What do I do with my hands ?

How to Disagree Elegantly with “At the Same Time”

Disagreement doesn’t have to damage relationships or derail conversations. In this episode of Nine to Shine, we explore a simple, powerful phrase — “at the same time” — that allows you to express a different viewpoint without shutting the other person down. Learn how to disagree with confidence, maintain trust, and keep conversations collaborative rather than confrontational.

Pace Under Pressure

When pressure rises, pace speeds up. Not because we lack confidence — but because the nervous system mobilises. In this episode of 9toShine, we explore how to work with pace rather than fight it — and how to choose when speed serves clarity, and when it destroys it. This is not about speaking slower. It’s about punctuating meaning. You’ll learn: * Why pace accelerates under pressure (and why it’s not a flaw) * The difference between gliding and grounding your message * When storytelling benefits from speed — and when data demands slowness * A practical tool to regulate pace in real time * How silence completes a sentence rather than weakens it

Deep Listening

Deep listening isn’t about being quiet. It’s about being present enough to change the conversation. In this episode of 9toShine, we explore why listening often collapses under pressure — and how to rebuild it as a practical, learnable skill rather than a personality trait. This is not about fixing, advising, or agreeing. It’s about regulating attention so others feel genuinely heard. Deep listening starts by noticing — and interrupting — those habits. You’ll be guided through a short, practical listening practice designed to be used in real conversations. game changer.

What do I do with my hands ?

In this episode of 9toShine, we explore why so many capable professionals struggle with their hands when they speak — and how small, unconscious movements can dilute an otherwise clear message. This isn’t about confidence. It’s about nervous system energy and how the body releases it. You’ll learn: * Why fidgeting, over-gesturing, or hiding your hands is a biological response — not a personal flaw * How unnecessary hand movement creates cognitive noise for your audience * Shakespeare’s enduring advice: “Suit the action to the word, the word to the action” * A simple physical tool to build calm, credible presence without becoming stiff

The 3 C's with special guest Jools Montague

Negative thoughts can hijack our confidence, decisions, and energy — often without us even noticing. In this episode, we break down a simple yet powerful mindset tool you can use in the moment to interrupt unhelpful thinking and regain control. The 3 Cs — Catch it, Check it, Change it — offer a practical framework to pause, challenge, and reframe negative self-talk so it no longer runs the show. Whether you’re leading others, navigating stress, or just stuck in your own head, this technique helps you shift perspective fast.