Fine, I'll Talk About It

Polyamory Explained: Jealousy, Cheating, Communication, and What Makes It Work

What does polyamory actually look like beyond the stereotypes? In this episode of Fine, I’ll Talk About It, Danielle talks with licensed clinical social worker and therapist Jess Williams about the realities of polyamorous and non-monogamous relationships. Jess challenges the belief that polyamory is only about sex, a lack of commitment, or an unhealthy relationship. She explains the difference between consensual non-monogamy and cheating, why jealousy is not always a problem, and how jealousy can reveal needs that have not been expressed. They also discuss what communication really requires when multiple people are involved, how couples can explore opening a relationship, and why there is no single structure that works for every polyamorous relationship. In this episode: * What polyamory means in real life * The difference between polyamory and cheating * Why commitment does not require exclusivity * How jealousy can point to an unmet need * What healthy communication actually looks like * Agreements, boundaries, and power dynamics * How polycules and hinge relationships work * Questions to ask before opening a relationship * How shame and social conditioning shape our beliefs * What monogamous couples can learn from non-monogamy Whether you are curious about polyamory, considering an open relationship, or trying to better understand someone you care about, this conversation offers an honest look at relationships that exist outside the traditional model. ABOUT JESS WILLIAMS Jess is a licensed clinical social worker, therapist, and owner of Oak & Evergreen Therapy. Licensed in Delaware and Pennsylvania, with Maryland coming soon, she specializes in working with non-monogamous and queer communities as well as anxious people pleasers. Jess believes the relationship between therapist and client is an essential part of treatment. She shows up in sessions as her full, real self and meets clients with honesty and human connection. She also provides continuing education for professionals about non-monogamy and offers consultation on cases. Connect with Jess: Website: www.oakevergreentherapy.com [http://www.oakevergreentherapy.com] CONNECT WITH DANIELLE YOUNG Danielle Young is a Master Certified Life Coach, Pattern Breaking Specialist, bestselling author, international speaker, and host of Fine, I’ll Talk About It. Website: www.inspiredactionwellness.com [http://www.inspiredactionwellness.com] Instagram: @inspiredactionwellness Book: From Surviving to Thriving: A Journey Beyond Trauma Listen to Fine, I’ll Talk About It on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, YouTube, iHeartRadio, or at: https://fineletstalk.riverside.com [https://fineletstalk.riverside.com]

Maybe You're Not Broken: A Different Conversation About Trauma and Healing

What if anxiety, depression, trauma symptoms, and emotional overwhelm aren't signs that you're broken? In this episode of Fine, I'll Talk About It, Danielle Young sits down with Terri Lee-Shield, mentor, writer, podcast host, and founder of Love School, to explore a different approach to trauma recovery and mental well-being. After recovering from addiction, mental health struggles, abuse, and trauma, Terri began connecting the patterns she observed in nature with her own recovery process. The result was a philosophy she calls Natural Intelligence: a holistic approach that combines self-trust, life design, shadow work, and an ecosystem mindset to support lasting change. Together, Danielle and Terri discuss: • Why trauma affects both the mind and body • The hidden downside of mental health labels • How nervous system stress impacts physical health • The role nature plays in emotional well-being • Why self-trust is often missing from recovery • Small steps that create lasting change • How to build capacity for peace and calm • The difference between managing symptoms and creating real change If you've ever felt stuck, overwhelmed, anxious, disconnected from yourself, or like you're constantly trying to fix what's wrong with you, this conversation offers a different perspective. Connect with Terri Lee-Shield Website: https://www.loveschool.uk [https://www.loveschool.uk] Linktree: https://linktr.ee/snowdrops.sunsets [https://linktr.ee/snowdrops.sunsets] Instagram: @loveschool.uk [http://loveschool.uk] Love School offers courses, articles, mentorship, community support, and resources for people seeking a natural approach to recovery, trauma healing, and personal growth. Connect with Danielle Young Website: https://www.inspiredactionwellness.com [https://www.inspiredactionwellness.com] Instagram: @inspiredactionwellness Book: From Surviving to Thriving: A Journey Beyond Trauma trauma recovery. natural intelligence, nervous system, regulation, healing trauma

The Truth About Bodybuilding, Body Dysmorphia & Binge Eating with Natasha Kostales

Have you ever wondered what bodybuilding really does to your mental health, hormones, metabolism, and relationship with food? In this episode of Fine, I'll Talk About It, I sit down with fitness coach, competitive powerlifter, author, and host of the Binge to Barbells Podcast, Natasha Kostales, to discuss the realities of bodybuilding, binge eating disorder, body dysmorphia, fitness culture, and what true health really means. Natasha shares her experience with: • Bodybuilding competition prep • Binge eating disorder • Body dysmorphia • Losing her menstrual cycle • Food obsession and calorie tracking • Mental health struggles • Fitness industry pressures • Recovery after bodybuilding • Powerlifting and strength training • Finding balance with food and exercise This conversation goes far beyond weight loss and aesthetics. We talk about confidence, self-worth, recovery, and the hidden challenges many women face behind the pursuit of the "perfect body." About Natasha Kostales Natasha Kostales is a former English teacher turned personal trainer who entered the fitness industry after competing in bodybuilding in 2019. Today, she is a competitive powerlifter, host of the Binge to Barbells Podcast, and the traditionally published author of Beyond the Barbell, where she shares the realities of bodybuilding, body image struggles, binge eating disorder, and life beyond the stage. Connect with Natasha: Instagram: @natashakostales Book: Beyond the Barbell: Confessions of a Female Fitness Competitor [https://mybook.to/BeyondtheBarbell?utm_source=chatgpt.com] Podcast: The Binge to Barbells Podcast [https://open.spotify.com/show/2uyKe4Nlo4F9X2aNmyX8rb?si=94ff4d09cfd249ef&utm_source=chatgpt.com] Connect with Danielle Young: Website: Inspired Action Wellness Instagram: @inspiredactionwellness If you enjoyed this episode, subscribe, leave a review, and share it with someone who might need this conversation.

Manifesting From Lack: Why Vision Boards Backfire & How Real Connection Heals

Content note: This episode includes a brief mention of suicide and the loss of a military veteran. If you or someone you know is struggling, you can call or text 988 in the U.S. to reach the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, available 24/7. Most of us were sold a version of manifestation that looks like a poster board of magazine cutouts. Cut out the dream house, the trip, the partner, stare at it daily, and wait. Star Staubach has a different take, and she says it out loud on this one. Star is a life coach of 16 years and the creator of the Bad Ass Manifestation Parties. She and Danielle pull apart the social-media version of manifesting and get into what works. Star's unpopular opinion: vision boards often pull their images straight from advertisements, so we end up chasing a feeling a product promised instead of the thing we actually wanted. Her fix is simple. Find the theme underneath the images, name it, and notice that the feeling you want is available right now. They also get into why high achievers stay stuck looking at the gap between where they are and where they want to be, missing how far they've already come. Both share their own history of stressing over vision boards and treating manifestation like one more thing to get right. The back half is where it really opens up. Star stepped away from coaching while she wrestled with toxic positivity and the privilege baked into the work, and started driving for Lyft. The people who got in her car changed her. She shares picking up a young woman leaving a facility in rural Kentucky and crossing the Ohio River with her, a mom whose veteran husband had died by suicide whose son she helped get a tenor sax, and a morning she came face to face with her own unconscious bias. The thread through all of it: get quiet, get curious, and let people show you who they are. You can hold your own beliefs and still see the human in front of you. ABOUT THE GUEST Star Staubach has lived an eclectic life, the kind that gave her what friends lovingly call "Star Stories." Her early experiences, from growing up in chaos to living in Australia, shaped a lifelong draw to personal development and, 16 years ago, led her to become a life coach and facilitator of Bad Ass Manifestation Parties. At five, stranded on the roadside again, she told her mom, "We'll laugh about this later." That honest optimism stayed with her, deepened by compassion and experience. At 50, Star is grateful for her journey and the way it lets her meet others with presence, curiosity, and truth. * Website: badassmanifestation.com [http://badassmanifestation.com] * 21 Days of Badass Manifestation: badassmanifestation.com/21daysofmanifestation [http://badassmanifestation.com/21daysofmanifestation] * Free: Beyond the Vision Board, three free days when you join her community * Instagram: instagram.com/badassmanifestation [http://instagram.com/badassmanifestation] * Facebook: facebook.com/BAMwithStar [http://facebook.com/BAMwithStar] * LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/starstaubach [http://linkedin.com/in/starstaubach] CONNECT WITH DANIELLE * Instagram: @inspiredactionwellness * Website: inspiredactionwellness.com [http://inspiredactionwellness.com] If this episode got you thinking, follow or subscribe so you don't miss the next one, and leave a quick review to help other people find the show.

When Talk Therapy Isn't Enough: Energy Work, Tapping, and Healing Trauma with Beth Chisholm

Content warning: This episode includes a firsthand account of a fatal domestic violence shooting and a suicide. Please listen with care. Resources are listed at the bottom of these notes. Beth Chisholm tried everything to heal after she witnessed her friend's murder. Three years of talk therapy. Every traditional tool she could find. None of it gave her relief. Then she found tapping. In this episode, Beth and Danielle talk about what happens when the standard advice runs out and you are still stuck. Beth is an energy coach who helps women regulate their nervous systems and release emotional blocks using EFT, biofield tuning, and sound healing. She walks Danielle through a live nine gamut exercise on the show, and Danielle's body tension drops from a five to a two in minutes. This one is real talk about the healing tools most people are never offered. In this episode: * Why talk therapy reaches your thinking brain but often misses where trauma is stored * What EFT (tapping) is and how it works on the body, not just the story * "Sit in the suck" and why bypassing your pain keeps you stuck * The window of tolerance and how to grow your bandwidth for hard things * How biofield tuning works, including remote sessions * The science people are not told about, including peer-reviewed studies on cortisol and PTSD * Generational and ancestral trauma you may be carrying without knowing * A live nine gamut technique you can try at home * Why regulating your nervous system comes first, always About Beth: Beth Chisholm is an energy psychology coach and the founder of Kamiyah Coaching. After surviving a life-altering trauma, she discovered the power of EFT and Biofield Tuning to calm the nervous system, release emotional blocks, and rebuild inner safety. Today, Beth supports sensitive, heart-led women in moving from fear and overwhelm to clarity, confidence, and purpose. Her work blends intuition, science, and sound to help clients reconnect with themselves and create lives that feel grounded, empowered, and aligned. Connect with Beth: https://kamiyahcoaching.com/ [https://kamiyahcoaching.com/] https://www.facebook.com/KamiyahCoaching [https://www.facebook.com/KamiyahCoaching] https://www.instagram.com/kamiyah_coaching/ [https://www.instagram.com/kamiyah_coaching/] Connect with Danielle: * Instagram: @inspiredactionwellness * Website: inspiredactionwellness.com [http://inspiredactionwellness.com] * Free resource: Feel safe in your body again at inspiredactionwellness.com/why-insight-isnt-enough [http://inspiredactionwellness.com/why-insight-isnt-enough] Resources: If you or someone you love is experiencing domestic violence, support is available. * National Domestic Violence Hotline: call 1-800-799-7233, text START to 88788, or chat at thehotline.org [http://thehotline.org] * 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline: call or text 988