EP. 9: How I Live a Life of Service Without Self-Sacrificing (Again)

EP. 9: How I Live a Life of Service Without Self-Sacrificing (Again)

What does a life of service look like to you? For many of us in the Latina community, it means giving up everything we are for the good of others. That can mean burning yourself out, ignoring your health, and giving up your personal dreams to take care of others. We were taught that that is a very noble way of living. But in actuality, it’s causing us unnecessary harm.  You don’t need to choose between yourself and a life of service. So many of us are called to serve, whether for our families, our countries, or others. But that doesn’t mean you have to harm yourself to do a good job at serving. Because if there’s one thing I’ve learned, it's that you cannot pour from an empty cup. In this week’s episode, we’re talking about how I live a life of service without self-sacrificing (again). I say again because I did self-sacrifice, a lot. To the point where I developed stage 3 breast cancer and didn’t even know it. No one would ask me to give up my health in order to serve my family or my country, but I did anyway, and I won’t be doing it again.  Tune in for a deep dive into my career in service and how I honor my calling to service without self-sacrifice. Again. Work with Eileen: Book your free consultation call to find out more about Eileen’s EcoSystem of Healing Coaching Package here!  [https://app.paperbell.com/checkout/packages/204037] Follow Eileen on: Instagram: @eileen_lopez_tome_coach [https://www.instagram.com/eileen_lopez_tome_coach/] LinkedIn: Eileen Lopez Tome [https://www.linkedin.com/in/eileen-l-7a0849387/] Watch this episode on YouTube! @EileenLopezTome [https://www.youtube.com/@EileenLopezTome]  Podcast production for this episode was provided by CCST, an Afro-Latina-owned boutique podcast production and copywriting studio.  [https://www.sarahtullochwrites.com/podcast-production]

EP. 8: The Three Pillars of Self-Care I Refuse to Live Without

“A depleted woman cannot pour from an empty cup.”  That is the lesson I had to learn during my cancer treatment. Even before I got my cancer diagnosis, I was depleted, and I didn’t have anything left to give. I needed to learn how to depend on myself. And those are two totally different things.  I knew that I could run myself ragged taking care of everyone else. All the chores could be done, and everyone else could be taken care of - but not me. I was not taken care of because I wasn’t caring for myself. That’s not depending on myself, that was sacrificing myself, and I cannot afford to do it again. So I won’t! In this week’s episode, we’re talking about the three pillars of self-care I refuse to live without. As a cancer survivor who has recently graduated from treatment (whoohoo!), I’ve been thinking more and more about my health. I neglected my health to be a good Cuban daughter and take care of my family, and that was detrimental to both me and everyone else around me. Because of that, I now have three pillars of self-care that not only keep me healthy, but keep me sane.  Tune in to hear what my three pillars of health are, and why real self-care is so important for the Latina community! Work with Eileen: Book your free consultation call to find out more about Eileen’s EcoSystem of Healing Coaching Package here!  [https://app.paperbell.com/checkout/packages/204037] Follow Eileen on: Instagram: @eileen_lopez_tome_coach [https://www.instagram.com/eileen_lopez_tome_coach/] LinkedIn: Eileen Lopez Tome [https://www.linkedin.com/in/eileen-l-7a0849387/] Watch this episode on YouTube! @EileenLopezTome [https://www.youtube.com/@EileenLopezTome]  Podcast production for this episode was provided by CCST, an Afro-Latina-owned boutique podcast production and copywriting studio.  [https://www.sarahtullochwrites.com/podcast-production]

EP. 7: How to Rediscover Your Identity After Your Cancer Diagnosis

Identity work is a huge part of my coaching program because of how much it affects my clients. The hospital typically handles all aspects of your physical treatment. But there’s no treatment plan for how cancer affects your inner self. There definitely wasn’t one when I was diagnosed! Which is why I made one for survivors who need it and perfected it over the last few years.  Cancer doesn’t care if you’re the strong one or the one everyone depends on. Cancer didn’t care that I was neglecting myself so that I could be a good Cuban daughter. But cancer did become the catalyst I needed to make healthier changes in my life and reconnect with who I’ve always been.  In this week’s episode, we’re talking about how to rediscover your identity after your cancer diagnosis. This episode is full of journal prompts, so bust out your favorite notebook and find a cute pen because we are digging deep! Tune in to hear how to identify the identities we held on to before cancer diagnosis and discover who we want to be now.  And don’t worry! We’re going to work through this together.  Work with Eileen: Book your free consultation call to find out more about Eileen’s EcoSystem of Healing Coaching Package here!  [https://app.paperbell.com/checkout/packages/204037] Follow Eileen on: https://www.instagram.com/eileen_lopez_tome_coach/ Instagram: @eileen_lopez_tome_coach [https://www.instagram.com/eileen_lopez_tome_coach/] LinkedIn: Eileen Lopez Tome [https://www.linkedin.com/in/eileen-l-7a0849387/] Watch this episode on YouTube! @EileenLopezTome [https://www.youtube.com/@EileenLopezTome]  Podcast production for this episode was provided by CCST, an Afro-Latina-owned boutique podcast production and copywriting studio.  [https://www.sarahtullochwrites.com/podcast-production]

EP. 6: 5 Life Lessons  That Helped Me Navigate Cancer Treatment and Protect My Mental Health

I learned so many life lessons during my cancer diagnosis, treatment, and recovery. It was as if my way of life was split in two parts, before my diagnosis and every moment after. I had to adapt, and to adapt, I had to learn and change.  Which wasn’t easy for me. I was used to being the strong one, the one who never needed any help, the one who could actually put everything on my plate down to help someone else with their thing. Cancer took that from me, and because of that, I felt a new kind of love from my community.  In this week’s episode, we’re talking about the 5 lessons that helped me navigate cancer treatment and protect my mental health. Cancer doesn’t come with a little pamphlet that tells you how everything in your life is going to change and what to do about it. They have those for medical treatments, but not for how the life you’re used to changing forever. That’s why I’m going to cut out the guessing game for you and teach you what I learned, so that maybe it will help you during and after treatment.  Tune in to hear what changed in my life, what was added to my routine, and what got better once I worked through a few stubborn habits.  Work with Eileen: Book your free consultation call to find out more about Eileen’s EcoSystem of Healing Coaching Package here!  [https://app.paperbell.com/checkout/packages/204037] Follow Eileen on: Instagram: @eileen_lopez_tome_coach [https://www.instagram.com/eileen_lopez_tome_coach/] LinkedIn: Eileen Lopez Tome [https://www.linkedin.com/in/eileen-l-7a0849387/] Watch this episode on YouTube! @EileenLopezTome [https://www.youtube.com/@EileenLopezTome]  Podcast production for this episode was provided by CCST, an Afro-Latina-owned boutique podcast production and copywriting studio.  [https://www.sarahtullochwrites.com/podcast-production]

EP. 5: Tattoos, Faith, and Tapping into Your Inner Strength

Inner strength and faith go hand in hand for me. I was raised Catholic, and I strengthened my relationship with God as I got older. And, throughout my life, I had to lean on my own inner strength to get through the day. They worked together to keep me focused and keep me moving forward, even when I was exhausted.  But both my inner strength and my faith were called into question when I was diagnosed with cancer. I couldn’t be the strong one anymore because I didn’t have that kind of strength to give. I shook my fist at God and asked why He allowed me to have cancer. My way of life was changing, and to get through it, I learned that I had to surrender.  In this week’s episode, we’re talking about tattoos, faith, and tapping into your inner strength. In the video episode, you can see my survivor tattoo, which reads, “Tabitha Koum.” It means, “Little girl, get up,” and it’s what Jesus said to raise a little girl from the dead. This phrase tattooed on my arm helps me remember that my faith and my inner strength are still with me, especially when I have to surrender to life’s circumstances.  Tune in to hear how I help my clients surrender and how I eventually accepted it after struggling with the concept.  Work with Eileen: https://app.paperbell.com/checkout/packages/204037 Book your free consultation call to find out more about Eileen’s EcoSystem of Healing Coaching Package here!  [https://app.paperbell.com/checkout/packages/204037] Follow Eileen on: Instagram: @eileen_lopez_tome_coach [https://www.instagram.com/eileen_lopez_tome_coach/] LinkedIn: Eileen Lopez Tome [https://www.linkedin.com/in/eileen-l-7a0849387/] Watch this episode on YouTube! @EileenLopezTome [https://www.youtube.com/@EileenLopezTome]  Podcast production for this episode was provided by CCST, an Afro-Latina-owned boutique podcast production and copywriting studio.  [https://www.sarahtullochwrites.com/podcast-production]