Their Trauma Is Not Your Homework

Their Trauma Is Not Your Homework

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2609973/fan_mail/new] Can someone be deeply wounded, deserving of compassion, and still not be desirable to have in your life? In this episode, we dive into the complicated space between empathy and self-respect. We explore what happens when understanding someone's trauma becomes the reason we tolerate behavior that continually hurts us. From family dynamics and boundary setting to vulnerability, accountability, and healing, we unpack the reality that compassion does not require self-sacrifice. We share personal stories about difficult relationships, criticism, emotional triggers, and the lessons that come from learning to honor our own needs. We discuss the difference between holding space for someone and becoming their emotional dumping ground, why hurt people sometimes hurt people, and how to recognize when a relationship is taking more from you than it gives. Most importantly, we explore the idea that understanding someone's wounds does not obligate you to absorb the consequences of them. Boundaries are not a punishment. They are an act of self-love. Sometimes growth means staying. Sometimes growth means walking away. And sometimes the most compassionate thing you can do is stop abandoning yourself in the name of understanding someone else.  Key Takeaway: You can have compassion for someone's pain without giving them unlimited access to your life. Understanding their story does not mean tolerating behavior that diminishes your peace, your well-being, or your sense of self. 💫 Email us at theunhingedintuitives@gmail.com for questions, comments, or topic requests, we would love to hear from you! 🌿 Work with Jane-Marie: www.transformativehealings.com [http://www.transformativehealings.com/] ✨ Follow, rate, and share if this resonated.

How to Lose Your Shit More Gracefully

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2609973/fan_mail/new] We've all been there—that moment when frustration, anxiety, anger, or overwhelm takes over and suddenly you're one inconvenience away from completely losing it. In this episode, Jane and Keri explore what happens when big emotions hijack our nervous system and how we can learn to navigate those moments with more awareness, self-compassion, and a little less collateral damage. From locked doors in the desert and spiraling thoughts to emotional regulation, self-soothing, and the power of co-regulation, this conversation dives into the messy reality of being human. They discuss recognizing emotional triggers, identifying how emotions show up in the body, finding healthier outlets for anger and frustration, and why healing isn't about never losing your cool; it's about catching yourself sooner and recovering faster. Along the way, they explore the difference between feeling emotions and being controlled by them, the importance of repair after conflict, and why emotional growth often looks less like perfection and more like shortening the time between reaction and awareness. If you've ever found yourself spiraling, snapping at someone you love, doom-scrolling to avoid your feelings, or wondering why the same triggers keep showing up, this episode offers practical insights, relatable stories, and a reminder that growth isn't about never losing your shit...it's about learning how to lose it a little more gracefully. Because being human isn't about mastering your emotions, it's about learning how to work with them. 💫 Email us at theunhingedintuitives@gmail.com for questions, comments, or topic requests, we would love to hear from you! 🌿 Work with Jane-Marie: www.transformativehealings.com [http://www.transformativehealings.com/] ✨ Follow, rate, and share if this resonated.

When Family Doesn’t Feel Like Home

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2609973/fan_mail/new] Family relationships can be some of the most meaningful—and most complicated—connections we experience. In this episode of Unhinged: The Intuitive Weirdos, Jane and Keri explore what happens when family dynamics leave us feeling unseen, excluded, misunderstood, or pressured to become someone we're not. Together, they discuss the difference between belonging and fitting in, the emotional toll of constantly seeking acceptance, and how family roles, expectations, and unresolved wounds can shape our lives long into adulthood. Through personal stories, candid reflections, and a healthy dose of humor, they examine when boundaries may strengthen a relationship, when distance may be necessary, and why letting go doesn't have to come from anger. The conversation also explores found family, ancestral healing, emotional triggers, self-worth, and the liberating realization that love and connection are not limited to blood relatives. Ultimately, this episode is a reminder that your value is not determined by anyone's approval—and that sometimes the greatest act of self-love is choosing peace over belonging where you were never fully accepted. Key Themes: * Family dynamics and emotional triggers * The difference between belonging and fitting in * Healthy boundaries versus cutting ties * Found family and chosen community * Healing generational patterns * Self-worth, acceptance, and authenticity * Releasing relationships without resentment If you've ever felt like the outsider in your own family, this episode offers validation, perspective, and permission to stop shrinking yourself for acceptance. 💫 Email us at theunhingedintuitives@gmail.com for questions, comments, or topic requests, we would love to hear from you! 🌿 Work with Jane-Marie: www.transformativehealings.com [http://www.transformativehealings.com/] ✨ Follow, rate, and share if this resonated.

When You Grow, Not Everyone Gets to Stay

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2609973/fan_mail/new] Have you ever started healing… and suddenly your circle got smaller? In this episode, we dive into the uncomfortable truth not many talk about...growth can cost you relationships. As you evolve, your friendships don’t always come with you, and that doesn’t mean something is wrong, it means something is changing. Our outer relationships reflect the inner work and current mindset we are in.  We explore the difference between friendships that fade naturally and those you consciously outgrow, the role of self-love in what you tolerate, and how your “vibrational match” shifts as you do deeper inner work. From one-sided relationships to soul-aligned connections, we unpack what it really looks like to let people go with gratitude instead of guilt. We also talk about: * Why some friendships feel draining (and what that’s telling you) * How healing exposes imbalance and lack of boundaries * The difference between transactional vs. supportive relationships * Why losing people can actually mean you’re on the right path This episode is your reminder that not everyone is meant to stay in your life, and that’s okay. Some people are here for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. The key is knowing when it’s time to let go, to make space for different. Stay self-aware, stay a little unhinged… and trust that what’s meant for you will stay. 💫 Email us at theunhingedintuitives@gmail.com for questions, comments, or topic requests, we would love to hear from you! 🌿 Work with Jane-Marie: www.transformativehealings.com [http://www.transformativehealings.com/] ✨ Follow, rate, and share if this resonated.

Finding God Without Religion

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2609973/fan_mail/new] For many of us, religion was something we were given long before we had the ability to question it. In this episode, we explore the space between religion and spirituality, the place where what we were taught begins to meet what we actually feel and experience as truth. We talk about the role religion can play in providing structure, community, and meaning, while also exploring how certain beliefs may create fear, guilt, or disconnection from self. We also open up a conversation around the Bible, interpretation, and the difference between what is taught and what is personally felt. This is not about rejecting religion or choosing one path over another. It is about creating space to reflect, to question, and to reconnect with your own inner knowing. You are allowed to explore. You are allowed to evolve. You are allowed to define your own relationship with what you believe. 💫 Email us at theunhingedintuitives@gmail.com for questions, comments, or topic requests, we would love to hear from you! 🌿 Work with Jane-Marie: www.transformativehealings.com [http://www.transformativehealings.com/] ✨ Follow, rate, and share if this resonated.