96. The Desire Gap: It's Not Your Libido (Here's What's Really Happening)

96. The Desire Gap: It's Not Your Libido (Here's What's Really Happening)

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2392973/fan_mail/new] Is it really a low libido or is it something else? One of the biggest myths about relationships is that a lack of sex automatically means someone has a low sex drive. In this episode, we break down the difference between libido and desire, and why confusing the two causes couples to chase the wrong solutions. We explore why one partner can crave sex while the other feels disconnected, what creates a desire gap, and how stress, resentment, emotional safety, attraction, novelty, and relationship dynamics all influence whether we actually want sex.

95. Can't Talk About Sex? Start Here.

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2392973/fan_mail/new] Most couples have sex—but surprisingly few couples actually talk about sex. Whether you're wondering how to ask for more intimacy, share a fantasy, talk about a dead bedroom, or simply tell your partner what you enjoy, starting the conversation can feel harder than the sex itself. In this episode of The Cliteral Truth, we share practical, real-life ways to bring up sex without criticism, shame, or starting a fight. You'll learn simple conversation starters, why so many couples avoid talking about intimacy, and how honest communication can lead to a more connected, satisfying sex life. If you've ever thought, "I don't even know how to start this conversation," this episode is for you.

94. Why Happy Couples Stop Having Great Sex (Or Why Any Couple Stops Having Sex)

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2392973/fan_mail/new] Why do happy couples stop having great sex? Is it low libido, lack of attraction, stress, kids... or is something else happening beneath the surface? In this episode, we unpack why sexual desire fades in long-term relationships, why emotional safety and communication matter more than most couples realize, and how to rebuild intimacy before a relationship turns into a dead bedroom. If you've ever wondered why you still love your partner but don't want sex the way you used to, this conversation is for you.

93. Screaming, Silence, and Sexual Authenticity

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2392973/fan_mail/new] Have you ever wondered why some people scream during orgasm while others barely make a sound? Is being loud during sex "performative," or is being quiet a sign of sexual shame? In this episode of The Cliteral Truth, we explore one of the internet's most searched questions about sex: Why am I quiet during sex? We challenge the idea that loud equals passionate and quiet equals disconnected. Instead, we propose that there are really two broad groups of people: * Those who experience sex from a place of sexual freedom. * Those who experience sex through sexual shame. Within the sexually liberated group, you'll find both naturally quiet and naturally vocal lovers. Some people simply don't express emotion loudly—in bed or anywhere else. But within the sexually shamed group, silence often comes from fear, embarrassment, conditioning, or worrying about being judged. Whether you're naturally quiet, enthusiastically vocal, or somewhere in between, this conversation is about removing shame—not prescribing a "right" way to experience pleasure. If you've ever asked yourself, "Is it normal to be quiet during sex?" or "Why can't I let go during orgasm?" this episode is for you.

92. Religious Dating v. The 7 Bridges of a Solid Relationship

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2392973/fan_mail/new] What happens when you're told who you're allowed to date before attraction, chemistry, compatibility, and connection ever get a vote? In this episode, we explore how religious and social conformity can short-circuit healthy partner selection. Through the lens of Mormon dating and the 7 Bridges of a Solid Relationship, we discuss why checkboxes, standards, and expectations often replace genuine attraction, emotional connection, and compatibility—and what happens when people build relationships without crossing the bridges first.