Don't Take the Bait: A Few Words for Trans Day of Visibility

Rendered No Longer Alive

After a few weeks of posting silence, DK back — riding in a self-driving car that somehow already knows his taste in music, which is either impressive or creepy, and possibly both. In this episode: the push-pull of creating content in a system that benefits people you didn't vote for, why small acts of random goodness still matter anyway, the Old Dominion ROTC cadets who "rendered a shooter no longer alive," and what collective energy shifts actually look like when they're real. Also: why we're all peasants, and why that's not as hopeless as it sounds.

Don't Take the Bait: A Few Words for Trans Day of Visibility

It's Transgender Day of Visibility, so here are some unscripted, unpolished thoughts on being a "passing" trans person who benefits from male privilege — and why that makes visibility feel important right now. Plus: the division game, why trans people are perennial easy targets, the up-down vs. left-right thing, and why "trans rights are human rights" isn't just a slogan. Also featuring: brown eyes as a metaphor. No notes.

You’re Not Failing — This Is a Time of Transition

January can be a heavy month — and this year feels heavier than usual. Not just personally, but collectively. A lot of people are sensing that something big is shifting, even if no one can quite name what comes next. In this episode of Rainbows in the Dark, I talk about what it’s like to live inside a major transitional time in history — when old systems stop working, the new ones aren’t fully formed yet, and people quietly start blaming themselves for feeling lost or exhausted. If you’ve been feeling confused, disillusioned, anxious, or like the old rules don’t apply anymore, this episode is a reminder that you’re not failing — you’re responding appropriately to a world that’s changing faster than our nervous systems were designed to handle. This is a gentle reframe, a little nervous-system grounding, and an invitation to replace fear with curiosity — without bypassing what’s real. Pause. Breathe. You’re not broken. Keep on keeping on — and keep shining in the dark. 🌈✨

The Naked Truth About Getting Older

On a walk by the ocean, I found myself talking about aging, limits, and the things we stop doing as we get older. And then the universe sent a rebuttal. This episode is about getting older, staying embodied, and the strange freedom that comes from letting go of shame, certainty, and pants. It’s a reflection on mortality, movement, and the moments when life answers you faster than you expect. As always, this is Rainbows in the Dark: noticing what’s real, even when it’s awkward — and sometimes especially then.

Imposter Syndrome at the Bookstore

Last week, my new book Booze to Balance officially launched, which meant my very first bookstore events — and a level of imposter syndrome I did not see coming. Right before the events, my inner critic went into overdrive: “You don’t know anything.” “This book is too small.” “Who do you think you are?” But the show had to go on. This is a short reflection on doubt, visibility, and doing the thing anyway — even when your nervous system would very much prefer to hide. A little darkness. A little truth. And, as always, a rainbow somewhere in it.