tips, Birth Stories & the Parts Nobody Warns You About.

Amanda's back, and she's no longer pregnant. This week we're getting into everything labour and delivery: Amanda's third birth at 36 weeks and 6 days, two weeks of daily triage, the moment she refused to leave the hospital, a NICU detour, skin-to-skin, and why advocating for yourself in that room is everything. Plus Jessie revisits her natural birth story, including the part where she pooped on her midwife. We break down our best tips for labour no matter how you're planning to do it: music, gut instincts, when to trust your doctors and when to push back. If you're pregnant, postpartum, or just love a raw birth story, this one's for you. 👶 New here? Baby Then What is the podcast for moms in the stage after the newborn bubble, when everyone stops checking on you but things somehow get harder.  🔔 Subscribe so you never miss an episode!  🎧 New episodes every Thursday. Follow ⁠@baby.then.what⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/baby.then.what/] for real motherhood, pregnancy, and postpartum conversations without the fluff.  💛 Book a 1:1 call with us for registry help, postpartum support, or a safe place to vent, every call includes free resources. ⁠Amazon Faves⁠ [https://www.amazon.ca/shop/baby.then.what?ref_=cm_sw_r_cp_ud_aipsfshop_2F8R9R0YSYYZ7SZDFZ72]  Instagram: ⁠@baby.then.what⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/baby.then.what/]  YouTube: ⁠Baby Then What⁠ [https://www.youtube.com/@babythenwhat]  Resources & Free Guides: ⁠www.babythenwhat.com⁠ [https://www.babythenwhat.com/]  More Shopping Fun: ⁠https://shopmy.us/shop/babythenwhat [https://shopmy.us/shop/babythenwhat]