To Hump A Pillow with Coach Ellen Melon

In this solo episode, Ellen dives into the unconscious mind and explores how shadow work might be the missing link between what we say we want and what we actually attract. Drawing from Dr. Carolyn Elliott’s book Existential Kink, and referencing the well-known quote from A Return to Love by Marianne Williamson, this episode introduces listeners to a transformative practice: the Deepest Fear Inventory. Ellen shares personal reflections on craving change — a new house, job, or creative path — while grappling with internal resistance. Could there be a hidden part of us that’s turned on by rejection? Addicted to chaos? Secretly comforted by being overlooked? This episode challenges listeners to ask brave, unsettling questions and walks through a 5-step shadow work exercise to help uncover, name, and release deep fears that may be blocking personal growth. If you've ever felt stuck, cyclical, or frustrated by your own patterns, this one’s for you.   Coach Ellen Melon links: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ellenmelonshow/ [https://www.instagram.com/ellenmelonshow/] Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ellenmelonshow [https://www.facebook.com/ellenmelonshow] For questions regarding this topic, or anything else, please email hello@ellenmelon.com [hump@ellenmelon.com]

In this episode, I explore the deep discomfort of uncertainty, the scarcity mindset, and how they intertwine with faith, trust, and self-worth. Since going part-time at work and navigating new family responsibilities, I’ve struggled with the fear of the unknown. Inspired by a powerful quote from Conclave and insights from The Soul of Money by Lynne Twist, I discuss how scarcity thinking shapes our daily lives and how we can shift towards sufficiency and trust. This episode includes reflections, guided meditation, and mantras to help reframe fear into faith and remind you that you are enough. Key Topics Covered: * Navigating Uncertainty: * How my transition to part-time work and increased family responsibilities heightened my fears. * The way uncertainty can feel like a sneaky illusion of risk. * Lessons from Hidden Brain's episode “Sitting with Uncertainty.”  [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/hidden-brain/id1028908750?i=1000671334611] * Faith, Trust, and the Role of Doubt: * A powerful quote from Conclave on the necessity of doubt in faith. * Why certainty can be a dangerous mindset that limits growth and connection. * Learning to trust in ourselves, each other, and the unknown. * The Scarcity Mindset & Its Impact: * How we wake up every day feeling like we don’t have enough—time, money, energy, success. * The cultural obsession with scarcity and how it disconnects us from our truth. * A reading from The Soul of Money by Lynne Twist on shifting from scarcity to sufficiency. * Practices for Overcoming Fear & Lack: * Guided meditation to connect with inner abundance. * Mantras to reinforce self-worth and sufficiency. * A reminder that we were all born worthy, enough, and deserving of abundance. This episode is an invitation to let go of fear, reframe uncertainty, and remember that you are enough—exactly as you are. Hit subscribe to catch future episodes, and let’s reflect together! 🎙️✨ Coach Ellen Melon links: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ellenmelonshow/ [https://www.instagram.com/ellenmelonshow/] Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ellenmelonshow [https://www.facebook.com/ellenmelonshow] For questions regarding this topic, please email hello@ellenmelon.com [hump@ellenmelon.com]

Description: In this New Year 2025 episode, I reflect on the biggest lessons I learned over the past year—a tradition that has shaped my personal growth since my late 20s. From the challenges of motherhood and navigating work relationships to the importance of curiosity, holiday traditions, and personal integrity, I share insights that shaped my year and might resonate with you. I also open up about my absence from podcasting, the realities of balancing work, family, and personal well-being, and my hopes for future episodes. Plus, I ask you: How do you reflect on your year? What lessons have stood out to you? Topics Covered: * The growing pains of motherhood & step-parenting * Navigating work relationships & personal growth * The power of asking better questions * The role of traditions in creating joy * Showing up in relationships with more awareness Stick around for a tip on improving sleep, a powerful insight on breakups, and a challenge for you: What’s a hard conversation you’ve been avoiding? Hit subscribe to catch future episodes, and let’s reflect together! 🎙️✨   Coach Ellen Melon links: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ellenmelonshow/ [https://www.instagram.com/ellenmelonshow/] Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ellenmelonshow [https://www.facebook.com/ellenmelonshow] For questions regarding this topic, please email hello@ellenmelon.com [hump@ellenmelon.com]

Part 3 of 7! This season on To Hump a Pillow, I invite my fiance Mike to the podcast in a 7-Episode Relationship Series to discuss challenging conversations that occur in couple-hood. We'll deep-dive into 7 deliciously uncomfortable topics: 1. How to talk about envious and jealous feelings 2. How to talk about money and finances, spending habits 3. Sex life - how it's changed over our relationship and how to ask for what you need 4. On taking things too personally 5. Maintaining individualism and ensuring alone time 6. Day to day compromising 7. Coparenting in a blended family In this episode, Mike and I discuss difficult feelings and values around money, like: 1. The beginning of our sex life (early dating), first sexual experience 2. First trimester sex 3. Second/third trimester sex 4. Post-partum sex life and how to navigate the emotional and physical mess 5. Things that get in the way of our sex life For questions regarding this topic, please email hump@ellenmelon.com [hump@ellenmelon.com]   Episodes I've called out in the episode: * #60. The trick to using dating apps - a real convo with my boyfriend Mike * #19. Finding self-love with The 4 Agreements * #14. How sex changes in partnerships for first time parents, genito-pelvic pain, and arousal disorder - with Dr. Natalie Rosen * #9. Vaginal tearing during child labor: Sex, anatomy, fear, and lessons learned - with Alyssa * #7. The messages I received about sex when I was young - Part 1 of 2 - with Ellen Melon ____________________ For more info on 1-on-1 coaching program: https://www.ellenmelon.com/intimacy-coaching [https://www.ellenmelon.com/intimacy-coaching] ____________________ Coach Ellen Melon links: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ellenmelonshow/ [https://www.instagram.com/ellenmelonshow/] Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ellenmelonshow [https://www.facebook.com/ellenmelonshow] Website: https://www.ellenmelon.com [https://www.ellenmelon.com/]

Dear listeners, pardon my absence! After taking a year off of the podcast, being pregnant, buying a house, having a baby, getting engaged, I am back and ready to share some new content on the podcast. This season on To Hump a Pillow, I invite my fiance Mike to the podcast in a 7-Episode Relationship Series to discuss challenging conversations that occur in couple-hood. We'll deep-dive into 7 deliciously uncomfortable topics: 1. How to talk about envious and jealous feelings 2. How to talk about money and finances, spending habits 3. Sex life - how it's changed over our relationship and how to ask for what you need 4. On taking things too personally 5. Maintaining individualism and ensuring alone time 6. Day to day compromising 7. Coparenting in a blended family In this episode, Mike and I discuss difficult feelings and values around money, like: 1. Money mindset 2. How money was discussed in our homes, upbringing 3. Our challenges with talking about money 4. As a woman, making my own money to be able to make empowered decisions 5. Spending money seperately, together, and on large purchases     For questions regarding this topic, please email hump@ellenmelon.com [hump@ellenmelon.com] ____________________ For more info on 1-on-1 coaching program: https://www.ellenmelon.com/intimacy-coaching [https://www.ellenmelon.com/intimacy-coaching] ____________________ Coach Ellen Melon links: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ellenmelonshow/ [https://www.instagram.com/ellenmelonshow/] Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ellenmelonshow [https://www.facebook.com/ellenmelonshow] Website: https://www.ellenmelon.com [https://www.ellenmelon.com/]