50. Stef: Permission to exist

54. Beyond Release: Presence, Pleasure & Aliveness

What if intimacy isn’t only about release… but about presence? In this deeply personal episode of 34o, Henrik explores the difference between performance and connection, orgasm and pleasure, intensity and true presence. Why does modern life train us into acceleration? What happens to the nervous system when we finally slow down? Why can some moments of intimacy feel almost timeless? And why do some people begin to “glow” when they feel emotionally and physically alive? This episode explores: – Release vs presence – The nervous system and safety – Primal, mechanical, emotional & present sexuality – Why slowing down changes pleasure – Erotic energy as creativity and life force – Why intimacy can feel healing – The difference between intensity… and depth Not as a conversation about technique. But as a conversation about being human. Beyond Release is ultimately about what happens when we stop performing…and begin feeling. Stay open. Stay honest. Stay human.

53. Sexy after 50: Why Desire Goes Offline

What if the problem isn’t your desire… but your nervous system? In this episode of 34o – The Intimacy Podcast, Henrik sits down with therapist Julie Merriman, host of Sexy After 50, to explore the deeper connection between stress, safety, embodiment and desire. For many women, especially in midlife, loss of desire is often blamed on hormones, age or biology. What if the body isn’t broken? What if it’s protecting itself? This is a conversation about: • Why desire often shuts down under chronic stress • How shame and pressure disconnect people from their bodies • The nervous system’s role in intimacy and pleasure • Why numbness is often protection, not dysfunction • What happens to relationships when desire goes offline • And what it actually takes to feel alive again Julie shares insights from nearly 30 years of therapeutic work helping women reconnect with themselves, not through performance or pressure, but through safety, regulation and embodiment. Because maybe desire doesn’t disappear randomly. Maybe it responds to the environment we live in… and the body we’ve learned to survive in. 34o – The Intimacy Podcast Redefining love, trust & how we connect

52. From You, Outward: The Hidden Connection Between Self, Love & Society

What if the struggles you experience in yourself, in your relationships… and even in society… are not separate problems at all? In this episode of 34o, we break something down that is often made overly complex, in a simple, grounded way. No deep philosophy. No complex psychology. Just a clear look at how everything connects: * How your relationship with yourself shapes how you show up in love * Why relationships don’t fix you, they reveal you * How your emotional state affects the people around you * How all of this scales into something bigger: the nervous system of modern society Because society isn’t something “out there”. It’s built on individuals. On relationships. On connection. It all starts… with you. If something in this episode resonates, share it with someone who might need to hear it. 34o The Intimacy Podcast Exploring intimacy, relationships, and what makes us human. Stay honest. Stay present. Stay human.

51. What the Screen Never Teaches: A Script Without a Story

This is not an anti-porn episode. It’s about timing. About what happens when sexuality enters the human system before the human system is ready to hold it. A moment in southern Stockholm. Five boys, around eleven years old. A ping pong table. What was seen that morning stayed. Because those boys weren’t being bad. They were imitating. A script without a story. Porn is not new. But unlimited, algorithm-driven exposure reaching children before emotional maturity, that is new. This episode is not about shame or judgment. It’s about context, guidance and the conversation we keep avoiding. Because children don’t need silence. They need understanding. The opposite of shame is not freedom. It’s understanding. Curiosity isn’t the problem. Exposure without guidance is.

50. Stef: Permission to exist

What does it cost a person to spend decades not being allowed to exist as themselves? In this episode of 34o – The Intimacy Podcast, Henrik sits down with Stef, host of Together Moving Forward, to explore what it means to live in constant vigilance — and what it takes to come back from it. From an early age, Stef learned to adapt. To monitor his posture, his voice, his presence. Not as a choice. But as survival. Growing up outside what was considered “normal”, he faced daily bullying, isolation, and years of hiding. Over time, that vigilance moved from the mind into the body — shaping his health, his identity and his relationship to himself. This is a conversation about: • The cost of growing up feeling different • How shame and chronic stress live in the body • Self-harm, EMDR and the long road back to safety • The difference between confidence and permission • What happens to intimacy when we stop editing ourselves Today, Stef is back on the ice in his late fifties — not to perform, but to inhabit himself. His story is queer in context. But what he describes is deeply human. Because at the core of it all lies a simple shift: From performing who you are… to allowing yourself to exist. Redefining love, trust & how we connect