The Bird on My Shoulder

The Bird on My Shoulder

I just got home from family camp with all four of my granddaughters, something I had been dreaming about for years. The only reason it happened is a family crisis I would never have chosen. This episode is about the harder skill nobody trained me for after forty years as a nurse: not the skill of responding, but the skill of standing next to my adult children's lives with my hands at my sides, waiting to be asked. It is about grieving the version of this season I quietly planned for, and letting real disappointment and real gratitude sit at the same table. In this episode, I talk about: The skill no one trains you for in midlife: not responding, and letting your adult children's lives be their own Grieving the idealized version, the one where everyone lives ten minutes away, so it stops running the show from underneath How unprocessed longing leaks out as unsolicited advice, worry dressed as help, and a look that lands like a verdict The little bird on my shoulder, and the real practice behind it: breathwork, self-care, and deliberate gratitude When a caregiving season eats the bandwidth you needed for friendship, and why that is arithmetic, not failure My granddaughters appointing themselves the guardians of my plate, and why they are watching, not listening Read more on the blog: The Bird on My Shoulder: The Hardest Skill of Parenting Adult Children [https://www.slant2plants.com/blog/parenting-adult-children-without-losing-yourself] Real Disappointment and Real Gratitude at the Same Table [https://www.slant2plants.com/blog/disappointment-and-gratitude-midlife] Listen on: Podcast Page [https://www.slant2plants.com/podcasts/sexy-in-your-60s] Apple Podcasts [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/sexy-in-your-60s/id1855753795] Spotify [https://open.spotify.com/show/5cE66aZ3FKrisz1VuUTSp2] Amazon Music [https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/5bf3c726-bcc4-41a5-a674-cb3b8dcfecdf/sexy-in-your-60s] YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL2sG5q0V95PJnkQaQ5nFG4U2WY0uFkbxS] Connect with Dvora / slant2plants: Sexy in Your 60s Coaching Experience [https://www.slant2plants.com/sexy-in-your-60s] slant2plants.com [https://www.slant2plants.com/] Instagram @slant2plants [https://www.instagram.com/slant2plants/] Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/slant2plants] LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/in/dvoracitronslant2plants/] Pinterest [https://www.pinterest.com/slant2plants]

Midlife Reinvention, Candy, and Connection in Your 60s

Elaine Ebner spent 35 years in technology and technology media before reinventing herself, again and again, in the second half of her life. In this conversation she shares how she founded CancerSux after watching her son lose his sense of taste during treatment, why she builds companies and friendships one deliberate step at a time, and what it really takes to support an adult child through a health crisis. In this episode, we talk about: * The overlooked side effect of cancer treatment that doctors rarely mention, and why taste changes deserve real attention * How Elaine started a company in her 60s with no grand plan, letting action create momentum one step at a time * The text message and the double meaning that gave CancerSux its name, and the reframe "why can't it be me?" * Why reinvention is really just curiosity, not vision you either have or don't * How to build friendship on purpose after 50, including the "never leave without the next date on the calendar" rule * What Elaine learned about showing up for an adult child in crisis, and why listening to the silence matters About Elaine Ebner: Elaine Ebner spent 35 years leading sales organizations in technology and technology media. She is the founder of Orinda Living magazine, the founder of CancerSux, a company making handcrafted hard candy for people navigating taste changes during cancer treatment, and the co-founder of PWRG Lamorinda, a professional women's referral group in the East Bay of California. Connect with Elaine Ebner: CancerSux [https://www.cancersux.com] Instagram @cancersuxrelief [https://www.instagram.com/cancersuxrelief] Facebook @cancersuxrelief [https://www.facebook.com/cancersuxrelief] TikTok @cancersuxrelief [https://www.tiktok.com/@cancersuxrelief] Listen on: Podcast Page [https://www.slant2plants.com/podcasts/sexy-in-your-60s] Apple Podcasts [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/sexy-in-your-60s/id1855753795] Spotify [https://open.spotify.com/show/5cE66aZ3FKrisz1VuUTSp2] Amazon Music [https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/5bf3c726-bcc4-41a5-a674-cb3b8dcfecdf/sexy-in-your-60s] Watch on YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL2sG5q0V95PJnkQaQ5nFG4U2WY0uFkbxS] Connect with Dvora / slant2plants: Sexy in Your 60s Coaching Experience [https://www.slant2plants.com/sexy-in-your-60s] slant2plants.com [https://www.slant2plants.com] Blog [https://www.slant2plants.com/blog] Instagram @slant2plants [https://www.instagram.com/slant2plants/] LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/in/dvoracitronslant2plants/] Pinterest [https://www.pinterest.com/slant2plants] This podcast is for general informational and educational purposes and is not a substitute for professional medical advice. Please consult your own healthcare provider for guidance specific to you.

How to Turn Acquaintances Into Real Friends in Midlife

You can be surrounded by lovely people and still feel a little bit lonely. In this solo episode, Dvora unpacks the difference almost nobody names: knowing people and having real friends are two completely different things. She walks you through exactly how to close the gap, with four simple moves and three habits that turn a friendly acquaintance into a true friend. In this episode, we talk about: * Why meeting people and deepening friendships are two different muscles * The research on how many hours it actually takes to build a friendship, and why not all hours count the same * The four moves that carry someone from acquaintance to real friend * How gentle, mutual vulnerability deepens connection without oversharing * The two-text rule and why standing dates beat "let's find a time" * Your one small assignment this week to start a real friendship About Dvora Citron: Dvora Citron is a Registered Nurse, National Board Certified Health & Wellness Coach, and Lifestyle Medicine Practitioner. She is the founder of slant2plants® and the host of Sexy in Your 60s, where she helps women 50 and older build the health, confidence, and connection they want through science, story, support, and soul. Connect with Dvora / slant2plants: slant2plants.com [https://www.slant2plants.com] Blog [https://www.slant2plants.com/blog] Instagram @slant2plants [https://www.instagram.com/slant2plants/] Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/slant2plants] LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/in/dvoracitronslant2plants/] Pinterest [https://www.pinterest.com/slant2plants] Sexy in Your 60s Coaching Experience [https://www.slant2plants.com/sexy-in-your-60s] Listen on: Podcast Page [https://www.slant2plants.com/podcasts/sexy-in-your-60s] Apple Podcasts [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/sexy-in-your-60s/id1855753795] Spotify [https://open.spotify.com/show/5cE66aZ3FKrisz1VuUTSp2] Amazon Music [https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/5bf3c726-bcc4-41a5-a674-cb3b8dcfecdf/sexy-in-your-60s] Watch on YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL2sG5q0V95PJnkQaQ5nFG4U2WY0uFkbxS] This podcast is for general informational and educational purposes and is not a substitute for professional medical advice. Please consult your own healthcare provider for guidance specific to you.

Episode #32: The Friendships Worth Traveling For in Midlife

THE FRIENDSHIPS WORTH TRAVELING FOR IN MIDLIFE Episode #32 with Dvora Citron Two years ago, Dvora took a solo trip to New York and discovered it was really a friendship trip in disguise. In this solo episode she talks about the half of midlife friendship we rarely discuss: how to keep the people you already love when life keeps pulling everyone in different directions. The answer is that when proximity goes away, intention has to take its place. In this episode, we talk about: * Why friendship used to run on overlap, and what happens when that overlap quietly disappears in midlife * The Oxford research showing our social networks peak around age 25 and slowly shrink after * How to decide who is actually worth traveling for, with three honest questions to ask yourself * Why traveling solo can deepen your connections instead of leaving you lonely * Four practical ways to keep the people you love: audit your overlaps, replace overlap with rhythm, go one-on-one, and tell people they are worth the trip About Dvora: Dvora Citron is a Registered Nurse, National Board Certified Health & Wellness Coach, Lifestyle Medicine Practitioner, and the founder of Slant2Plants®. She hosts Sexy in Your 60s to bring women the real ingredients of vibrant aging through science, story, support, and soul. Connect with Dvora: * slant2plants.com [https://www.slant2plants.com/] * Instagram @slant2plants [https://www.instagram.com/slant2plants/] * Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/slant2plants] * LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/in/dvoracitronslant2plants/] * Pinterest [https://www.pinterest.com/slant2plants] Listen on: * Podcast Page [https://www.slant2plants.com/podcasts/sexy-in-your-60s] * Apple Podcasts [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/sexy-in-your-60s/id1855753795] * Spotify [https://open.spotify.com/show/5cE66aZ3FKrisz1VuUTSp2] * Amazon Music [https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/5bf3c726-bcc4-41a5-a674-cb3b8dcfecdf/sexy-in-your-60s] * YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL2sG5q0V95PJnkQaQ5nFG4U2WY0uFkbxS] Become the CEO of your own healthy aging. The Sexy in Your 60s Coaching Experience is a small cohort of six women, with the clarity, structure, and support to make this season your strongest one yet. The current cohort is underway. Join the waitlist to be first in line when the next one opens.

Episode 31: You Can Never Be Lonely with Purple Hair with Lorraine Sasner

EPISODE 31: YOU CAN NEVER BE LONELY WITH PURPLE HAIR WITH LORRAINE SASNER At 85, Dvora's mother Lorraine Sasner is living her best life: purple hair, daily golf, plant-based soup for the neighbors, and a deep comfort with her own company. In this warm, personal conversation, Dvora talks with the woman who has been her lifelong role model for vibrant aging about movement, connection, purpose, and the art of befriending yourself. In this episode, we talk about: * Why "you can never be lonely with purple hair" is more than a great line, and what it really invites into Lorraine's life * How golf gives Lorraine movement, connection, and purpose all in one daily ritual, even with a bad back * The daily selfie she posts in the family chat, and the quiet job it does to keep her connected * Refreshing her home and her life after losing her husband, and turning grief into intention * What befriending yourself looks like in practice: boundaries, self-compassion, and "I make myself so happy" * What sexy means to Lorraine at 86, in her own words Read the full blog post: You Can Never Be Lonely with Purple Hair [https://www.slant2plants.com/blog/you-can-never-be-lonely-with-purple-hair] About Lorraine Sasner: Lorraine Sasner is Dvora's 85-year-old mother and her lifelong inspiration. She has lived at Rossmoor in Walnut Creek, California for 25 years, where she golfs nearly every day, cooks plant-based, and is known to everyone as the lady with the purple hair. Click the hyperlinked text below: Connect with Dvora / slant2plants® [https://www.slant2plants.com]: slant2plants.com [https://www.slant2plants.com] Blog [https://www.slant2plants.com/blog] Instagram @slant2plants [https://www.instagram.com/slant2plants/] Facebook @slant2plants [https://www.facebook.com/slant2plants] LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/in/dvoracitronslant2plants/] Pinterest [https://www.pinterest.com/slant2plants] Join the waitlist for the Sexy in Your 60s Coaching Experience [https://www.slant2plants.com/sexy-in-your-60s] Listen on: Podcast Page [https://www.slant2plants.com/podcasts/sexy-in-your-60s] Apple Podcasts [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/sexy-in-your-60s/id1855753795] Spotify [https://open.spotify.com/show/5cE66aZ3FKrisz1VuUTSp2] Amazon Music [https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/5bf3c726-bcc4-41a5-a674-cb3b8dcfecdf/sexy-in-your-60s] Watch on: YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL2sG5q0V95PJnkQaQ5nFG4U2WY0uFkbxS] This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It does not constitute medical advice and is not a substitute for professional medical guidance. Listening to this episode does not create a patient-client relationship. Always consult your primary care provider or a qualified health professional before making changes to your health or lifestyle.