Ep 20: The Most Dangerous Belief Women Have About Selling (And Why It's Keeping You Broke)

Ep 20: The Most Dangerous Belief Women Have About Selling (And Why It's Keeping You Broke)

"I don't want to be pushy." "I don't want to come across as salesy." "I don't want them to think I just want their money." Sound familiar? On the surface it sounds humble. Ethical. Like integrity. But in this episode, Vanessa makes the case that this belief — the one almost every woman in business carries — is quietly doing serious damage. Not loudly. Not obviously. Quietly. Because when you have something that genuinely changes lives and you back off the conversation to protect yourself from discomfort, you're not being kind. You're abandoning the person in front of you at the exact moment she needs you most. This is the episode that reframes selling entirely — and once you hear it, you can't unhear it. In this episode: — The belief that sounds like integrity but is actually keeping you broke — Why backing off on a sales call is almost never about giving the client space — The doctor analogy that reframes what staying in the conversation actually means — The one question to ask yourself before every sales call that changes everything — What "I need to think about it" really means — and what to say instead Selling is not something you do to people. It is something you do for them. And this episode proves it. 👉 If this episode inspired you, share it on your Instagram stories and tag @vanessacarling. Book your free discovery call with Vanessa: https://calendly.com/elysian-leaders/new-meeting [https://calendly.com/elysian-leaders/new-meeting]  ⭐ Follow High Ticket Portal on Spotify and Apple Podcasts to keep expanding your wealth, leadership, and relational capacity.

Ep 19: You Don't Need 10K Followers to Sell High Ticket — You Need This Instead.

When you hear the words "high ticket sales" — what comes up? For most women, it's a number. A big, exciting, slightly terrifying number. And if you pushed a little further, you'd probably say: it's when you charge a lot. It's what successful coaches do. And you wouldn't be wrong. But you wouldn't have the whole picture either. And that incomplete picture? That's exactly why so many brilliant women are either not selling high ticket at all — or attempting it and wondering why it's not converting the way it should. In this episode, Vanessa goes back to the foundation — the real definition of high ticket sales. Not the surface version. The one that changes how you show up, how you sell, and what actually becomes possible. In this episode: — Why high ticket is not a price point (and why treating it like one is costing you) — The three mistakes women make most often — including the one nobody talks about — Why you do not need 10,000 followers to close five-figure sales — The three non-negotiables: transformation clarity, embodied belief, and holding space for doubt — The reframe that changes your entire relationship with selling High ticket sales is not about charging more. It's about serving at a level that is worth more. 📞 Book a discovery call with Vanessa — https://calendly.com/elysian-leaders/new-meeting [https://calendly.com/elysian-leaders/new-meeting] 👉 If this episode inspired you, share it on your Instagram stories and tag @vanessacarling. Book your free discovery call with Vanessa: https://calendly.com/elysian-leaders/new-meeting [https://calendly.com/elysian-leaders/new-meeting]  ⭐ Follow High Ticket Portal on Spotify and Apple Podcasts to keep expanding your wealth, leadership, and relational capacity.

Ep 18: How to Stop Overfunctioning Without Losing Your Clients: Boundaries for High-Ticket Coaches (Part 3)

You've named the pattern. You understand the root. Now comes the part that actually changes everything — the shift. In the final episode of The Cost of Carrying Everyone series, Vanessa gets practical. This is the episode where understanding becomes action — where you learn what it actually looks like to stop overfunctioning without abandoning your clients, losing your edge, or becoming someone you don't recognise. Because here's the fear nobody says out loud: if I stop doing all of this, I'll become cold. Detached. I'll lose what makes me great. That fear is not the truth. And this episode proves it. In this episode: — The difference between a caretaker and a container — and why it changes everything about how you coach — The coaching container model: what's yours to carry, and what belongs to your client — The identity shift underneath all of it — from fixer to leader — What stopping overfunctioning actually feels like in your body (and why the discomfort doesn't mean you're doing it wrong) — Four concrete practices to take into your client relationships this week This is not about caring less. It's about finally showing up with the kind of presence your clients actually need. 🎧 Missed Parts 1 & 2? Make sure to go back and listen! 📞 Ready to do this work with support? Book a discovery call here: https://calendly.com/elysian-leaders/new-meeting [https://calendly.com/elysian-leaders/new-meeting]   👉 If this episode inspired you, share it on your Instagram stories and tag @vanessacarling. Book your free discovery call with Vanessa: https://calendly.com/elysian-leaders/new-meeting [https://calendly.com/elysian-leaders/new-meeting]  ⭐ Follow High Ticket Portal on Spotify and Apple Podcasts to keep expanding your wealth, leadership, and relational capacity.

Ep 17: Why Successful Women Over-Function in Business | The Cost of Carrying Everyone (Part 2)

Most high-achieving women didn't learn to overfunction in business. They learned it long before that — in the home they grew up in, in the environments that taught them: if I manage enough, anticipate enough, carry enough, I'll be safe. In part two of The Cost of Carrying Everyone, Vanessa goes deeper than the pattern — into the root. Why are so many brilliant, accomplished women wired to carry everyone? Where did this start? And what is it costing you now? In this episode: — The childhood survival strategy that quietly became your business default — Why overfunctioning doesn't just survive in the coaching industry — it gets rewarded — The three hidden costs running inside your business right now: resentment, depletion, and the one that keeps your clients small — The specific belief driving the whole pattern — and how to start unwiring it If part one named the pattern, part two gives you the map to where it began. 🎧 Listen to Part 1 first 📞 Ready to do this work deeper? Book a discovery call:  https://calendly.com/elysian-leaders/new-meeting [https://calendly.com/elysian-leaders/new-meeting]  👉 If this episode inspired you, share it on your Instagram stories and tag @vanessacarling. Book your free discovery call with Vanessa: https://calendly.com/elysian-leaders/new-meeting [https://calendly.com/elysian-leaders/new-meeting]  ⭐ Follow High Ticket Portal on Spotify and Apple Podcasts to keep expanding your wealth, leadership, and relational capacity.

Ep 16: The Coaching Trap Nobody Warns You About: When Dedication Becomes Overfunctioning (Part 1)

Are you a coach, mentor, or CEO who looks perfectly put together on the outside but feels absolutely exhausted on the inside? Does it feel like the world is hanging on your shoulders? In this first episode of our brand new three-part series, The Cost of Carrying Everyone, Vanessa Carling dives into the uncomfortable truth behind what we often call "dedication" or "professionalism." Spoiler alert: It might actually be over-functioning. We break down what over-functioning really is (hint: it's rooted in anxiety, not just burnout or people-pleasing) and explore the sneaky ways it shows up in high-ticket businesses—like taking personal responsibility when a client doesn’t get results. In this episode, we cover: The difference between healthy dedication and exhausting over-functioning. Why over-functioning is actually a nervous system response designed to keep you safe. The #1 way over-functioning disguises itself in a high-ticket coaching business. Why working harder when a client fails to implement is a trap. Connect with Vanessa: If this episode hit something in you, I would love to hear from you. Come find me on Instagram and tell me which part landed with you! https://www.instagram.com/vanessacarling Make sure to subscribe so you don't miss Part 2, where we dive into the nervous system roots and childhood patterns behind this behavior! 👉 If this episode inspired you, share it on your Instagram stories and tag @vanessacarling. Book your free discovery call with Vanessa: https://calendly.com/elysian-leaders/new-meeting [https://calendly.com/elysian-leaders/new-meeting]  ⭐ Follow High Ticket Portal on Spotify and Apple Podcasts to keep expanding your wealth, leadership, and relational capacity.