The Trauma That Hurts People Most (And Never Gets Named) | Patrick Teahan

The Trauma That Hurts People Most (And Never Gets Named) | Patrick Teahan

A calm, healthy relationship can feel more dangerous to you than the chaos you grew up in. That's hypervigilance. It hates the absence of a threat, so it manufactures one, even when you're finally safe. Patrick Teahan, a clinical social worker and childhood trauma educator, breaks down why your body still reacts like it's protecting a nine year old. You're not overreacting. You're replaying. Teahan explains how most people experience the present entirely through the lens of childhood, filtering every text and every silence through wounds that happened decades ago. This episode gets into inner child work, re-parenting, and the murky question of when going no contact with a parent is healing versus when it's avoidance. You'll hear what real boundaries look like when love and abuse get tangled together. By the end, you'll understand why healing isn't about proving your parents wrong. It's about finally believing you were a good kid the whole time. Patrick's Website [http://www.patrickteahan.com/] Patrick's Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/patrickteahanofficial/] Patrick's YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@patrickteahanofficial] Patrick's TikTok [https://www.tiktok.com/@patrickteahanofficial] In this episode you will: * Discover why your nervous system treats calm, safe relationships as a threat * Learn Patrick's three-part healing framework of finishing business with your family of origin, re-parenting your inner child, and doing the deeper work of intimacy * Understand the ACE study and why quiet, everyday trauma often does more damage than one big event * Explore when going no contact with a parent is genuine healing and when it becomes avoidance * Uncover the link between childhood trauma, imposter syndrome, and your ability to manifest the life you want For more information go to https://lewishowes.com/1962 [https://lewishowes.com/1962] More SOG episodes we think you’ll love! [https://lewishowes.com/more] Get More From Lewis! [https://lewishowes.com/follow] Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com [https://pcm.adswizz.com] for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

How to Design a Life That Runs Without You | Rob Dyrdek

A clinical hypnotist told him the problem in one sentence. You don't believe, at a subconscious level, that you were meant to be successful. That was Rob Dyrdek in his twenties, long before the professional skateboarder turned MTV star turned venture studio founder built a portfolio of brands and walked away from a run of exits. He tracks every minute of his day. He rates his life, his work, and his health on a scale of zero to ten, every single night. What the data told him is not what you would expect. The discipline is not the reward. It is the entry fee. He calls what he built the Machine Method, and he applies it to everything. Companies, relationships, health, a hundred-year plan for a family that does not exist yet. The part that will stay with you is what he says about luck. He refuses to pretend he earned all of it, and he is unnervingly clear about what makes it show up more often. You are already designing your life. The only real question is whether you are doing it on purpose. Rob on Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/robdyrdek/?hl=en] In this episode you will: * Learn the Machine Method, the discovery to diligence to launch to scale process Rob uses to build and sell companies * Discover why he rates his life, work, and health on a zero to ten scale every single day and what the correlation reveals * Overcome the stuck stress that quietly drains your capacity long before you sit down to work * Recognize the difference between failing with clarity and getting blindsided, and why one is survivable * Build a life design where automation comes first, optimization never stops, and the process finally starts giving energy back For more information go to https://lewishowes.com/1961 [https://lewishowes.com/1961] More SOG episodes we think you’ll love! [https://lewishowes.com/more] Get More From Lewis! [https://lewishowes.com/follow] Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com [https://pcm.adswizz.com] for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

The Neuroscience Behind Why You Can't Manifest What You Want | Dr. James Doty

You're manifesting every single day. You're just doing it the wrong way. That's according to Dr. James Doty, a Stanford neurosurgeon and neuroscientist who has spent decades studying what actually happens in your brain when you set an intention. His new book, Mind Magic, breaks down the neuroscience most manifestation advice leaves out completely. Here's the block nobody talks about. It's not a lack of belief. It's fear. It's shame. It's insecurity running your nervous system without your permission, and it's keeping you stuck in survival mode instead of the state where real change actually happens. Doty grew up in poverty with an alcoholic father and a mother who attempted suicide multiple times. A stranger in a magic shop taught him a technique that rewired how his brain worked, and decades later he's the one teaching it to brain surgeons and first responders. This conversation gets into the exact mental shift between wanting something and needing it, why self criticism sabotages your relationships, and the small daily ritual Doty still uses to reset his nervous system every single morning. Mind Magic: The Neuroscience of Manifestation and How It Changes Everything * Amazon [https://amzn.to/4ffckIm] * Audiobook [https://apple.co/4aY2OIq] Into the Magic Shop: A Neurosurgeon's Quest to Discover the Mysteries of the Brain and the Secrets of the Heart * Amazon [https://amzn.to/4aPs3g0] * Audiobook [https://apple.co/4bpSs44] In this episode you will: * Learn the neuroscience difference between hedonic happiness and lasting fulfillment * Discover why fear and insecurity are the real blocks to manifesting anything  * Overcome limiting beliefs using the value tagging technique to reprogram your subconscious * Recognize how compassion physically shifts your nervous system and strengthens your immune response * Build a daily manifestation ritual using breathwork, awe, and a simple morning mantra For more information go to https://lewishowes.com/1960 [https://lewishowes.com/1960] More SOG episodes we think you’ll love! [https://lewishowes.com/more] Get More From Lewis! [https://lewishowes.com/follow] Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com [https://pcm.adswizz.com] for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

The Childhood Question That's Secretly Running Your Life | Aaron Doughty

There's one childhood question that's secretly running your whole adult life. Aaron Doughty asks it straight: who did you have to be as a kid to receive Mom or Dad's love? Whoever that was became the role you're still performing, the pattern you keep mistaking for your identity. Aaron built a YouTube following of over a million people teaching exactly this kind of subconscious pattern work, and in this conversation he walks through his SHIFT framework for breaking free of people pleasing, self reliance, and the need to be liked. You'll hear why the dark side of people pleasing is buried anger, why setting a boundary can make you look like the bad guy before it makes you free, and why someone else's tension was never actually your job to manage. Aaron also opens up about losing his mom, the message she sent him two hours before she died, and what he now believes real freedom actually feels like. Aaron's Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/aarondoughty44] Aaron's YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@AaronDoughty44/featured] Aaron's Facebook [http://facebook.com/aarondoughty44] Join The Shift Academy [https://l.instagram.com/?u=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.skool.com%2Fhighvibeschool%2Fabout%3Futm_source%3Dig%26utm_medium%3Dsocial%26utm_content%3Dlink_in_bio%26fbclid%3DPAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAc3J0YwZhcHBfaWQPOTM2NjE5NzQzMzkyNDU5AAGnJ7Xu6Gv2gXK9OWCNHG9SprSOBh8LgZmFVBlRY6JpVFbnUhb5Xzge2MmsHVI_aem_njdkVqPDv0AOgoBvS5qy0A&e=AUBTTp6s6aqbUWdSRtmXzUsZ8iAxFmVtr3Yido6jwj9lE1XaBhrEUW62p5V-9cubrjJhzYNxi5CVi0JyAx-xTxaehzWQIrwQli-LZ3WGfD8oJIQ7Bwfbg4898uOsAwHQQ6-NJIOmbIJN] In this episode you will: * Learn the SHIFT framework for breaking the subconscious patterns that keep you stuck  * Discover why people pleasing is a childhood survival strategy, not a personality trait * Recognize the difference between healing someone and enabling them * Overcome the fear of being disliked or misunderstood * Build a new relationship to boundaries, tension, and authentic expression For more information go to https://lewishowes.com/1959 [https://lewishowes.com/1959] More SOG episodes we think you’ll love! [https://lewishowes.com/more] Get More From Lewis! [https://lewishowes.com/follow] Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com [https://pcm.adswizz.com] for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

The Real Reason Stress Is Hurting You | Kelly McGonigal

Your body can't tell the difference between anxiety and excitement. The only difference is the story you tell yourself. Kelly McGonigal has spent her career at Stanford studying that story, and how the way you think about stress can quite literally change your biology, your relationships, and how long you live. She will show you why the fear of stress may be more dangerous than stress itself, and why one built in instinct can stop you from burning out completely once you know how to trigger it. You will learn why depression lies to you, why receiving support feels harder than giving it, why your body has a built in brake pedal for temptation, and what a rescue animal can teach you about earning real connection. There is a reason movement changes your brain chemistry more than almost anything else you could choose, and this conversation will make you rethink every hard moment you have ever tried to avoid. Kelly's Website [https://www.kellymcgonigal.com/] Kelly on Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/kellymariemcgonigal/?hl=en] The Joy of Movement: How exercise helps us find happiness, hope, connection, and courage * Amazon [https://amzn.to/4uJj5aW] * Audiobook [https://apple.co/44k6vnQ] The Upside of Stress: Why Stress Is Good for You, and How to Get Good at It * Amazon [https://amzn.to/4eQxqO6] * Audiobook [https://apple.co/43Olq9J] The Willpower Instinct: How Self-Control Works, Why It Matters, and What You Can Do To Get More of It * Amazon [https://amzn.to/3Szxlpo] * Audiobook [https://apple.co/4eSwjgU] In this episode you will: * Discover why believing stress is harmful may be more dangerous than the stress itself * Learn the pause and plan response, a built in instinct that can rebuild your willpower in the moment * Uncover the real reason depression takes hold and four ways to work through it * Overcome the discomfort of receiving gratitude and support from others * Recognize the brain chemistry behind the runner's high and why it makes you more social, not less For more information go to https://lewishowes.com/1958 [https://lewishowes.com/1958] More SOG episodes we think you’ll love! [https://lewishowes.com/more] Get More From Lewis! [https://lewishowes.com/follow] Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com [https://pcm.adswizz.com] for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.