Episode 4 - Lifting the lid on the masks we wear - satire, burnout and what lies beneath with Isabella GiaVulva
Episode 4 | Show Notes
In this episode Michelle and Max are joined by Isabella GiaVulva, self-described community engagement drag queen, participation consultant extraordinaire, and the performer behind the hit conference show Off Leash.
Through comedy, music and satire, Isabella holds a mirror up to the engagement sector: its jargon, its rituals, its contradictions and its very real human cost. Her signature show follows a fictional dog park consultation at Grayvale City Council, and if you've ever facilitated a community process, you'll recognise every single moment.
Timestamps
• 00:05 Welcome and acknowledgement of country
• 00:49 Introduction of Isabella GiaVulva
• 02:58 How Isabella came to exist / origin story
• 07:01 Why satire? What does it let you say that traditional engagement can't?
• 09:47 About Off Leash, the dog park consultation show
• 12:21 What engagement professionals have said after seeing the show
• 13:31 The emotional toll: aggressive engagement, burnout and mental health
• 17:12 Paul's Park song (begins)
• 22:23 Paul's Park song (plays in full)
• 26:39 Jack (the person behind Isabella) joins the conversation / the mask metaphor
• 32:00 It's not just practitioners who cry, clients and community too
• 33:17 The power of simple questions and the follow-up "why?"
• 35:03 What the sector gets wrong: KPIs, counting the wrong things
• 36:22 Storytelling vs data: reports nobody reads
• 38:41 Seeing yourself reflected in Isabella, the good days and the bad
• 40:30 Listening well vs feeding it back well
• 44:06 What's next: the redundancy show and improv classes for practitioners
• 49:21 How to find Isabella / wrap-up
• 49:46 Outro
What we cover in this episode:
• How Isabella came to exist, from Rocky Horror at age 10 to the "death slot" at an IAP2 Canada conference in Banff
• Why satire is such a powerful tool for unpacking the sector's messiest truths, the things you can't say in a case study
• The Off Leash show: what it is, how it was built on 40+ hours of interviews with practitioners, and why a fictional dog park became the perfect vehicle
• The emotional and mental health toll of engagement work, being yelled at, going home and crying, and why "being a good listener doesn't mean you're great at being yelled at"
• The mask practitioners put on, and what happens when it gets chipped away
• What the sector gets wrong: formulaic questions, decision-makers who've already made up their minds, and reports nobody reads past the executive summary
• The power of the simple follow-up question: why?
• What's next for Isabella: an online show about redundancy, and improv classes for engagement practitioners
The Paul's Park song, a deeply moving letter from a community member about the park where his late husband first kissed him. Bring tissues.
Links:
• Follow Isabella on LinkedIn : https://www.linkedin.com/in/isabellagiavulva/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/isabellagiavulva/]
• Follow Isabella on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/isabella_giavulva? [https://www.instagram.com/isabella_giavulva?]
• Email Michelle: michelle@domeengagement.com.au [michelle@domeengagement.com.au]
• Email Max: max@maxhardy.com.au [max@maxhardy.com.au]
• Navigating Tricky Interactions training - see show notes for contact details