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Limerence (Ep.23)

31 min · 19 de may de 2026
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What’s the difference between being open to love… and getting swept up in something that isn’t grounded in reality? This week, we unpack a listener letter about a friend who falls hard and fast—every time. She calls herself a hopeless romantic, but her pattern raises a deeper question: when does optimism cross into limerence, and how is that connected to anxious attachment? In this episode, Kenzie & Carli explore why intense early feelings can feel so real, how the brain fills in emotional gaps, and how “seeing the best in people” can sometimes mask a deeper need for reassurance. We also get into the tricky part: what do you do when you see this pattern in someone you care about? How do you bring it up without sounding judgmental—or pushing them away? Tune in for a nuanced conversation about love, attachment, and the fine line between hope and overwhelm. Have a question? Email us at info@askatherapistpod.com, use the link below, or DM us on IG or TikTok at @askatherapist_pod Submit Your Question Here! [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSdKJUY5M6pgr7Y6TkUK9InxKqfVo4ExGNkTEeGQPXsinjCWwA/viewform] Find Kenzie at therapy-with-kenzie.com [https://www.therapy-with-kenzie.com/] or @therapywithkenzie Find Carli at carlikingtherapy.com [https://www.carlikingtherapy.com/] or @carlikinglmft

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