72 | Personal Power Isn't Control, It's Surrender - with Randi Halaway - Part 1

72 | Personal Power Isn't Control, It's Surrender - with Randi Halaway - Part 1

You've been taught that power means control. That letting go means losing something. That if you stop holding on so tight, everything falls apart. What if it's the opposite. In this two part conversation, I sit down with coach Randi Halaway to talk about personal power, not as force, but as surrender. Randi shares what it looked like when she lost touch with her own power, the marriage that lasted four months and became her wake up call, and the years-long process of learning to trust herself again. We talk about the armor most of us build without realizing it. Why vulnerability feels so dangerous when really it's the doorway. And why the discomfort of staying walled up is its own kind of pain, one we rarely name. This part of the conversation stayed with me long after we stopped recording. I hope it does the same for you. In this episode: * What personal power actually means, and why it has nothing to do with control * How to recognize the ways control shows up in your daily life * Why vulnerability is where our real strength lives * The difference between protecting yourself and actually living Connect with Randi: * Website [http://www.randihalaway.com] * Instagram [http://randihalaway] * TikTok [http://tiktok.com/@randihalaway] * Facebook [http://facebook.com/randi.halaway.7] Connect with Allyssya:  Ready to stop abandoning yourself and start showing up as you? Book a free consultation [https://calendar.app.google/QBJ2rZ7ojv2sVx9J6] Questions? Reach out: info@allyssya.coach [info@allyssya.coach]

71 | Your Brain Isn't Reporting the Truth

You send a text. Hours pass. No reply. Somewhere in that silence, your brain starts writing a story. “She’s upset with me. I did something wrong.” You never asked it to. It just did. In this episode, I explore the way our brains fill in gaps with information they don't actually have and present it to us as fact. From imagining what a stranger looks like before ever seeing a photo, to inventing what someone must be thinking about you after a fumbled sentence in a meeting, your mind is constantly filling in blanks and calling the result the truth. This week, I offer a simple practice for catching the difference between what you know and what your brain made up, without turning it into another reason to be hard on yourself. I share: * Why your brain fills in gaps instead of sitting with the unknown * How this shows up in your inner critic, and in what you assume others are thinking * A simple question to ask yourself the next time a strong reaction hits before you have the facts Questions to sit with this week: What do you know to be true? What did your brain just make up? I'd love to hear what your brain fabricated this week. Send me a message or share it on socials.  Connect with me: Book a consultation [https://calendar.app.google/QBJ2rZ7ojv2sVx9J6] info@allyssya.coach [info@allyssya.coach] @lifecoach_allyssya [https://www.instagram.com/lifecoach_allyssya/profilecard/?igsh=MThwbHV0emVyYnlpcQ==] Allyssya Gossett Coaching [https://www.facebook.com/lifecoachallyssya]

70 | 4 Costs of Staying Silent at Work

You're sitting in a meeting. You have a thought, a question, an idea worth sharing. Then the filter kicks in. What if it's a dumb question? What if I should already know this? What if I upset someone? You say nothing. The meeting moves on. You leave feeling invisible, even though you had so much to offer. This isn't a confidence problem you were born with. It's a learned pattern, often one that started long before this job. And learned patterns can be unlearned. In this episode, I share my own story of staying quiet in professional settings, not because I lacked expertise, but because fear was louder than the ideas and questions I had to offer. And I break down exactly what that editing and silence costs.  What this episode uncovers: * The physical experience happening in your body the moment you stay silent * The mental loops that run during the meeting, and the ones that follow you after it * The real costs of staying silent at work * What begins to shift when you start sharing your ideas, even imperfectly If this episode felt familiar, if you've been the quietest person in rooms where you had the most to offer, know that this pattern can shift.  Curious what that could look like for you? Book a consultation [https://calendar.app.google/QBJ2rZ7ojv2sVx9J6] Connect with me: info@allyssya.coach [info@allyssya.coach] @lifecoach_allyssya [https://www.instagram.com/lifecoach_allyssya/profilecard/?igsh=MThwbHV0emVyYnlpcQ==] Allyssya Gossett Coaching [https://www.facebook.com/lifecoachallyssya]

69 | Your Energy Is Sacred: Learning to Choose What You Carry - with Alexandra Goldwell

For decades, my guest couldn't stop absorbing the emotions of everyone around her - her clients, her students, and even strangers in a room - and it took her years to understand she wasn't broken. She was highly sensitive, and no one had ever taught her what to do with that. In this conversation, somatic therapist and counselor educator Alexandra Goldwell shares what three decades of working with highly sensitive people (and being one herself) has taught her about energy, emotion, and self-trust. We talk about why crying, anger, and grief are not problems to be managed but information to be honored, and why the HSPs who feel most depleted after social gatherings are often the ones who never learned to express rather than just absorb. Alexandra also opens up about the inherited beliefs many women carry about their own worth, and how those imprints, passed down through generations, shape the way we overgive, overstay, and undervalue ourselves in relationships. In this episode, we cover: * Why "what's wrong with me" is often the first stop on the road to understanding sensitivity * Simple, elemental practices for clearing absorbed energy at the end of the day (nature, water, movement, sweat, tears) * How to build a relationship with difficult emotions instead of fearing them * Why expressing yourself in social settings changes how drained you feel afterward * The difference between honoring someone else's story and abandoning your own energy to hold it A favorite moment: "Your energy is sacred. You are the one who chooses where to spend it, where to put it, who gets the honor of being with it. You're the one who decides." Be gentle with yourself this week. Take care. Connect with Alexandra: Find her on Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/alexandragoldwell?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet&igsh=ZDNlZDc0MzIxNw==], where she shares her work supporting women through fertility challenges as a healer and through her group program focused on collective growth. Connect with Me: 📩 info@allyssya.coach 📅 Book a consultation [https://calendar.app.google/FvUAZtVdiqNPpeky8]

68 | Falling Back Into Old Habits Doesn't Mean You're Failing

Lately, I’ve been having similar conversations with several of my clients. They find themselves back in old habits and old thought patterns they were sure they'd already worked through, and the frustration that follows can be brutal. There's this quiet shame that creeps in, like the work was supposed to be finished by now and certain challenges should have been resolved for good. So today I'm revisiting an episode from last summer that captures exactly what's going on. Because slipping back into old patterns isn't a sign that something is wrong with you. It's simply a normal part of the process. In this episode, I talk about: * Why personal growth isn't a straight line, and what it actually looks like to be "in a dip" * Why old thought patterns resurface when you challenge yourself in new ways * The stock market mindset shift that makes setbacks feel less like failure If you've been feeling discouraged because you're back in a place you thought you'd left behind, this episode is going to meet you right where you are. Growth was never meant to be a straight line. The dips are part of the climb. Connect with Me: 📩 info@allyssya.coach 📅 Book a consultation [https://calendar.app.google/FvUAZtVdiqNPpeky8]