The Elephant in the Rec Room - When "College Partying" Becomes a Problem

The Elephant in the Rec Room - When "College Partying" Becomes a Problem

Is your high-achieving student's summer behavior just "college partying" or a developing Substance Use Disorder? In this episode, we break down the clinical differences between a heavy partier and a dependent student, looking at the locus of control, tolerance, and withdrawal. If you are noticing an inverted sleep schedule, financial burn rates on DoorDash and dispensaries, or severe isolation, this is a distress flare. We provide affluent parents with a 90-day evidence-based blueprint using Motivational Interviewing and Contingency Management to audit behavior, open a dialogue using the OARS model, and run a "stress test" before writing the next tuition check. Learn when it is time to stop the train and pivot to a medical leave of absence. https://www.youtube.com/channel/motivatecounseling [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCe1EZxSjdpsaXR9iLcMq46Q] https://robdanzman.com/ [https://robdanzman.com/]

Title IX & College Risk: How Attorney Megan Ballard Mitchell Helps Families Protect Academic Futures, Scholarships & Student Rights

In this episode, we sit down with Megan Ballard Mitchell, a prominent Title IX, education law, and criminal defense attorney who has helped countless students and families navigate some of the most stressful challenges in higher education. Megan draws on her unique experience as a former Attorney Advisor for the U.S. Department of Education’s Office for Civil Rights (OCR) and her strategic defense background to explain: 🔹 What Title IX allegations really mean for your student’s academic future — from suspension to lost scholarships and athletic eligibility. 🔹 Why high achieving families should pay attention to due process, evidence, and advocacy in campus hearings. 🔹 How Megan helps families protect educational opportunities at top universities, including navigating disciplinary hearings with confidence. 🔹 Practical advice for parents on preventing, preparing for, and responding to Title IX investigations. Whether your student is a freshman athlete, top scholar, or poised for graduate programs, this conversation is essential for every parent who wants to safeguard their child’s future in a world where one allegation can change everything. 👉 Check out Rob's blog [https://motivatecounseling.com/blog/] for more expert insights on college legal risks, parental advocacy strategies, and protecting student prospects.  https://www.youtube.com/channel/motivatecounseling [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCe1EZxSjdpsaXR9iLcMq46Q] https://robdanzman.com/ [https://robdanzman.com/]

Dr. Jessi Gold on Student Burnout, Perfectionism, and the Wellness Crisis

In this episode, Rob Danzman sits down with psychiatrist Dr. Jessi Gold, the first-ever Chief Wellness Officer for the University of Tennessee System and a nationally recognized expert in student mental health.  What You Will Learn in This Episode: * The "Perfect Student" Trap: Why high-achieving students are experts at hiding mental health struggles until they reach a breaking point. * Navigating Campus Health Systems: An insider’s guide to how university wellness centers work and how to ensure your student gets the right care. * Burnout vs. Exhaustion: Dr. Gold explains the clinical difference and why "just taking a break" isn't always the cure. * The Academic Pressure Cooker: Insights on resilience drawn from Dr. Gold's training at Yale and Stanford, and how to apply them to your student's journey. * Emotional PPE: Tools for students entering high-stress fields (Medicine, Law, Engineering) to protect their mental well-being. * Redefining Success: How to have hard conversations with your student about failure, perfectionism, and identity. About Dr. Jessi Gold: Dr. Jessi Gold is the author of How Do You Feel? One Doctor's Search for Humanity in Medicine. Dr. Gold is a regular contributor to the New York Times, The Atlantic, and NPR. She specializes in the mental health of college students, healthcare workers, and high-performance professionals. Connect with Dr. Gold: * Book: How Do You Feel? One Doctor's Search for Humanity in Medicine [https://www.google.com/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j&opi=89978449&url=https://www.amazon.com/How-Do-You-Feel-Humanity/dp/1982199776&ved=2ahUKEwighrL6qvqRAxV8G9AFHSmzGIsQFnoECCEQAQ&usg=AOvVaw3qmKXquMgApxgFWUrEobre] * Website: https://drjessigold.com/ [https://drjessigold.com/] * LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/jessi-gold-md-ms-14844bb/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/jessi-gold-md-ms-14844bb/] * YouTube https://www.youtube.com/@drjessigold [https://www.youtube.com/@drjessigold] * Instagram https://www.instagram.com/drjessigold/?hl=en [https://www.instagram.com/drjessigold/?hl=en] * X https://twitter.com/drjessigold [https://twitter.com/drjessigold] Show Notes Love's Executioner: and Other Tales of Psychotherapy [https://www.amazon.com/Loves-Executioner-Other-Tales-Psychotherapy/dp/0465020119/ref=sr_1_1?crid=296KA3J3N473Z&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.W7sapccNhaM-YUYrgrnScZonKGefauhclGjGuZlyLkDcPb_SJwzep_DsBKm5kP_idAfQL64wVsJR_5HMcHtVh8lkxZHXkzbwDnkY_KOiGvotKje2ryUsZda1kD-yT9QuPo3Fk3eXwFwaIk8xYPhvoCTGme1Tlvyf4Bt3znM1QgLTLLuK3tm0otlCLZKlWcJJ5njzXBtkMKqJvea_iyYtvs4S0u6WNVBSXjd3OhifIhc.cRj9osnPCQ0oydiu8QwA218fOkRgyehnqUxvUagtRsI&dib_tag=se&keywords=loves+executioner&qid=1763473424&s=books&sprefix=loves+exec%2Cstripbooks%2C147&sr=1-1] - Irvin Yalom https://www.youtube.com/channel/motivatecounseling [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCe1EZxSjdpsaXR9iLcMq46Q] https://robdanzman.com/ [https://robdanzman.com/]

Peak Performance in College: Dr. Joel Ingersoll on Building Resilient, High-Achieving Students

Dr. Joel Ingersoll is one of the most recognized advisers to college students and their parents in the Mid-Atlantic. He is a licensed psychologist, renowned impact performance coach and founder of school readiness programs. Joel is the creator of the BounceBack Accelerator Program [https://www.drjoelingersoll.com/CollegeBounceBackCourse], podcast host of Mental Health University [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/mental-health-university/id1447187630] and author of the brand new book Fix-It Fatigue: How Gen-X Parents Can Stop Fixing Everything and Start Raising Adults Who Can Handle Anything [https://www.amazon.com/Fix-Fatigue-Parents-Everything-Anything/dp/B0G4SS7MS4/ref=sr_1_1?crid=AC2DM0ACMRL6&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.HwMOBJusTiXwsiTwDhyGEpMPoLhV24j76BgZ1q2Qe-bj-ItXA2E4Dcj1lFC3KBNptT6yx4rZHyShjODfuio7Rg.2smnuCnQ0iYkkt6QogLUq6ihQKUnD-FhQKw26SsMUX0&dib_tag=se&keywords=fix+it+fatigue&qid=1765205893&sprefix=fix+it+fati%2Caps%2C134&sr=8-1].  Show Notes Fix-It Fatigue: How Gen-X Parents Can Stop Fixing Everything and Start Raising Adults Who Can Handle Anything [https://www.amazon.com/Fix-Fatigue-Parents-Everything-Anything/dp/B0G4SS7MS4/ref=sr_1_1?crid=AC2DM0ACMRL6&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.HwMOBJusTiXwsiTwDhyGEpMPoLhV24j76BgZ1q2Qe-bj-ItXA2E4Dcj1lFC3KBNptT6yx4rZHyShjODfuio7Rg.2smnuCnQ0iYkkt6QogLUq6ihQKUnD-FhQKw26SsMUX0&dib_tag=se&keywords=fix+it+fatigue&qid=1765205893&sprefix=fix+it+fati%2Caps%2C134&sr=8-1] - Dr. Joel Ingersoll's NEW BOOK!! Lehigh University [https://www.google.com/search?client=safari&rls=en&q=lehigh+university&ie=UTF-8&oe=UTF-8] - Underrated university in north eastern Pennsylvania.  The Anxious Generation: How the Great Rewiring of Childhood is Causing an Epidemic of Mental Illness [https://www.anxiousgeneration.com/book]- Jonathan Haidt Outliers: The Story of Success [https://www.google.com/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j&opi=89978449&url=https://www.amazon.com/Outliers-Story-Success-Malcolm-Gladwell/dp/0316017930&ved=2ahUKEwiExLuw_eeQAxUN1xoGHUx4KmEQFnoECBIQAQ&usg=AOvVaw0bdMsJ6PfeN4XcWHxc7oPz] - Malcolm Gladwell The Comfort Crisis: Embrace Discomfort to Reclaim Your Wild, Happy, Health Self [https://www.google.com/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j&opi=89978449&url=https://www.amazon.com/Comfort-Crisis-Embrace-Discomfort-Reclaim/dp/0593138767&ved=2ahUKEwi8mLLa_eeQAxUS1RoGHbrXBUMQFnoECBMQAQ&usg=AOvVaw0YCx2P8Oykf5UZzH45vl8f] -  Michael Easter Emotional Intelligence: Why it Can Matter More than IQ [https://www.google.com/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j&opi=89978449&url=https://www.amazon.com/Emotional-Intelligence-Matter-More-Than/dp/055338371X&ved=2ahUKEwjRl6GF_ueQAxV06skDHUJmHx8QFnoECBUQAQ&usg=AOvVaw3i4VBqOeNRvTACYtuVmQBn] - Daniel Goleman Grown & Flown [https://www.google.com/url?sa=t&source=web&rct=j&opi=89978449&url=https://grownandflown.com/&ved=2ahUKEwjKz_2n_ueQAxXs3ckDHbQpFIEQFnoECCgQAQ&usg=AOvVaw0O8Zc4HZKpdv_h05fHOutS] - Great Facebook group and resources for parents of college students https://www.youtube.com/channel/motivatecounseling [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCe1EZxSjdpsaXR9iLcMq46Q] https://robdanzman.com/ [https://robdanzman.com/]

The Smart Gap Year: What High Achieving Parents Need to Know with Jason Sarouhan

Jason Sarouhan, Professional Gap Year Counselor, Interim Executive Director of the Gap Year Association [https://www.gapyearassociation.org/], & Co-Founder of J2Guides [https://j2guides.com/about/].  Show Notes * A Complete Guide to the Gap Year [https://www.amazon.com/Complete-Guide-Gap-Year-Between/dp/057860311X/ref=sr_1_1?crid=274LEM3H7C8PG&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.ZAOfNxL5eDWCKgMm53f2nPOo3ogMo3uNYcI4Vni-qskl2je74EQsc01wUZgOEe5jVS5FeA9jBhHQf_3SawwGXKKOHtvlIMhInYubvXJMgrK7FO5a06WYVbztDCcKkymK1hD_Qz-ovEcYu5Uue682VvPvessVm2rv_MM8tvzxxjhAVt5GTczrH0WhR6iDKOn2.lY6j1qQf442RAkxJGjXo2Nisz6TH6WaLg0ZLBv1p5PA&dib_tag=se&keywords=A+Complete+Guide+to+the+Gap+Year&qid=1765206287&sprefix=a+complete+guide+to+the+gap+year%2Caps%2C167&sr=8-1] - Kristin M. White * Gap to Great: A Parent's Guide to the Gap Year [https://www.amazon.com/Gap-Great-Parents-Guide-Year/dp/0994412908/ref=sr_1_1?crid=OPB4USOVWZW0&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.IVifENI3JL3SuSlTcHu82HGh1jMyMcIzwUGzNQ4IsqMp-nzbcnKjGUaU6fwnXA-MjLp-pZa7ins1wYHbqAk7kl6DoYUDfnn_jAObguycYMwrjpVMxANkFLFjJsZQv3eEFv59wz4nlWauU_SxuVUpa8sJGND8mtdRYZgFNU5q8k1DhQNg9opRRrMykWzHZ45siFmCSuy8l9VETeSi2Zk_6bmJn3cxU-tGl8AaBYnJAY0.abCVgY1qCPzuDEnyJu7fEXbr1qQ4jE1K3Mzyd1rCYq4&dib_tag=se&keywords=Gap+to+Great%3A+A+Parent%27s+Guide+to+the+Gap+Year&nsdOptOutParam=true&qid=1765206336&sprefix=gap+to+great+a+parent%27s+guide+to+the+gap+year%2Caps%2C142&sr=8-1] - Andrea Wien * Gap Year Advantage: Helping Your Child Benefit from Time Off Before or During College [https://www.amazon.com/Gap-Year-Advantage-Helping-Benefit-College/dp/0312336985/ref=sr_1_1?crid=3H9UIJUMEPKHW&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.y07rqC9b-Od2QHcCQ-nSpEp3OIXRqR0NY2lq7sRXFkXvOx6GaOX6QzDcmY9N7HQmCbjHvZaZspm-X4Ic5EDP3tmyWkpLrDWU2HmKNkX0bJ8.mTT4-ezHFO2GQaiD1bVOyFcM_gq94JCq9OvYOuFrqpc&dib_tag=se&keywords=gap+year+advantage&qid=1765206368&sprefix=gap+year+advantage%2Caps%2C118&sr=8-1] - Karl Haigler  * Reimagining Your Gap Year: The Watershed Experience [https://www.amazon.com/Reimagining-Your-Gap-Year-Watershed/dp/B0FL83YKTF/ref=sr_1_1?crid=164MAYLZIZYV7&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.J8rkj01kkdYe6S64SeUsnlD6aK4xD0Z8zxOdkKBgI2w.G70smRSZpOUlv0WVNQY3XeFYG3EiOEr0tkUpj1FPuZo&dib_tag=se&keywords=reimagining+your+gap+year&qid=1765206395&sprefix=reimagining+your+gap+year%2Caps%2C130&sr=8-1] - Bruce Andrews * The Way Around: A Field Guide to Going Nowhere [https://www.amazon.com/Way-Around-Field-Guide-Nowhere/dp/1571313958/ref=sr_1_1?crid=REDTE9GDQ0BI&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.XPyKxNC5O7A9PocIPa7a_ZQLrknj6S001KCPH2VT3xxnEZBqTSp7cRQh-ukLcFzbx7-9kMh_rTZ43d2jAZ8hCGFsEK5y3W9TY1475QkmKYzM_TouTc7mseqQD2YsO4XV3hs0CPFl-v59-xuUDLXSWfeibhPT50jFtwwt0J88vfVlMgJkICgFL1us3tbCOyQQ6gvhkTbh2oPGVeT0RDo5dCwvCkfMz0vwD7pNsNum9Hk.ICouh2nCXKWGIkFDcJV1qlM-sv6kh2cn0HVAvj0OksA&dib_tag=se&keywords=the+way+around&qid=1765206465&sprefix=the+way+around%2Caps%2C159&sr=8-1] - Nicholas Triolo https://www.youtube.com/channel/motivatecounseling [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCe1EZxSjdpsaXR9iLcMq46Q] https://robdanzman.com/ [https://robdanzman.com/]