407: Is Your Business Killing Your Relationship?

407: Is Your Business Killing Your Relationship?

We have a special episode for you today! A few weeks ago, Dr. Sabrina was invited to a webinar in the Pumpkin Planners Rock Facebook Group to consider this important question: “Is your business killing your relationship?” We’ve found that this topic resonates deeply with small business owners everywhere, because we all fear that our commitment to our work is taking over our lives, killing our marriages, and damaging our relationships with loved ones. We are bringing you this webinar to increase understanding about entrepreneurial burnout and to prevent your business from becoming the uninvited third party in your relationships. If you want to show up fully present in your most important relationships, this episode is for YOU. It could change your life! Donna Leyens is the president and co-founder of Pumpkin Plan Your Biz. She is on a mission to save small businesses from extinction by providing tools, strategies, training, and support to business professionals who want to make a big impact as small business growth strategists. This mighty team of strategists uses The Pumpkin Plan Action Guide, a business growth program Donna developed based on the methods in the book, https://www.amazon.com/Pumpkin-Plan-Strategy-Remarkable-Business/dp/1591844886The Pumpkin Plan [https://www.amazon.com/Pumpkin-Plan-Strategy-Remarkable-Business/dp/1591844886], written by her co-founder, Mike Michalowicz. Pumpkin Plan Strategists help small businesses not just stay afloat but also scale and grow in both profitability and size, while giving the owner time for life and relationships. Profit by Design is a Tap the Potential production. Show Highlights: * The mission of the Pumpkin Plan program * The early warning signs that your business is damaging your relationship * The trap: Being physically present and mentally “checked out” with our families * How to know when your business is taking up way too much of your mental space * You’re not a bad person if you’re a burned-out entrepreneur! (Our Better Business, Better Life Assessment is the only tool that measures burnout in entrepreneurs and the health of their businesses.) * Burnout: A combination of all the small things and stressors we absorb (Listen to the cold, hard facts that our research has shown.) * Dr. Sabrina’s story (Listen to learn why this mission is a personal one.) * Entrepreneurs are disconnected at home. Why? * We need to value our time differently. (Are you working on $10,000 an hour activities? Download your https://www.tapthepotential.com/10kchart [https://www.tapthepotential.com/10k] now!) * Are your team members working from their strengths? * What are the $10,000 an hour activities in your relationships? Nothing else matters! * Action steps to start today: Recognize that limits drive innovation and creativity, completely turn off your phone in the evenings and on weekends (Do you need a “Work supports life” sticker?), and ask your loved ones what would be going on if your relationship were at a “10.” Resources: Take the Better Business, Better Life Assessment [https://www.tapthepotential.com/assessment] to identify what may be keeping you stuck and killing your relationships!

406: Why Burned-Out Business Owners Make Fear-Based Decisions

Burnout doesn’t just make you tired; it changes how you show up and lead. When you’re constantly emotionally exhausted and under pressure, you make reactive decisions instead of strategic ones, and you hold onto control because everything feels risky. You avoid hard conversations, say YES when you should say NO, and lead from a place of urgency, fear, and survival mode rather than clarity and confidence. The hardest part is that most high-performing business owners don’t even realize it’s happening, because they are still functioning, still producing, and still carrying the business. They’ve lost their peace, perspective, energy, and trust in themselves. If this resonates with you, you’re not alone! The solution isn’t taking time off, but it’s rebuilding your relationship with yourself that can change everything in your business. In this episode, Melissa Kay and Dr. Sabrina Starling unpack how burnout affects decision-making, why high performers normalize emotional exhaustion, the connection between self-leadership and business growth, and how to lead from clarity rather than fear. Profit by Design is a Tap the Potential production. Show Highlights: * Real-life examples from Dr. Sabrina about fear-based decisions and the “dumb tax.” * The cost of losing the ability to think strategically is making reactive decisions. * Creating boundaries, leading proactively, and NOT overfunctioning * You can’t say YES to every opportunity! * Melissa’s perspective on better relationships and strategic thinking about self-care * Melissa’s powerful question: “If the relationship with myself is a 10, what am I experiencing?” * Dr. Sabrina’s revelation about grief and love * Another powerful question: “If I took care of myself the way I care for others, what would I be doing for myself?” * Let go of hustle culture! * Our clients experience a 700% increase in time off, a 215% increase in profit, and a 55% increase in owner’s pay–in the first year with us! * Your next step? Take our Better Business, Better Life Assessment. https://www.tapthepotential.com/assessmentClick here [https://www.tapthepotential.com/assessment] to do it today! * Dr. Sabrina’s gold nugget for today: “As you head into this weekend, fully unplug from your business. Just do it.” Resources: Take the Better Business, Better Life Assessment [https://www.tapthepotential.com/assessment] to identify what may be keeping you stuck in survival mode!

405: Your Business Is Affecting Your Relationships More Than You Think

You started your business to create a better life and to have more freedom, flexibility, and time with your loved ones. But somewhere along the way, the business started consuming more of you than you ever expected. Even when you’re physically present with others, your mind is still at work because you’re answering messages at dinner, thinking about work problems during family time, and mentally carrying the business everywhere you go. The hardest part is that most business owners don’t realize how much their relationships are being affected until they are already exhausted. You may try to rationalize and normalize the takeover of your life until you realize that you are missing special moments that you can’t get back. You can’t solve this problem with better boundaries alone; the real issue is that your business relies too heavily on you emotionally and operationally. You don’t need to care “less,” but you need stronger leadership inside your team, operational clarity, defined ownership, scalable systems, and reduced owner dependency. This is what sustainable success looks like: a business that supports your life rather than consuming it. In this episode, Dr. Sabrina Starling and Melissa Kay break down why entrepreneurs struggle to truly unplug, how owner dependency affects relationships, the hidden emotional cost of carrying the business alone, and what actually creates more freedom and presence. Sustainable success should allow you to enjoy your life — not disappear inside your business. Profit by Design is a Tap the Potential production. Show Highlights: * Melissa’s look back at how things used to be in hustle culture * The truth: Our kids know; we can’t hide it from them. * Dr. Sabrina’s experience of prioritizing family first after trying it the other way * “Our limits force innovation and creativity.” * Do you need to refine your to-do list? https://www.tapthepotential.com/10kDownload [https://www.tapthepotential.com/10k] your chart of $10,000 an hour activities now! * Dr. Sabrina’s story of experiencing trauma, grief, and living a life of no regrets. * Lessons learned from burnout about reconnecting with yourself FIRST * Being aware of the neglected side of business * Your next step? Join our next https://www.tapthepotential.com/jumpstartJumpstart [https://www.tapthepotential.com/jumpstart] and find out how to free up 10 hours of your week right away! Resources: Book a call [https://www.tapthepotential.com] with our team to start building a business that supports your life!

404: If You Know Something Has to Change…This Is Your Next Step

“This sounds exactly like my business. I’m exhausted. Everything still depends on me. I know something has to change.” If you’ve responded with any of these realizations while listening to this series, this conversation is for you. Awareness is important, but awareness alone doesn’t change anything if you’ve tolerated stress, carried too much weight, stayed stuck in operational chaos, or hoped things would somehow improve over time. Eventually, there comes a point where you realize that your business can’t continue operating this way—not if you want sustainable growth, freedom, and a business that actually supports your life. The truth is that most entrepreneurs weren’t taught how to reduce owner dependency, build leadership, create operational accountability, develop scalable systems, and step out of daily firefighting. Because of that, they stay stuck in patterns that slowly become unsustainable, and most don’t seek support until they are completely overwhelmed. In this episode, Melissa Kay and Dr. Sabrina Starling explain why awareness alone doesn’t create change, the hidden reason owners stay stuck for years, what sustainable business growth actually requires, how to stop carrying the full weight of the business alone, and what happens inside our Jumpstart program. Most business owners stay stuck because they try to solve structural problems with more personal effort. There is a better way to create real freedom inside your business. Join us to learn more! Profit by Design is a Tap the Potential production. Show Highlights: * Your overwhelm creeps up on you. * We can make a difference by offering the support you need. * An example of Dr. Sabrina’s work with a client in getting to the root of the problem. * A breakdown of common hiring mistakes–and how to get it right * Having the right systems in place helps your operations flow smoothly and effectively. * Understanding A-players, the sweet spot, and their key results–while watching for communication gaps * Think of Tap the Potential as a comprehensive solution for your business. * Join our upcoming https://www.tapthepotential.com/jumpstartJumpstart [https://www.tapthepotential.com/jumpstart], where you can sample what it’s like to be in our program. Resources: If you’re ready to stop being the bottleneck and build a business that supports your life, join our https://www.tapthepotential.com/jumpstartJumpstart [https://www.tapthepotential.com/jumpstart] or https://www.tapthepotential.combook a call [https://www.tapthepotential.com] with our team.

403: Everything Still Runs Through You — Here’s Why

If you step away for a few days, does everything slow down? Decisions pile up. Your team waits. That’s not a time problem–it’s a dependency problem. If decisions route back to you and ownership isn’t clear, your team can’t step up. Your team isn’t the issue; it’s the system. The only way you can stop being required for every decision is for your team to take ownership, and that requires clear decision-making, defined roles, and proper leadership development. In this episode, you’ll discover why high-performing entrepreneurs become the bottleneck, how over-functioning limits team ownership, the hidden cost of being needed for everything, why delegation alone doesn’t solve the problem, what self-managing teams actually require, and the structural shifts that create time freedom and profitability. If your business depends on you for everything, this conversion will help you understand what’s really happening–and what needs to change. If you’re ready to stop carrying all the load in your business, join Kaitlyn Beaver and Dr. Sabrina Starling now! Profit by Design is a Tap the Potential production. Show Highlights: * Recognizing “the slippery slope of self-doubt” (Think about the seesaw!) * Better leadership at the top results in having better team members. * Kaitlyn’s perspective on balancing high-functioning owners and a team of A-players * Steps to creating ownership and empowerment on your team: * Clear decision-making * Clearly defined roles * Leadership development * Amazing results we are seeing from clients in our Leadership Bootcamp * Want to put your profitability on steroids? We can help it happen! * We teach you how to unclench your fist and let go of decision-making; it’s easier than you think! * What to expect when you join our program * Join our upcoming free workshop, How to Reclaim 10 Hours per Week (and pay yourself more!) https://www.tapthepotential.com/jumpstartClick here [https://www.tapthepotential.com/jumpstart] for more info! Resources: If you’re realizing this isn’t burnout—it’s structure, join us in our workshop, How to Reclaim 10 Hours per Week (and pay yourself more!) We’ll show you exactly how to redesign your business so it no longer depends on you. https://www.tapthepotential.com/jumpstartRegister here. [https://www.tapthepotential.com/jumpstart]